I'm 27 and still a virgin...What do guys think of this? How would you feel in regards to me?

[Anonymous]

For starters,i was a late bloomer in my high school years. I didn't really start dating until I was about 20. Talk about inexperienced,I knew I wasn't ready to have sex,and the guys I would go out with were more than ready to. So...it just never happened. I am not a homely person,I am personable,the full nine.But I just can see myself giving my virginity up on a whim to some random guy who will probably just leave and never call me again. I've told guys in the past that I was a virgin and they either run for the hills,or become fascinated,praise me for it,then they try to de-virginize me (by a whole lot of sweet talking which doesn't really go anywhere) ...which has never happened...obviously. I'm curious as to what guys truly feel and think when a girl my age is still a virgin? Would you run away?What is your take on it? Would you be afraid to get involved with me? I'm looking for blunt,honest and mature answers please. I can say,that I am super happy that I don't have any STDs...But I would love a real relationship.:/

[dave216]

I wouldn't waste a second on you. At your age, still virgin, the prospect of you changing your mind about sex is so slim that no guy would waste the time. I advise you to keep your virginal status to yourself, at least until you are naked in bed with the guy.

I understand how young girls fall for that old save yourself line, but at your age? Why have you not started thinking for yourself yet? Why do you choose to forgo a very wonderful part of life? Read the posts from girls on this site who waited years for Mr. Right, almost every one of them says they were stupid to do it. They wasted the best years of life.

It is your pussy. Use it or let it grow shut, doesn't matter to me, but it seems a shame to carry it around all those years and not get any benefit from it. I certainly hope you have been masturbating like a fiend, or it may not even work any more. You know what they say, use it or lose it. It could be that by now your clit has shriveled up to be nothing more than atrophied tissue incapable of being stimulated.

[Asker]

That's good to know you wouldn't be bothered with me.I wish some guys were more honest like you. I think for myself,and I'm sure it's the right decision for me. Everything else you're saying is rubbish,moreso attacking. I would have further entertained your point of view if you didn't sound like an immature teen ranting in a basement glorifying his penis and trying to look macho in front of his friends.For some reason,i see that scenario..anyway are you,are you BluewingeDangles bf?Nice to meet u

[Musclecarman]

Hmm.

[Dragonblood21]

I wouldn't think much of it. When it comes to sex, my feelings are based on the way the girl feels about sex, not if she is a virgin or not. I like sex to be romantic, and loving. It doesn't interest me with someone I don't feel like I love. Being a virgin or not, the girl feeling similar is the key thing that I like.

Not to put you down in anyway, because there is nothing wrong with being like this, but how you can just see yourself "giving your virginity up on a whim to some random guy who will probably just leave and never call you again" is the part that would turn me off, because I am virgin myself and feel totally not like that at all. I state again, there is nothing really wrong with thinking like that, so don't think there is. But for me personally, virgin or not, that would cause me to turn the other way.

[Asker]

Sorry I made an error by leaving out the word "dont"...i don't see myself giving it up on a whim.

[Dragonblood21]

OH! that changes a lot! hahahaha! Oh wow, I just totally explained something was 100% pointless. But it's okay, it happens to the best of us ^-^

[Asker]

Lol! Yeah sorry..:)

[Anonymous]

It's a bit odd but everyone is different :) if you are happy having no sex life then that's fine. I lost my virginity at a later age (I was 20). I don't think I would have wanted to wait any longer though. Sex is an important part of being a human, it feels good and it's even good for your health (look it up and see the list of benefits sex has) sure it can have some bad consequence's too but if you have safe sex then you will be fine (do it with someone you are in a relationship with, test for stds, and use condoms) I don't really see the point in waiting until marriage (but everyone has their own opinions) What if you never get married? You would have missed out on a wonderful, natural thing about being a human, just because you don't have a husband.

