Do women really have no sense of justice and fairness?

[Anonymous]

I think that sex is an important part of a relationship. My girlfriend doesn't care that much about sex, she rarely wants to have it. I don't have a problem with that, and I never force her to have sex when she doesn't want to. A simple no and I'll not metion it anymore for the whole day. However, she thinks that cuddling, kissing etc. is an important part of a relationship. I don't care that much about all that and I rarely want to do those things. Instead of respecting my unwillingness to do that, just like I respect her unwillingness to have sex, she constantly complains how I never hold her, how she needs all that in order to feel loved and cared about, and that of course leads to arguments in which I'm to blame for everything. I just don't get it how she can be so hypocritical. I tried to explain to her the obvious parallel between the two situations, but to no avail. I even told her that cuddling and kissing makes me want to have sex even more, so that satisfying her needs only makes my needs even more unsatisfied. Again, nothing. I know I should just find someone who is more compatible with me, that's not the question. The question is: women, where is your sense of justice and fairness? Do you ever consider principles instead of your own interests?

[tex151]

You make perfect logical sense, but keep in mind women are not logical they're emotional. So with that being said, you have look at it from her perspective and I know to us men it makes no damn sense but to women it does just trust me on this one.

Ok women need to feel comfort and loved in order to be in a healthy sexual relationship, and men don't, but if you were to look at this situation from her perspective, you would understand why she doesn't want to have sex with you. The reason why is because in her mind it is a trade off, and if she doesn't have sex with you, you won't cuddle with her, so she thinks that you only want her for sex and that is why she constantly complains you never show affection for her.

So here is what you do, show her that you care for her by kissing her, cuddling, complimenting how great and how pretty she is, and once she feels that your not just using her for sex and you actually care about her, sex won't be an uphill battle, in fact it won't be a battle at all, it won't even be a question. Now it won't happen over night women are smarter then you think, this has to be something constant, to where she goes wow he really changed, and he really cares about me.

When in doubt think like a chick emotion not logic.

[selfishstars]

Women are illogical and men don't need to feel comfort or love. Good to know.

[tex151]

Yes guys can have sex with a girl and have no feelings for her, but most women unless they're a slut won't have sex with a guy unless she feelings for him. Yes women are emotional and men are logical what part don't you get?

[l-hedoniste]

"I know I should just find someone who is more compatible with me, that's not the question."

Actually it is.

You see, girls who demand kissing and cuddling from their boyfriend while refusing to have sex with them are usually straightforwardly dumped. After brisk, repeated dumpings over an issue, it may lead her to rethink her position.

You, however, are rewarding her bad behavior. She gets everything she wants, while giving nothing she doesn't want to give. Why would she change, when she can have the relationship *exactly* on her terms.

Justice and fairness sounds like this: "This is bullsh*t. I'm outta here." But you have to be just and fair to yourself first.

[slipslender]

I totally understand your point of view. If she's unwilling to have sex, she can't complain if you're not that interested in cuddling her... and you're right, you should definitely find someone more compatible... so where's my sense of justice and fairness? trust me, it's there. lol. I think your girlfriend is simply an unusual case.

[Anonymous]

What a funny post. You are adorable.

Women are just as likely to be fair and just as men. It's just Your Woman who has the current lack of the desired qualities.

[anonymous1422]

We, as an entire gender, lack justice and fairness. We don't consider principles and are entirely selfish. That's us!

[selfishstars]

Since when are all women responsible for the way that your girlfriend acts?

[Killfest400]

Sounds like your girlfriend is selfish, and you need a new one that's more compatible. If you're the one to blame for everything, then solve all of her problems by leaving.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

... your girlfriend is kind of cheesy what a cliche, if it's not working out just leave her instead of blaming women in general for her lack of a sex drive.

[Anonymous]

I can see your point but it's not just a woman thing.

[Anonymous]

I'm fair. I won't force a guy to do something or feel like he has to do something if he really doesn't want to and I expect the same in return from him. I always consider the way someone else feels about something.