Why are so many girls grossed out by their own vaginas?

The Vagina. Beautiful. Natural. Functional.

How is it that so many girls describe it, and its daily operations, as GROSS?!?

Meanwhile, the guys they want to love them, worship the very same Vagina?

I don't get it. Girls, please explain why you are so hostile towards your own Vaginas.


I'm definitely in the "I <3 Vagina!" camp, but that's to be expected as I'm a guy. We get to enjoy the benefits, without having to deal with the "care and maintenance". Penises are less maintenance, but subject to performance failures at the worst times!
I love the "I love my vagina!" comments. I'm saddened by the "vagina's are gross" comments. Trying to understand what causes the difference in attitude. Parents? Education? Experience? Guys?


Most Helpful Girl

  • I know women who think penises are ugly too. I don't know why genitals get such a bad rap. Sure, they have wrinkles and folds and just generally look like no other part of our body, but they are a part of our body and part of a loving connection with your partner. I think it is all a part of the discomfort parents can have with discussing these subjects with their children. I mean, really, if mom and dad cannot talk to you about your body and how it changes, you must wonder that it is dirty or ugly.

    I am trying the tact of letting my young daughter know that our bodies are made exactly as they should be, but that I get it when we have talks about sex or menstruation (she is 10) that she feels uncomfortable. But, I see the more comfortable I am with the subject, the less she feels she has to act embarrassed in front of me. I have told her our bodies are private so that means we may feel uncomfortable with the subjects involving turning into a young woman, but there is nothing wrong with anything that we experience as we mature. For me, we are religious so I let her know that God created everything about us and in his image, so how could our bodies be bad or ugly. If you are not religious, I am sure there are other ways to get this point across.


What Girls Said 32

  • I'm not. Quite the opposite. Wash it properly and keep it clean and it won't be gross... Not that hard really...

  • I'm going to be honest, here. The reason a lot of girls harbor these feelings (and I'm in no way slamming men, I love guys, but I'm going to be honest since you asked) is that men have a lot of degrading jokes that affect how women see themselves. They use the word 'douche' to describe a bad person (and women can do this too, BTW), they use 'pussy' to describe a weak man (again, so can some women), but honestly it's the fish and chicken jokes that make girls think there is something wrong with having a vagina. I can't tell you how many women I've heard can trace it back to that, and it's simply not true (unless a girl hasn't taken a shower in like a month). That said, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a vagina, but if you ask girls a lot of the time they get their ideas from what they've heard guys say about it and they always assume the worse which is sad because there's nothing wrong with it. It gives life, for heavens sake! Take some pride in yourself, ladies! (And I realize not all men are hostile towards vaginas, so do understand I'm not generalizing. I think men should love the vagina as well! And many of them do.)

    • this is EXACTLY why women are self-conscious about their sh*t, because somewhere growing up all they hear is men making really sick jokes about how girls smell and how we are unclean and not good enough for men. granted we know men want us, but you never over hear a bunch of dudes talking lovingly about girls and their vaginas and worshipping them in the same way they might when theyre alone with their partner. and that's just men politics, but it doesn't help the situation.

  • I mean the way its shaped or how it looks - its just weird - maybe I really haven't found that part of me to be proud of it but it is so weird to me. I remember the first time I looked at it with a hand mirror - I was petrified at some point - I was like this is what guys like, could be because I haven't been deflowered yet but I still wouldn't let him eat me out - I don't know I can't really give you a reason to me it is just really gross - I'm sorry!

  • I think it may be kinda a psychological thing. Women tend to be brought up a certain way. That it's not "right" to touch ourselves, etc. It's a "forbidden" zone that she be left alone. That it is dirty and something to be embarrassed by. That extend to even just looking, naturally. So many women just never take the time to really get to know their stuff. Many are embarrassed. With guys, your equipment is there in your way, you can't miss it. You handle it every day. Ours is tucked away. We don't even have to interact with that area all that much. So it's kinda like a fear of the unknown type thing. We are not used to it, it's foreign to us, so therefore it looks alien or something lol, and we dislike it.

    I think once a woman gets more comfortable with herself, and accepts her body, and all it's juicy workings, it's less of an ... eyesore, I guess you can say.