[Asker]

I hear your point,thanks for responding.:) Sex does seem great but I'm getting away with being "the master of my domain" for now...and I'm fine with that...until...im not. We can play the "what if" game for everything in life...hence me choosing to wait it out."What if I do wait longer"?"What if I do get married"? What if? Yeah,i know about STDs,protection etc. I always bring up STDs because I'm kind of a pyscho about good health. I like taking chances and I have faith...so I will wait.:)

[Opinion Owner]

Ok well whatever your happy with :) good luck! I hope you realize that just because you get married dosn't mean you will be with that man forever... sex is one of the biggest reasons for divorce these days. You may not be sexually compatible... which may not sound that important, but it is.

[Asker]

Thanks...and I hear ya.Im aware the divorce rate in the U.S is at about 65 percent.It wouldn't be surprised if it went up a bit either. I'm plenty of ways,im a realist,so I have thought about what you've mentioned.I don't dwell on it though.Its not an overwhelming fear. I use the law of attraction and it hasn't failed me yet.I believe things will happen when it's suppose to.:) Part of the law of attraction is being specifi about what you are looking for in another individual...

[Asker]

I know I may sound as though I'm living on another planet,but I take in to account my life experiences,things I've seen,experienced and know.Im sure many think it's ludicrous,but...im sure it will be fine.I don't feel like I'm missing out on so much...maybe it's just me. But thanks for your response.:)

[Anonymous]

im also a virgin at 27, but i have always been open to the possibility of sex, mostly because my friends have no inhibitions (to the point were they make fun of me saying things like im missing out, or that they will take the job and help me lose it, etc.), and there have been many opportunities for it to happen, and unlike you i have not been waiting for mister right (as i dont believe he exists) or religion.
With that in mind, i believe that you should just look for someone how wants to wait until you are ready to have sex, there are many guys who dont mind if you are or not a virgin, and who have the same goal as you (a permanent relationship).

[Beautee]

I am sure you will find a right guy that will want a relationship with you. I don't think there is anything bad about your situation, so just do whatever feels right for you.

[Asker]

Thanks for commenting.:) As for now,im just putting positive energy out into the universe for that person. I believe in the law of attraction so...im patiently waiting for him. Sometimes impatiently waiting...:*)

[Beautee]

See the difference between you and other girls, they are waiting and "trying" guys around, but you truly wait. Don'r be impatient, things will work out the way they should.

[Asker]

Thanks for the encouragement.:)

[bluewingedangel828]

i feel sorry for you. I mean sex is great! sure you should love the guy your with if your gonna have sex but you can't go in it thinking "oh were gonna f*** now he is gonna leave me!". cause chances are he wouldn't leave you cause he f***ed you he would leave casue you treat him like he is some pig you don't trust.

[bluewingedangel828]

cause*

[Asker]

That's fine if you feel sorry for me. However,im not naive. Meaning,i don't walk around treating guys like they are scum or that I can't trust them.I am highly intuitive usually to what someone wants from me because I watch and listen.With that said,i was referring to guys I have dealt with in the past and their failure at trying to persuade me to change my mind concerning giving up the Vcard. I've heard everything imaginable so...I'm careful,not completely distrustful. And I think that's smart.

[bluewingedangel828]

yes and if your so intuitive don't you think you should have found Mr right to f*** by now? that's how I found mine I always judge with feelings not anything else and felt right with him. I mean older you get and being a virgin guys think OK what's wrong with this chick.

[Asker]

Also...yeah..maybe sex is great...but I think other things hold a greater importance to me like having a connection with the individual and being in love with them.My body is a temple and I sure don't see myself casting my jewels before swine.(Thats a biblical scripture I picked up,i think it sounds cool.):) It just means to respect your body.Ive done that,and I'm happy that I'm not part of the 90 percent that has herpes. *(Not that sex is the only way of getting it)...but thanks 4 your response

[bluewingedangel828]

sex is a way of having a connection and that deeper love and although you can get STD's from sex not everyone who has sex has them. Plus your body can still be a temple even if you have sex because its out of love and that deepest most inner connection with someone. I don't have sex to just be all wooohooo we f*** party! no I do it to express love on a deeper level. so maybe you should consider it.

