Stripper gave me her number...please help

[georgewc2001]

She saw me watching her and asked if I wanted a two for one lapdance. She gave me the most INSANE lap dance I've ever had...I mean full contact. She was going on and on about how hot I was and, of course, I thought it was an act. Then, she offered her number and said she wanted to hang out outside of work in a non-business setting and wanted to f*** me. Here's the thing, I'm married and she knew this. She said "you're married, right?" Here's where I f***ed up cause I told her I'd been faithful for ten years (which is true), and she was like "oh I can't do that" but she gave me her number anyway. So, I texted her later that night with my number and said let's hang out sometime. She said mos def. So this was while I was on a ski trip, so I happened to be going back up skiing the following weekend, so I texted her and she said she would be around to meet up. I texted her when I got up there she said she was working but would hit me up the next day, but she never did...what now? This girl is super hot and sexy. She put some kinda spell on me. I thought I would be safe in a strip club to see some nakedness because these girls never go home with guys, but now this happened. I'm 31 now and haven't been single since 22, so my game is rusty as hell...please help. Should I wait a couple weeks and text her again or go back to the club or what?

[ty-lady]

OMG! No matter how many people say the same thing in many different ways you will not take no for an answer. Do you need someone to tell you that what you are about to do is okay? I understand it has gotten hard over the years to spicing up your sex life (with your wife) but nothing good for you is ever easy. My concern is that there is something else going on or more to the story concerning your marriage because the average guy does not find his Moe Joe in a strip club & the fact that you think you finally have is what scares me.

I am not going to get into the marriage part of your story because everyone else has & have gotten no where. I think that now you have stirred up something inside of you that may destroy you and your life as you know it. You didn't even have an emotional connection with this woman and have found yourself head over heels, what happens if you get on the Internet and start chatting & sharing your emotions with a woman other than your wife. I can actually see you falling in what you may think is love. You are too vulnerable to be out in the wild. Things have changed too much for you to come out into this jungle thinking you are about to have sex with a new person, then it will be another & another. You almost sound like an addict. I am not saying you are but you are acting like one & if you read all of your responses you should be able to see it too. Seek help! Now! Before you make the worse mistake ever because you don't even have a clear head to make any wise decisions. God Bless!

[georgewc2001]

You're 100% right. I am an addict, clean about a month when this happened, and this stripper hit my sweet spot. I actually felt like I was rolling on ecstasty (my favorite drug) when I left...this girl was unbelievable. And, I do realize what's going on here internally. And, I have been dealing with some issues in my marriage for some time...including tried couseling. It's actually the realization of how much is missing in my marriage that this brought out that's killing me more than anything

[ty-lady]

You need to seek help! I can tell you that if you were to get in touch w/the stripper or even be in her presence, she would be disgusted. It's like a junky not being able to see themselves (true self even physical) in the mirror while shooting up. You are very dangerous to yourself and I am sure that it has already started to effect your household. You can't even concentrate I'm sure. Only you can help you at this point.

[georgewc2001]

Woa, I'm not sure why you think she'd be disgusted...maybe you got the wrong picture here. Let's get something straight here...I'm not some crackhead junky. I'm in incredible physical shape. I work out obsessively with weights, do martial arts and ski all the time. This girl wasn't attracted to me for nothing. However, emotionally and mentally I'm a bit screwed at the moment. And, YES, I can't concentrate!

[ty-lady]

No, I didn't get it wrong & what I am saying is NOT that you are a crackhead or Junkie but I AM saying that your behavior is in the same. Obviously you are attractive, that's why she wanted your number in the first place. But, your behavior would be creepy to anyone, not just a naked woman at her workplace. That is what I said would be disgusting...not that YOU are are physically unattractive but understand that great looks make you appear even worse when you don't have it mentally. Get it 2gether

[georgewc2001]

My behavior is creepy now? Exactly what basis do you have for this? I'm not a stalker or anything...jeez.

[Anonymous]

my friend is a stripper, they do get into hot customer guys sometimes but most of them have a boyfriend...they can fake chemistry so well it's not even funny, though they laaaaaaugh at these damn asses( even every ugly guy believes in chemistry with a hot stripper just as much..) when they get together. if she wanted u, you would be having sex with her already, she is playing you and when she says she is working when you want to see her all she wants you to do is to come to club and give her your money...divorce your wife and get a not stripper hot girlfriend...don't waste time on your wife and money on stripper( unless your a wealthy, then the strepper might want you for a while).

