Tips for fingering for the first time?

Ive never fingered myself. I've tried but I got nervous thinking I could seriously hurt something if I went in too far or in the wrong way. Could anyone give me any pointers on how I should do this? Also, girls: Are there any homemade objects you use in place of a dildo? I can't buy one due to living in a home with my grandmother.. Since she goes in my room a lot, I can't risk her finding it or else she would have a heart attack so I'm hoping I could find something else to use once I get into the techniques of fingering and such? Any help is greatly appreciated! Thanks!
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Thanks for all the information, everyone! I tested everything out for the first time tonight and achieved fingering myself. ;D I even squirted a little!
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  • There are two ways you can "hurt" yourself. One is penetration and tearing of your cervix with a nail. It is the small puckered mouth straight into your vag and slightly up. Do not play there.

    The other is stretching and tearing of your hymen. That's a consequence of sex and you have to accept it.

    I watched my lover do this to teach me how to do her with my hands. I can get an orgasm every time.

    You don't need toys...just a handy supply of cocoa-butter lotion. It is mild smelling, won't sting, feels warm and both stays wet and mixes with your Vag fluid. Soak the palm side of all four fingers of your primary hand with it. Also squirt a little on your tummy just above the hairline.

    Press down at your hood and make large circles with your flat fingers. Start slow to work in the lotion and then speed up and apply pressure to your best effect. Use your other hand to massage your lotiony lower tummy and/or visit your breasts.

    As you get more aroused, slide fingers (one to 3 depending on how open you are) into your Vag, curling them to pass above your cervix to a slightly rough, thickened spot at the roof of your Vag behind the pubic bone...where your G-Spot is. Stroke in and out, pressing on the G-Spot and maybe teasing it with your finger tips with each pass. Use the other hand to massage your clit area outside. Coordinate both hands for speed, pressure and rhythm and you should have a happy outcome. You may feel both the contractions of your Vag and even the brief flood of female ejaculation.

  • You can't possibly hurt yourself by fingering yourself. Relax and enjoy.

    Homemade dildos? Some girls use produce from the fruit and veg section. e.g Cucumber. To avoid any possible infections etc... since they won't be as sterile as an actual dildo, try wrapping it in a condom first.

Most Helpful Girls

  • use a candlestick, I find it's the best, and can be hidden easily, unlike a vegetable which your grandmother might notice to be missing. the candle can also be washed which is important.

  • i've used a toothbrush with a thicker, ribbed handle before...that turned out good;)

    just be gentle& explore at first-- it shouldn't hurt.

    also lubricate!

  • personally I got absolutely no pleasure from fingering myself. it's just not the same as when someone else does it.

    just my two cents.

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  • Just explore yourself and have fun with it. Learn your body! Try a nice massage oil down there to really feel more and get you going and making fingering easier. Instead of dildo's get a small vibe or egg. It's more discreet and You can keep it in your purse or car.

  • buy a comb with a handle that's about the "right" size and shape, make sure to smooth off any rough spots if needed.

  • I want to finger my self but don't know how and don't have dildo or vibtater how do I make my self fell like I'm having sex like uhhhhhh Fuck harder harder