What can I do since I hate being on top?

[meloraleilani]

I'm sexually active with my boyfriend and we have what I consider a fairly healthy sex life and relationship. Despite all that, I hate having sex whenever I'm on top. For me, it doesn't feel good at all. Not only do I feel super awkward, but the position itself isn't pleasing to me. I know guys love it when a girl is on top, so I try to do it for him...but I really hate it. Especially because he doesn't really like it when I just kneel like usual girl on top. He likes the "Asian cowgirl" position. Honestly, I don't have strong legs at all so this position tires me out. What's worse (at least in this case) is that he takes forever to cum. I'll try to keep going but I just get exhausted and have to pause often after awhile, which I know is frustrating for him. He also can't seem to get off unless we're going really fast and I just can not move fast enough for him no matter how hard I try. He always ends up thrusting upward while I'm on top which really throws me off of the pace that I set and then I just get confused. It's very discouraging because whenever I do try to be on top for him, he always ends up just moving me to the bottom because I'm not going fast enough/am off beat or something. Needless to say, I am wicked awkward and need some help with what to do with this situation. It isn't like I can really practice on my own or something. Is it that awful if I just don't do it with me on top? I actually prefer not being in charge during sex anyway, I like being dominated better since I'm in control every other time of the day. Maybe some of it is a mental thing on my part? Any honest and preferably non-rude advice is welcome. :)

[TiltedQueen]

Ugh I 100% feel you girl, I HATE being on top. I'm not the smallest lady so for me a big part of it is awkwardness/self-consciousness. Other than that being on top just doesn't feel that great anyway, especcially for subs :(

Tip though, I've figured out that if I lean forward and support my weight on my guy's chest or the bed, that I can go significantly faster (though not for very long). It's not exactly the most attractive thing in the world but the speed suffices and you can distract him with your breasts closer to his face like that.

All I can say is you just kinda have to take one for the team now and then and put up with being on top. But your guy also needs to understand that you're not a porn star so obv you're not gonna be able to flash bounce. This is real life! He's gotta help you a little bit somehow.

[mooglelove]

lol you are funny. I have the same problem, we've kinda just given up on cowgirl in general but when I am on top he's doing the thrusting upward thing as well. I could NEVER match the speed at which he goes during this, esp. when he's about to shoot. it's crazy! I mean I'm fit and everything but damn doing all that while kneeling is really tough.

[Anonymous]

One of the problems of missionary is our holding our weight up so we don't crush you.

Modifying that to legs up so we place out weight on the backs of your thighs helps this. We can relax more and drive deeper. I am a fan of conventional Cowgirl. She just moves her hips randomly back and forth, side to side, and I'm off! And I can hold her by her hips and move her around to my pleasure and reduced effort to her.

[13seth]

You could either keep practicing, or tell him you don't like being on top. I like when a girls on top sometimes because its different, but I think it feels the best when I am on top and can control the speed, pressure, body contact etc. Its not a horrible thing that you don't like being on top. If he really likes it, just do it once in a while.

[ThaT_eMo_kiD]

just tell him, he'll understand