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How Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's HORRIBLE At Going Down on Me, & How Can He Improve?

Hey everybody, I have a problem with my boyfriend that I could use some advice on. Also, WARNING: EXPLICIT CONTENT AHEAD. Okay, so my boyfriend thinks he's really talented at eating girls out and always talks about how much his ex's loved getting head from him, but I beg to differ. Of all the times he's done down on me, I've never came, and don't even come close to climaxing. I try to tell him that I'm not in the mood for oral or that I just don't like it in general, but he really loves to eat me out and wans to do it almost every day, so there's only so many times I can avoid it. He uses way too much teeth, and just kind of bites me while I fake it. I've tried to tell him gently that he's not good at this, or give him suggestions on how he can improve, but he doesn't get the hint, never gets any better, and insists all his exes liked it and thinks he's the best in the world at eating girls out. How can he get better at this and actually give me an orgasm, and how do I tell him this so he'll listen? Thanks!
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Also, I've never had anyone else give me head so I don't know when someone's doing a good job, and have only had an orgasm a few times with my vibrator.
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  • I'd probably say you should talk with him too. He's being overconfident and not paying attention to your cues, and it doesn't help the situation if you just pretend to like it, because he won't realize there's a problem.

    You know someone's doing a good job when it feels good. I personally was never one for practicing on myself, it never really interested me, so my boyfriend was really all the practice I ever had in learning what feels good for me. You just have to not be afraid to give him some direction and he has to be willing to get to know what works for YOU. You are not every other girl he's been with, and he needs to understand that. Every girl needs something different when it comes to head, it can even vary from day to day, so the best thing he can do is pay attention to everything you do and what it means. I push softly on my boyfriend's head when he's going too fast and he's learned the meaning of it. It's little things like that that will help you guys communicate in the moment.

    • thanks! really good advice

  • sounds like you tried everything anyone would advise you to first do.. I think you'll have to sit down and say it without being nice anymore lol.. "hey babe, we need to talk about something. you suck down there. really." hopefully that actually gets him to listen

  • You have to know what you like and prefer before he can know. Figure out what you like, then show him.

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  • "I've tried to tell him gently that he's not good at this, or give him suggestions on how he can improve"

    Time for plan B; The Showstopper.

    Next time he bites you, stop. Stop the show. Turn on the lights, get out of bed, stop everything.

    Tell him that the biting is really turning you off and it HAS to stop, or you can't let him eat you out anymore. You are not his ex. You don't have to like what they like.

    BTW, if you watch p*rn for lesbians, you'll sometime see girls getting oral and a vibrator at the same time. Could be an option for you.

  • teach him how to make it squirt. I can make them all squirt. think spiderman hand like he's gonna shoot his web. feel around when it wets up pound it till your are falls off on she gets off. mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm thank you thank you I know lolol get at the G

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  • Just be like "ouch, the teeth wtf?" and he'll adjust. Challenge him to write the alphabet with his tongue (no teeth!) Or you could just use your teeth when you go down on him and see what his reaction is, then use that same reaction when he goes down on you.

  • Stop "faking it". You're giving him mixed signals by faking that you like it while telling him to do things differently. Stop mixing the signals and only act like you like it when he's doing stuff you like.

  • Well, I see you've already got a 'best answer'...

    ...but did you consider doing more of a "tell" than an "ask"? Tie him to the bed, straddle his face, and tell him you're going to train him out to eat you... you'll have has much control as you want, and you can always squeeze his certain parts if he isn't responding to your commands...

    ..but maybe that's just my fantasy... ;)

    • hahahaha, that's not a bad idea ;)...straight to the point, no beating around the bush (oh wait, I don't have one :)! LOL)

    • Well, it's probably just my submissive nature, but I'd be very glad to be trained in such a manner myself...

  • dont tell him he sucks just moan when it feels good and push your sh*t in his face he will get it, when it feels good say don't stop or something don't just say you suck at eating vag

  • watch some videos with him so he knows how to do it. Using teeth? wtf?

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