[georgewc2001]

Well, my friends got a pretty good bs meter...he slept with a stripper for awhile and actually played games with her. In other words, he's slick...and he said she wanted it for sure. I wasn't buying it, but she new I was married and I can imagine stippers would like married guys cause we can't complain about their occupation if we're cheating bastards now can we? Plus, she followed up her "I'm at work cutie" text with "Hit you up tomorrow"

[georgewc2001]

I'm 99% sure I screwed it up when I said I'd been faithful for 10 years cause she was like "oh, I can't do that" It was like during the dance she seemed to really like how much I liked her, but then realized when I said that why I liked her so much...like any guy who was that starved wouldn't react the same way. Before that, she must've just assumed I was a bastard cheater (hot nonetheless) that was really into her and like how into her I was...i'm a passionate dude. Again, was no ordinary dance

[georgewc2001]

I mean I could be completely wrong on that, but whatev. Is it possible she was playing with me? Of course, but what would've been the motivation? I think it was definitely that comment on being faithful. Like she just assumed something must be wrong with me if I'm hot and not cheating. People are f*cked up. Oh well, thinking out loud here.

[toosexualcat]

I'd pay attention to this answer... she does make a good point. IF the girl wanted you, she would have done you already. If she wants your money, then she'd do what she's doing...enticing you.

[georgewc2001]

Na...I figured it out. She (as most strippers probably are) is most likely afraid of someone getting attached. I was a good candidate cause I'm married...until I told her I had been faithful for ten years. Then I shot myself into the potential clinger category. However, she was still very responsive to texts. I think she's on the fence. I'll probably wait a couple weeks, send her a text and see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

its impossible to answer this with the marriage aside. this is not something you can fix on your own with a solution outside your marriage. you and your wife have issues to work out together. you need to forget the stripper. you may have lost something in your sex life with your wife but a stripper isn't going to fix that.

[georgewc2001]

Can someone please just answer the question? I only included the marriage thing so that whoever does actually give me some game advice knows all the details. I guess this is the wrong place for this.

[Opinion Owner]

you said "I'm not at in an emotional state to handle this very well". Marriage aside...YOU can't handle what's going on, so forget about this girl, despite how she made you feel. You tried meeting up with her and that backfired. Take that as a sign to move on.

[georgewc2001]

Now we're getting somewhere. Would you say her flaking is a sign of lost interest or you think she was just busy or felt guilty I was married or what...impossible to tell?

[Opinion Owner]

its impossible to exactly tell but if she really wanted to get with you, she would have. The fact that you're married may have been it since she did say "I can't do that" when you mentioned it. and it could be lost interest...i mean, she does encounter lots of guys throughout the week

[georgewc2001]

Yea, I was thinkin that comment might have done it, but when I texted her...she got back to me and said "most definitely" both times with regard to getting together. Which is why I'm confused, but she's a stripper so there's probably not much logic to it anyway. I mean I've known other strippers before (I mean outside of work) and they were pretty flaky too.

[Opinion Owner]

well, "most definitely" as a reply does not sound very excited/convincing. and then she said she'd "be around" (she didn't say when she'd be available) and then she never showed when she said she would. she's not interested. i still think you're scum, by the way. men think with their d*cks too much. sorry.

[georgewc2001]

Actually, I told her I'd be back up there skiing again and asked if she'd be around to meet up. She said definitely and let her know for sure if I was coming. Then I texted her and she was at work and said she hit me up the next day. I said I'd text her from the mountain. I asked if she had to work again that night and got no response. And yes, perhaps I am becoming scum, I don't know. It's gotten really hard lately. I don't know what's going on, but I've been getting hit on a lot.

[georgewc2001]

And, BTW, she came on to me the way she did knowing full well I was married and only when I told her I had been faithful did she even remotely care. She came on STRONG and then flaked this weekend. My point is that men aren't the only scumbags out there. In my experience, women are full of mixed signals. Her texts had exclamation points and all, so there was def some interest there, so I'm completely confused.

[Opinion Owner]

oh, I know it can go both ways. I'm not hating on the male gender. I just think this whole situation is awful. Why can't people just go to their spouse about their feelings/fears/issues...

[georgewc2001]

I have gone to my spouse countless times...sometimes people don't want to listen or to believe the importance of what you're saying. It's very complicated. Anyway, thank you for all of your comments...much appreciated.

[Opinion Owner]

i'm sorry. I guess I wouldn't know (I'm 18). I just hope you don't end up in more trouble than its worth.

[l-hedoniste]

Honesty's never a f*ckup, especially with a stripper. Lies and bullsh*t, THAT'S a f*ckup--that gets spotted.

Wait a couple weeks. Maybe she was in a mood, maybe she's an escort, maybe she's seriously interested, only time will tell. If you go back to the club, *don't* bring up the phone call; she may have a boyfriend: jealous, psycho, and sitting behind you.

[islands7]

There's a good idea - friends.

This is as easy as drugs & strippers, no real work like marriage.

Marriage is partnership fire that each keeps vigil to keep it burning, allowing no others to do anything to put it out.

Drugs & strippers are like a Bic lighter.

... and yet, which do most desire to come home to in a cold, winter's night?

