Do you want us to "return the favor?"

16 years old, have a boyfriend of 3 months! He's great, and up until yesterday we've never gone past making out. But last night he fingered me, and man did I enjoy it! Afterwards he kinda seemed like he was waiting for something or anticipating something. Was he waiting for me to kinda return the favor? or what?! My next question, I've never given a guy a hand job or head, and I really don't want to give head yet, and probably not for a long time yet. just because I'm kinda weirded out by the penis being in my mouth idea. But I'd give a hand job if I actually knew what I was doing. It sounds easy enough, just handling him and stroking or whatever but I have no idea how to even get to the whole handling part. Sounds awkward even when typing this. How do I give a comfortable, enjoyable handjob? how do I start?
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  • wow. uhhh. to be completely honest with you. I SUCK at handjobs. blowjobs are so much easier in my opinion, especially for your first time. its all in the tongue movement and swirling it around their head but handjobs. ha ha I wouldn't recommend trying that one but you may have better luck than me. I actually hurt my boyfriend when I gave him one and my friend had to tell me what to do the whole time so I just gave up on it. but you should do whatever your comfortable with and just remember that he appreciates your effort even if your not a pro. hav fun

  • first only do what your comfortable with doing don't feel pressured some guys may make you feel like your obigated to. I know how you a feeling we all start out like this when we first sexual experence. its pretty easy its kinda like shaking a bottle up and down but in a gentle way most guys will usually take your hand and guide it to what they like. just do it when your ready though well maybe if he ever fingers you again maybe you can do it then I don't know if I should say this but er

  • I agree with tami5 that blow jobs are a lot easier. The problem with hand jobs is that guys can give that to themselves and they'll always be better than you at it. With a blow job you're thrilling them with something they can't do, and even if you're not that great they are grateful. Plus I think guys just come a lot easier from oral stimulation that from our hands.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I Know A lot Of The Girls Have Said Blow Jobs Are Easier And Guys Could Just Handjob Themselves But I Prefer Handjobs To Blow Jobs, Blow Jobs Are Overrated...

    But Yea He Probably Expects It In Return, Personally I Don't And Definitely Not When I'm Trying To Make Her Come Cause That Makes Everything Tougher lol But If You're Not Comfortable Just Don't Do It

  • he's probably waiting for you to show a bit more intimacy.quite normal and expected

    handjob tips:

    1. stroke the balls while you do it

    2. talk dirty/lovingly

    3. if ur not happy doing it just tell him that ur not ready for it yet

    4. make sure ur not hurting him in anyway

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  • You just kind of hold and go up and down pretty fast. And use some type of lube (preferably mouth juice) it makes it easier. The bj thing isn't that bad actually. You should at least try it. If you don't like it.then you don't have to do it.

  • gosh every guy is different.i'm bad at advise like this but I'd ask him to show you how he does it.

  • grab his legs, tease him a lot beforehand.make him want it badly

    and then, unzip him/ pull his shorts down.

    then start slow, and make sure you wrap your hand around him completely, act like you're trying to make a fist around him basically. and grab tight enough so that the skin that you're holding moves WITH YOUR HAND when you move up and down.

    this doesn't hurt him at all, it feels better

    then if he likes it, gradually go faster and faster.

  • I'd say let him tell you. Most guys would and I doubt he's gunna make a huge deal if you don't do it the "perfect" way he wants you to if you've never done that before.