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Why do women always have to play the victim?

The thing is, this is about rape. Women are always walking around with their ideas about rape. and how the only kind of rape is man to woman. They run around saying they were raped when they weren't! They always pretend to be so vulnerable when around men and somehow if a woman walks down a deserted alleyway and a group of men passs her, they somehow automatically have to rape her. but if it was a man walking down that alleyway hah! no way! I was raped, and I'm not a woman, I'll gve all you girls a minute to digest that one. I was raped by another guy, I'm not even gay. it was one of the worst experiences of my life and no one believes me because I'm not a girl! I'm broken and people just look at mr like a filthy liar! I couldn't escape his grip any more than a girl could but when people speak to me about it they either don't believe me or are just like...you'll get over it, whereas a girl would have people swarming around her, like 10 guys would beat the rapist to a pulp and stuff but not for a guy, he goes it alone. go ahead and call me a pussy, I've gone through a lot more than being called a couple of names.
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I don't mean to hurt any womans feelings who has been through this traumatic event, what I would like is for women who HAVENT to stop showing ignorance towards the situation, and to try and support men in the same situation as men do for them.
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  • So because you were raped by another man and no one believes you, you project your emotions onto women who say they were raped? That is very counter productive. I'm really sorry that happened to you, and from what research suggests there are many more guys like you in the same situation but because of society, they don't say anything. BUUT do you know how many women suffer the same experience as you, only to be criticized and accused of being liars? For every 1 crazy broad you hear about accusing someone of rape, there are like 20 women who actually were raped and never say anything about it. Keep in mind that the majority of women are physically weaker then men so we have to be extra careful and aware of our surroundings. Have you ever noticed when a person does come out and admit they were raped, they get all these questions like "What were you doing alone with him?" and stuff like that? Stop projecting your negative experiences onto women. Women who are afraid of a very real possibility of being raped are not your enemy here. I agree that very little coverage is given to male rape victims, but how is lashing out at women who are vulnerable going to help your cause? The fact is most women are more vulnerable when it comes to being raped because of the size advantage. The majority of rape cases happen to be female victim, male perp. It jjust is like that. Men are vulnerable too if the guy is bigger than them, but virtually all men are stronger than women (even if she isn't a small woman). Why not use your anger about this experience to help rape victims? It would certainly be more productive and would probably give you a sense of healing. But if you don't want to I can understand that.

    • *sigh* again, not true. If you did research insatead of basing all your facts off of Law and Order shows, you'd actually be informed. Recent research by Christina Hoff-Somners shows that men are raped just as much IF NOT MORE than women. And size isn't an issue, becuase in domestic violence cases, women are the leaders, especially in lesbian relationships, which has the highest percentage of DV. And they causr more damage because they use knives and weapons instead of using fists. And, if you knew anything about body building, women CAN hit just as hard as men, it all has to do with height. So, women are not the little "victims" you are stating they are. Your mentality is the reason men have it up shits creek when it comes to rape. Oh, and women are more likely to have all peoples, regardless of age or gender, be their victims while men are more likely to have men be there victims. Get informed before spewing your toxic opinions.

  • I'm so sorry you're experiencing this... I'm ashamed of these women's behavior as it is the norm now. Women have no sympathy for men and think they're the victims all around. Especially with the legal system putting women over men in so many aspects. I wish you hope and healing and to find someone who actually does care instead of laughing in your face. Because rape does happen to men, in fact, it may happen MORE than women in recent studies. The problem is women are allowed to recover and be a victim their entire lives while men are told to suck it up. And no one even goes into detail about females raping other people, because according to society and the legal system, females are innocent beings incapable of bad. It's disgusting because females raping is a big issues, just as big an issue as women being the leaders in domestic violence. And don't even get me started about false sexual assault and DV accusations made by women, or manipulating children in custody battles to accuse the other parent of child abuse.
    I'm sorry I went on a rant, I'm just so fed up of the behavior you're experiencing because it is the norm and my heart goes out to you...

  • i'm so sorry you were raped. I believe you I really do, because, as rare as it is, it does happen to males. I guess that's why people don't believe you, because it's very rare. Men don't think it's going to happen to the any more than women do. You're not a pussy. You've gone through something that very few guys go through. The rape percentage is a lot higher for women than it is for men, but you don't need me to tell you that. Women, by nature, and not as tough as men. Sure some may act tough on the outside, but yeah. As for comfort, I hope this can bring a little relief. It's not much, but just know that there are individuals who do believe you.

    • This is not true one bit. Women do not get raped more than men. In fact, with recent research by Christina Hoff-Somners, men are just as much a victim of rape or MORE LIKELY a victim of rape. You obviously haven't done your research and are just going off of what the media has fed you. Way to go in being "your own person. Men have it horrible, worse than women, because they have people like you who state that it doesn't happen in as passive aggressive tone as you can muster, women making it out to be that they're the only ones and need to be protected, the legal system laughing in their faces by not defining rape in a way that includes men (look that up too. Legally men can't be raped in legal terms) and spinning the court system as an " all men are rapist" and society showing that only men rape women. Men have been raped just as much as women for centuries, women were allowed to lick their wounds and get help, men were told to walk it off and not discuss it. Get informed before speaking

    • @MissPiggy25 nice to know that there are still good women left

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  • I'm sorry for what happened to you. I hope you get all that you need to get better.