[rgtsc01]

It's like someone put a loaded pistol in your hands.

Dude, I wouldn't do it. Out of respect for my wife, and because it would be on my conscience.

[toosexualcat]

um... what happened...? You are going to throw out 10 years over a stripper who's paid to be nice to you? what...?

[georgewc2001]

I understand strippers are paid to be nice, but this girl went way above that. My friend was there and I consulted him cause I was like "am I dreaming here" and he said "no, that girl really wants to f*** you, so delete her number" She was just so sensual and (I know this sounds stupid) but there was def some chemistry there, which I've been craving and haven't felt with my wife in a looooong time.

[toosexualcat]

maybe you aught to talk to your wife then... bring some of that chemistry back. Obviously don't mention the stripper or you'll be in the dog house for the next ten years. But the wife can be just as good as the stripper...if she learned how...actually no... better... because the wife actually LOVES and cares about you. Stripper? Maybe a one nighter... if you're sick, she ain't there and you know it.

[xdesigns]

Self-control man! Don't ever think about seeing her again or contacting her in any way. Fix your marriage immediately and save this precious relationship... then you will be lot surprised that your very same wife is lots hottest than any strippers elsewhere on earth. :-)

[georgewc2001]

Thanks for your comments. I've been having sex (or lack there of) issues with my wife for sometime and (I know I'm about to become the most hated man on here) but I'm of the opinion after 10 years that men are simply not meant to sleep with one woman the rest of their lives. I'll let the women speak for themselves. I really think if I can clear my mind with something like this, it will bring variety and spice back to our sex life. This is not a sudden decision.

[toosexualcat]

variety and spice... and std's... nice... good to know you care about your wife that much... *sigh* Seriously, quit being so selfish. Bring the spice back with your wife, not with someone else. And if you think you can't stand to be with your wife, divorce her. AT LEAST be a decent guy and let her find a guy that can actually stick it out, not just stick it in (anywhere.)

[jarhead]

No, dumba**. You shouldn't have gotten married if you still wanted to go around having casual sex.

[georgewc2001]

Go around having casual sex? It's been 10 YEARS dumba**. Exactly how is that going around having casual sex? I've had opportunites like this and turned MANY of them down. Fuck, I've turned down joingin in on sex going on right in front of me. Look, I've made up my mind. Please, anyone here willing to answer the question marriage thing aside?

[nate18]

i hope your wife finds your text messages before you even get to do anything and divorces you. and takes half your sh*t.

have fun with your stripper friend :)

[Lavitaloca]

RRRUUUNNNNN SHE'S GOING TO MILK YOU...

[Twilight_Starstorm]

ROFL XD

[fused00828]

dude I got played by a stripper the same way. I went in one night and some stripper whom I SWEAR on anything looked like Jessica Alba's twin sister gave me her number and wanted to hang out. I was stuck. She would never answer my calls or texts so I would always see her at the club and there I went spending money. she milked for a for a few grand before I got the hint. RUN AWAY! they can spit better game than guys!

[Anonymous]

Stay faithful!

[Anonymous]

How about you think of your wife? I think that's more important than some stripper. All I can think of is the Hangover...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sZH4h4etigo

[georgewc2001]

I have passed on so many opportunities...I mean friends think I'm some sort of monk or something. I'm not gonna get into details of my marriage, but I need something new...maybe even to save my marriage. This stripper woke up something inside me that's like been asleep for a long time. I mean she really caught me off guard. I was like delerious when I left there. If I can get it, I'm gonna do it. I've already made the decision, so wife aside, please what's your advice?

[Opinion Owner]

Keeping on passing opportunities. There is nothing wrong with your friends viewing you as a "monk." It just means that you are committed and is faithful to your wife. If you really want to get in it with someone, go with someone that's a really whore, and not some stripper. Whores don't allow emotional baggage on them

[georgewc2001]

Yea, I understand the whole whore thing. My friend said the same thing. Basically, they're more easily kept separate and non-emotional. What can I say...I was REALLY caught off guard. This girl said some things and did some things I was not prepared for. I'm not at in an emotional state to handle this very well right now. I'm only about a month clean off a 6 month party binge and about a year on and off pain killers so this is really stressing me out. Thank you for being candid.

[Cooliochillman]

I have been single for a long time but I have had many flings and recently I am in the same boat as you because I went to the strip club and had a 3 hour convo with an insanly thick/hot stripper and I had to ask her to the back room because she never tried to pitch it like the other strippers did every 5 mins, So I finally aksed her to go to the back rooms with me and we had a good time back there she was soaking through her panties when she was grinding on me. towards the end she offered me her number and I took it. and texted her the next night to hang but she said she was working and now I texted her again a few days after and nothing yet.. So I am not sure what the purpose of giving me her number was but gave me a very similar experience you had with your stripper chick.