[Asker]

Yeah...i am intuitive. I have no idea why your responses are so b*tchy and catty. The question is more so directed towards the guys because they are my preference...not YOU.I actually don't want to be like you at all...i don't need to have sex with every guy(s) just because I have a "feeling". I think further than the moment in front of me..i use my brain. It's the difference of being smart and stupid. Not all guys think as you said.Maybe you had to sleep around...but I don't...and won't.

[bluewingedangel828]

yeah obviously your intuitive thing sucks cause thoughs remarks werent bitchy at all. and no I haven't had to sleep around to find out these things I've only ever had sex with one guy my fiance thank you very much. and maybe that's why your still a virgin to much of a stuck up bitch. calm the tude down a bit and maybe you could actually have a chance at gettign some. which is obviously what you want or you wouldn't be posting this sh*t.

[Asker]

I don't really need lectures on what love is or even STDs. I'm educated concerning both,however I think our idea of "treating your body as a temple" is quite different and that is just fine. I choose to wait. I'm not ashamed of waiting. I have something the majority doesn't really understand,agree with or even support. And that's fine. However,i wanted to hear what guys think...sort of out loud.

[bluewingedangel828]

well with that attitude your going to be a forever virgin.

[Asker]

Yeah I don't really have a "tude" I'm just calling you out on your condescending responses.And I did give you a thumbs down. I would have preffered having more responses from the gents,than wasting my time sparring with you. Calm down,you sound as though you are yelling and your lashing out is flat out ignorant behavior. So I think I'm done talking to you because you fail to conduct intelligent responses regardless of your opinion. You should be happy...Im using and trusting my..."feelings".

[SoberIrishman]

if a girl is a virgin or not I really wouldn't care. I am just not a wait until marriage type of guy, hell I don't even think I believe in marriage at this point. Virginity doesn't scare me away, but sex has to happen at some point within the first 8 months or I am out the door.

[Asker]

Thankyou for commenting. I don't know who disagreed with your answer.Youre honest and I respect that.

[frustratedchump06]

glad I'm not alone

[baloo4000]

just ignore for a while that you are a virgin. nobody needs to know that first of all.

you will find some one, maybe this is the one get married to and lose you virginity in the special honeymoon night. who knows.

take your time and the right things will happened. nobody runs away when they have a working brain. don't worry

[Asker]

Thankyou for giving insight. Yeah,i don't walk around blasting that I'm a virgin,but it has come up before and I was honest about with whomever I was seeing at the time. They either run or stay. I do want to get married and I will. So,i think I am a wait till I get married kind of girl. When people respond to these types of questions,they don't take in to account the upbringing of the individual OR possible life altering moments that have drawn them to make such a decision.

[Asker]

I on the other hand,(a fan of psychology)have arrived at a couple of truths in regards to my decision.Part of it being that growing up,i didn't really have any relationships to model myself after. No one had such a successful relationship that wanted to replicate.I think this had an impact on me far beyond what I realized at the time. There are women in my family who are miserable and married.They are married just to say they are...and then never have sex.Oh the irony. IMP: Finding the right one

[baloo4000]

dont get me wrong I was not thinking you go out and say by the way i`m a virgin. i meant there a people the could not handle it, if they hear that and they are not honest. i think you do the right thing

[socalgamehater2006]

i'm 23 and still a virgin

[Keyspirits]

Oh man, i want a gurl like u so bad in ma world who are saving themself for someone like meh! U should be proud of it! Ur the kinda gurl that ill marry for the rest of ma life.

[defytraditiongirl]

most guys would respect you

[DanHendo]

I would love and cheerish you. Hard to find another virgin these days.

