My girlfriend's hot friend was trying to seduce me..and it was all a trap?

[Anonymous]

i'm dating a girl named amy who has a really hot friend named stephanie. amy and i have been together for a few months now and recently her friend stephanie, who is ridiculously hot, i'm talking 11 on a scale of 1-10 hot, has been putting the moves on me. i suppose that if i didn't genuinely like amy and want to be with her i would have maybe done something, but i didn't. well, amy told me just yesterday that stephanie trying to seduce me was a "test" for me, and that i passed. i suppose i should be happy, but i'm not, because one question remains. what kind of f-cked up sh-t is that to do to your boyfriend?

[sexwiseman]

hahahahahahaaahah! damn right man! What type of fcked up sh!tz is that?

This happened to a friend of mine way back in college and like you, he was happy at first, but then he realized that it was really messed up cause he didn't put the girl thru any test. However, on the positive side, now you can go get another girl and your girlfriend will know for sure that you wouldn't do such a thing. :P

Seriously, this comes down to a trust issue; your girlfriend doesn't trust you enough she had to put you thru a test. Granted, given that so many guys out there are cheaters, then you can say, well, I understand my gf's perspective and I don't blame her. Since I'm no cheater, I'm glad I passed. However, you can also look at it as a low life thing to do, and like my friend did, break up with the girl because as my friend told me, he was always resentful about the situation and was always thinking of how to pay back, so he just broke it off, and that was his payback.

If you really like the girl and you think she is worth it, then stay and demand some royale loving! :D

[AJtogo]

Before I finished reading your story it leaped into my mind that your girlfriend was testing you. I read the rest and you confirmed it.

Now another thing jumps into my mind. I completely agree that this "testing" thing is messed up. However, (and I'm assuming that Amy is hot too) Amy is a typical girl who is unsure of herself and where you "really" stand with her. Her girlfriend is way hot and can have anyone she wants. I know it's messed up, but hey guy, I don't know how you did it, but you passed an ultimate test. In Amy's eyes, if you won't cheat with Stephanie then you won't cheat with anyone. You have now got a clear pass.

OK. So you have a choice now. Stay with Amy and have fun or get all bent out of shape that she tested you and dump her.

[briekittie]

girls do this kinda thing all the time. I for one am obviously a girl. She may be a little insecure with her emotions and she was testing you to see how loyal you are to her. Because she felt she may have needed to see if you were in a sistuation would you cheat on her. Trust me I did it to my boyfriend . Except I made a fake myspace page with a hot girl and started to try flirting with him but then he said to I have a girlfriend and I'm not looking for anyone else. It gave me a confined feeling that made me believe he would never cheat on me and that he truly likes and wants to be with me and that he's not just with me because of my looks maybe she wanted that

Don't think of it as a bad thing you passed the test!

[Asker]

Actually now that I've been put through it I'm the one who feels like I can't trust her. How do I know that what I'm going thru right now or sometime in the future isn't another test? It may seem like a test to you but to me it's all mind games.

[briekittie]

I only did it one time maybe she has trust issues because of past rellashionships. I don't think she would do it again maybe you should tell her how you feel.

[ALWAYSclassy]

I will admit I have done that before. I was really insecure and didn't trust any guy after a few bad experiences. I can understand you being hurt but that's where she is coming from, she probably didn't mean to be malicious, she just didn't want to get hurt. Now she feels like she can really trust you and feel safe because you "passed" the test. I don't think she would do it again but you should talk with her about it anyway.

[Shlei3]

It's very messed up. I would talk to her about it and mention that tests are not a good way of trying to find out if you are going to be true. If she doesn't understand that and she gets mad than oh well. If she would "test" you on that what else is she going to test you on. Relationships are risks and they are journeys not freaking destinations. You are damn right to be mad about it. I don't blame you at all.

[cacopuff]

WOW! That is really crazy sh*t, your girlfriend doesn't desreve you if she thinks that she needs to put you through a test. No one should ever do that to someone they care about and that sounds like she have trust issuses. Maybe you should put her through a test to see if she past, something that she wouldn't expect.

[swthrt1231]

someone who doesn't trust men in general and you got punished for it.

[Chrystinax]

Ugh. One of my brothers girlfriends did that to him once. It was a real b*tchy thing to do.

She was just very insecure about herself. I hate girls so much sometimes! lol.

[tex151]

Good thing you didn't give in, yes that is a major trap, and if you would have even tried to make a move on her friend her attitude towards you would have changed drastically, I doubt she would have sex with you, but she would probably say you failed and then walked out the door, with you wondering what the hell. And then you would have gotten a call from your girlfriend saying it's over you would have cheated on me. If it seems to good to be true it is. Women pull that crap to see if you will cheat and good thing you didn't cause now she has trust in you.

[l-hedoniste]

Mind games? Bad news. It gets worse over time. Leave.

[Anonymous]

That is bang out of order, but the fact is she is seeing if she can trust you. You need to talk to her about it she may have had a bad experience in the past.