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I slept with my next door neighbor and he's a pig. What now?

I've been sleeping with my nextdoor neighbor for a few weeks.. It's all about fun, but I thought things were going a little further between us. Yesterday, he stayed over, woke up in my bed.. And the day went on. Walls are very thin where we live.. . Last night, we hear him in his room with another girl. From what my roomate says, she heard his bed banging against the wall pretty hard and she heard a girl moaning. Now, I know my neighbor and I have no ties or commitment, however, I am extremely bothered by this. Not the fact that he's having sex with another girl, but that fact that he couldn't have AT LEAST been a little discreet about it. Considering the fact that he was with me the night before and he knows how thin the walls are. I took it as a slap in the face. MAybe I am being oversensitive, but it made me feel low and disgusted for even sleeping with this person. I am literally sick to my stomache. I think any normal person would be. My roomate tried to make a scene, but I didn't say anything. I just went to bed. I need some advice on how to approach this situation. I want to get him back for this in some kind of way.. What is the best way that I can go about this without letting him know how this got to me?
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Funny thing..Turns out my roomate made up the whole thing anout him having sex with another girl because she wanted him... Ha!
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I think you said it yourself. You two are not in any sort of exclusive relationship. You weren’t there to actually hear it –you were out somewhere presumably. Maybe he knew you were out so thought he didn’t need to play it quiet. Did your roommate actually see the girl? How does she know he wasn’t just watching a p*rno with sound slightly too loud?

    But lets assume he did have a girl (which you said you have no problem with). Just think about the position he was in (no pun intended). He’s brought a girl back to his home. They decide to have sex, and she’s really into it. And vocal. What is he supposed to say?

    “Could you keep your moaning down please? The girl I had sex with last night lives nextdoor, and her flatmate might hear us...”

    Bit of a moment killer.

    If the tables were reversed, and you’d picked up some hottie and brought him back home last night, and he’d started to make the bedhead bang against the wall, and he was pushing all the right buttons for you...

    Would you have stopped him, and asked him to be a bit more discrete? Because the guy you were boffing the night before lived just on the other side of these paper thin walls...

    It sounds like you have a touch of the green-eyed monster. Which is also fine. Jealousy is one of the more primal emotions (linked to the territoriality of our reptilian protobrain) –but it’s part of being human. Rather than focus on his lack of discretion, think about what feeling jealous says about you. Perhaps you’re ready for something more than just fun casual sex. Only you know the answer to that question.

    Good luck. I hope you find what you’re looking for. :)

  • Best reaction is no reaction, and no more sex from you. Act as if he doesn't exist.

    • This is my plan. Thanks!

    • I do hope you used a condom when you had sex with this guy. If not, get tested.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Well first of all you should stop sleeping with him. Clearly you have some kind of feeling for him and it common for girls but rarely happens to guy. You don't have to tell him anything because he is not anything to you. He on other hand doesn't seem to be short of girls to sleep with. Its not your fault and you're not playing a victim anyway. It just happened.

  • dont get him back in sex or anything if he's a asshole and a pig like that just ignore his ass you don't diserve that and I don't think your being over sensitive it dose hurt when you think okaay he likes me and I like him I think this can work and then bam there he is with another girl you have everyright to be madd but really just ignore his pig ass

  • He has no obligations to you and has no obligation to protect you from making anything known.

    You're overreacting, it has nothing to do with him, but with you.

    Time to stop playing victim girls

    • Agree..

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  • Best way to show him this didn't get to you is to not react. Let him live his life and go live yours with decent peeps.

  • Its actually none of your business and you need to think of yourself at this point instead of revenge. You can never unscrew him so let it go. You need to go get an STD checkup to make sure your OK. As a male he can sleep with one female transfer an STD to you and not be affected, yet pass it onto you. This was just sex for relief, get over it and move on.

    • Agree!

    • Seriously. I'm really disgusted...

  • What could he do, soundproof the room? I could understand if he were f*cking in your room--THAT'S indiscreet. But this has nothing to do with you; a guy f*cking in his room is doing what he has every right to do.

    Invest in earplugs.

  • You are just pissed off for him having a good screw. If he was more "discreet", in other words had a sh*tty f***, it would not have bothered you. Grow up and get over it. He owes you nothing.

  • You do have a reason to feel the way you feel. This proves you were growing feelings for him and didn't know of. But, Well, just like you put it. You guys aren't in a relationship other than sex and having fun. You 2 are free from doing whatever any of you want to do with your free time. I think you are overreaction

    I say just speak to him and tell him what you know and how you feel. That you don't feel comfortable having sex with him. You have the right to feel how you feel, but he also have the right to do what he wants to do. Probably not in that obvious way. Maybe he did wanted you to know it.

    So, just be cool about it. Say hi to him. But try to stay away from him so he would not think you are seeking another night.

  • Even if you do get him back, he won't care. He will just go on banging girls.

  • and you didn't thibk of this before? its your own fault... shouldn't have slept with him

    • I really don't see a problem with this +1

    • its common sense right? u slept with him,.. you didn't marry him.. so you have no right to judge

  • on too the next one

  • simply don't sleep with him ever agian? be polite, say hi, blah blah blah lol but other than that pretend he doesn't exist.

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