    I think that maybe how some men view them, is also kinda the way type of thing. The more they see and learn and accept, the more they like em lol

    Love me, love my vagina. Embrace it. :)

  • well its the cause of the menstral cycle so it sucks sometimes. AKA the source of the disgusted, naucious feeling you get once a month as if a cruel little nome came and replaced your internal organs with a garbage bag and your spine with a nerds rope, all the while expected to not make a big deal about it and always told that "its not an excuse" when sometimes it can be. and cramps are the worst because its like someone surgically weaved barbed wire through my vagina and waist, then gave it a few hard tugs for fun. :(

    at least that's how it is for me. if you knew me well, I don't complain, just answering a question and informing the male readers on how bad it can really be sometimes. I'm not exagerrating, I'm on the cycle right now and not having fun.

    so yeah I would say I dislike my lady parts for those reasons and its kinda gross to visually picture it for too long in detail but id say about 90% of the time I don't have a problem with it at all. :)

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What Guys Said 12

  • I think in general, girls might be raised to feel uncomfortable about their bodies, particularly their genitals. Some of this could be an attempt to prevent them from being curious or experimenting with sex at a young age. Also, I know in my wife's case, she doesn't particularly care to touch her vagina because it just doesn't feel right to her. She wasn't every really taught about her body and learned mostly in sex-ed class in school. She never masturbated until we started having sex and was uncomfortable with the thought of it until she experienced it.

    Since a lot of women aren't given the opportunity to see what other women's genitals looks like in real life, they are likely to only be exposed to what someone might see in p**n. The women in videos are picked often by how their genitals look, not a lot of inner lips, small, tight outer labia, a clitoris that doesn't poke out, etc... This isn't what most women look like, but if it is all they see in "media" and hear about surgeries like "labiaplasty" and "vaginal rejuvenation" they feel like they need something like this so they can look "normal."

    In the end it comes down to a positive body image. I think if more women had a positive feeling about their genitals by being informed and knowledgeable about their normal function and appearance then you wouldn't need to ask a question like this because there wouldn't be an issue.

    • i agree with what you say and share some of the issues your wife obviously had

    • I was mostly the same with masturbation. I simply didn't know how, and in my high school it was seen as a "slutty" thing to "finger" yourself. But when I finished school & moved, most girls I knew were doing it, so I realized it was okay.

      And as for that second paragraph... I never thought about p*rn that way; the fact that the girls are SELECTED. Though of course they would be >.< Lol. Thanks for opening my eyes to that fact. Now I feel a little less self-conscious about the way I look :)

  • I'll sign in on this (*looks down, sees male rigging*) even though I'm a male.

    Women are far more concerned with their appearance than men except gays and metrosexuals straight guys with gay grooming habits). Look at how they fuss with with weight, hair, clothing and makeup and, more to the point their concern with the appearance of their Vulva (the whole area).

    Women know when weight, hair, makeup and clothes look good but there is no standard for perfection for a vulva itself or the grooming of it. One girl really can't tell another if she has cute one or an ugly one and so can't have much confidence in what her lover will think when he is face to face with it. I think shaving/waxing is a cop-out due to that insecurity...better to look 9 years old down there than making a fashion statement at the patch which may not be the preferred one.

    And the vulva itself can't be easily made more desirable with with surgery, clothing and makeup to enhance it. It is a part of her body that decides for itself and is mostly out of her control, making her insecure and somewhat repelled by it.

    What you all can't get used to is that mature men (not children with dycks) will mostly feel that any vulva we are that close to is the most beautiful thing we have ever seen and we will prove that by kissing and licking it even if we have to search through a forest to find it.

    • OK, so I missed the boat on menstruation. True enough, although my appearance blather stands.

    • yeah, you did. but I like your answer too. :)

    • THANK YOU! I'm a girl and I've struggled with this my whole life, and only felt good about it once I shaved the forest down there. I've always felt so ugly...like I was "too much" of a woman, because I had hair. And a happy trail for that matter...

  • Could be a bit of an exaggeration but I'm interested in the answers.

  • Probably because they're the ones who have to clean them out every day, rain or shine (rain = blood).

  • This is a sick f***ing question. Why don't you ask your mother, if you have one.

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