    However, women who are raped are often told it was their fault. They get judged for what they were wearing, for where they were, for practically everything. A high percentage of people who raped them don't even spend a day in jail. I know a case of a young girl who was naive enough to hitchhike and she was raped and killed. Her family went through hell, yet public opinion was mostly "she was so stupid to go into a car with stranger". She was the one to blame, as if her "crime" of being naive (like being naive as a teenager with not much experience in life yet is so difficult to understand) is worse than the rapists crime of rape and murder. I know some girls who were called sluts and who were bullied and shamed because they were molested, while guys who've done it were still the popular kids. And what you did in your post - saying women are PLAYING the victim when the threat of rape is something real so many of them face - is part of the mentality that is the problem. You are not hearing them, just as others are not hearing and supporting you. You directed your post and resentment towards girls, but I'm sure guys in general are not more sympathetic when it comes to male on male rape.

    Having said that, it's a shame victims - both male and female - often don't get the sympathy, justice and understanding they deserve. What you went through is beyond horror and I wish there was a way I could help you.

  • Never ever heard anything like that. People not believing you cos your a guy? I mean yeah, I've experienced people not believing me, or not believing my friends, who have been raped (mix of male and female). But never for a reason like that.

    What kind of ridiculous country are you from? Anyway, if they don't care, you don't want them to. Fuck 'em, they're no better than the f***er that stuck his d*** in you. Find your real friends who'll support you through it and learn to laugh about it =] That's the best way around it.

    Did you make another question about rape? 'Cos if not there's two guys in the past like, two days, with a similar story. Pretty crazy.

    • No I never made another question. But I think it might be a more common thing than people think. men being raped.

    • Mann. Crazy. Yeah, it might be. I know we had a huge spell of it here, where these gangs of guys would hang out in public toilets and take turns on anyone who walked in. Crazy times.

    • seriously?!

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  • You're just making assumptions about what women think. Most women understand that there are men who are victims of rape as well. Rape is just more commonly talked about as being male-to-female, since its more common (or at least viewed as more common---rape statistics are kind of iffy because not all rape is reported, and men are probably less likely to report it than women).

  • I think you mean people who throw the word rape around a lot, like if a man slaps a woman's ass, she calls it rape. That's a very rare thing to come by. Most women who've said they were assaulted or raped, were.
    My ex raped me. For a long time I didn't want to believe it. I thought it probably wasn't but everyone I've spoken to have confirmed it as rape/sexual assault. He was abusive to me in that relationship and no-one believed that. They definitely wouldn't believe he raped me. No-one in my family know. None of his friends know and I bet he doesn't think he raped me. Male or female, a lot of rape victims don't get believed. You're projecting your anger of what happened onto women because women are raped more often, which isn't good at all.
    I had a male friend who got raped, I believed him immediately. I didn't laugh or think he was lying. I believed him because I know it happens so you shouldn't think everyone believes male rape doesn't exist. Many do know it exists.

  • They play the victim because it works. Women don't have to work for anything in our society... if they play victim, or pretend their meek and frail, or use sex to get things, they'll be showered with gifts and praise.

  • Rape and sexual assault is an awful thing for anyone to go through and I'm sorry it happened to you and nobody believes you. My sister was sexually assaulted 4 years ago and it still affects her. In many cases women are also shamed. They base it off of what she was wearing to provoke the attack like her clothing caused him to attack or if she was drunk and maybe didn't know what was going on. Unfortunately people aren't so great and sympathy.

  • The meaning of rape: force (someone) to have sex against their will, could be male or female. You should really get over your women issues or stop meeting psychotic women.

  • that is bad that it happended to you but you don't need to take it out on women because no one believed you. so y do we have to be talked down about just because you had an incedent where no one believed you.. There are a lot of women sho get raped and aren't believed everyday so please stop the whinning! we hear all the time." well you had to have done something for it to happen" I am sorry it happend but girls get it bad also

    • have you ever had it happen? just a question.

    • yes I have actually. I was 12. he was 18.

    • Well then I'm sorry. I wasn't tryin to be spiteful in any way. I know it happens to women I'm just really frustrated at the moment.

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  • Anyone who's calling you a pussy is pretty ignorant.

  • First of all, what makes you think that a girl would have people around her beating the rapist? And most rape that occurs involves a man raping a woman. No one said that men get raped too, but it's not as common. I'm sorry you got raped but stop getting mad at women and seek professional help.

    • Give me a break, obviously you have no want to even be educated on the subject. No, most rape that occurs is not man vs woman. Stop using mainstream TV as your facts. It's simply not true and its people like you, spouting this nonsense, that leaves this poor guy in such a bad spot. Yes, people go out and beat men accused of rape. BEAT THEM. Whether it's true or not, if a women accuses a man of rape, he has a good chance that he will be beaten because society feels like they need to protect women. No one does this for men and, you're attitude and response, just furthers the truth that men have it so much worse than women with this.

  • Im sorry for what happened to you. However I don't think you should take out any anger on the female race if they have been raped because they are victims as well. If anything you should blame society. Did you at least report you rape to the police? So maybe they could catch the guy and you could maybe save others from him?

    • yeah I did but I didn't know the guy, they couldn't find him

    • Im sorry , that sucks, it happened to me I was 14 and he was 23 he took my virginity at first I didn't even kno what was happening and when I figured it out I was just crying I didn't want my parents to kno so I never said anything. I kno who he was and where he lived I'm still the age where I could press charges if I wanted to but that would get my family involved and I don't want that

    • Im sorry about your experience.

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  • Wow! Who is this? M. Night Shyamalan? I didn't see that twist coming. I that you were going to rant about a girl claiming that you raped her.

    hmm don't know what to say, but sorry that happened to you. I hope that other guy gets punished one day.

    • LOL, I thought the same

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