[Asker]

Thanks for your answer,so we are playing the same field?Ha! Do you find things difficult?What are reasons behind you waiting?

[DanHendo]

Haven't found the right girl. Plus I'm kinda busy with training which leaves me with little time. However I have a date this Saturday so we'll see what happends

[DanHendo]

Whoever rated me down is dumb

[Asker]

sorry someome rated you down...but it's just cyberland.Dont take it to seriously.:) But Good luck on your date! :)

[DanHendo]

Thanks! :-) are you like a pure virgin as in you haven't engaged in oral and such

[Asker]

yes sir!I haven't done anything...:)

[DanHendo]

Where are you. We need to go out.:-) hard as hell to find a girl that hasn't done anything especially at 19

[Asker]

I felt the same way when I was 19.But it's okay,someone will come along.:)

[DanHendo]

And I would hope they are pure.

[Asker]

Hopefully,but if they aren't?...

[DanHendo]

I don't know. I would honestly prefer a virgin. Do you think its shallow that I want another virgin?

[Asker]

If that's your preference...then that's your preference.But our kind is few and far between as it is.Just be mindful of that. And as you can see by some of the responses on here that the older someone gets,peoples ideas of that person seems to change. I'm a realist somewhat,but also an optimist...just keep looking.Thats all I can really say you know.And I hope your patience is in tact because you are going to need it.:)...ha...me too!

[DanHendo]

Ive been paticent for 19 years so that shouldn't be a problem

[Asker]

Then keep it going.:)

[DanHendo]

No problemo :-)

[Ramses]

Hey what's up my name is Harvey,

I am a guy and I can tell you that most of the guys would love to be with a virgin girl.

Virgin girl for us means serious, free STDs, a girl who doesn't sleep around.

[imen80]

I guess you need to find a virgin guy as well.who is waiting for the right person and the right time.

To me it is a very good thing if the girl is virgin if we are thinking about marriage.

sometimes I wish that I had never been in any kind of physical relation with any girl ((try to had once but it did not work)) hope she would not mind me were naughty b4

if the girl is virgin . I will start to work in wining her hart so we can be together..

what your female friends and girls in your family think about it?

I liked your reply to (bluewingedangel828) :-)

[Asker]

Hi.:) Thanks for responding.:) The women who know in my family respect it.My grandmum respects it because she has her first child at 16. I grew up hearing her tell me repeatedly,"Dont get pregnant.Get your education,establish yourself first." Seemingly this stuck...for a while.:) I don't really have many girl friends,maybe three...and they think it's fine. My guy friends don't really know,so they are all about if ya see a guy you like,pounce on him.No regrets...

[Asker]

Of course I don't feel the way they do,so I usually just don't comment on it. I'm thinking my grandmum who raised me had a lot to do with this...hmmm?Im grateful that she was so protective as to give a word of caution because no one taught her how to "be careful". And thanks,just had to put ( ignoramus828) in check. Some people have no class. :/

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy and your story is really not that different from mine. There are plenty of guys who are virgins as well. I'm 27 years old, and I don't even know how to be a part of society anymore. All I ever think about is how I've lived for this long already and haven't been intimate with a woman. I feel like I can't go on with my life until I have.

[Anonymous]

I would feel pretty bad for a girl if I found out she was a virgin at 27 and I would also have a hard time believing her.

[Asker]

Thanks for responding.:) Why would you feel bad for her? Why would you be skeptical? Do you not believe it's possible that there are people who don't do what the majority is doing?

[chico]

After reading post and her responses, I am pretty clear why she is still a virgin.

[Opinion Owner]

I would feel pretty bad for her because sex is a very important and fun part of life, to go 27 years without having it seems like you've miss out on a lot. The reason I wouldn't believe her at first is because I've never heard of a girl still being a virgin anywhere near that age.

[Asker]

Fair enough.But now you know that we do exist.:)