How old are the guys you're hooking up with? I'm surprised you aren't stumbling into guys who can go a LOT longer than that. It was tough for me to do that in my teens and early twenties, but now (mid-30s) I can pretty easily go past 30 min if needed. I think it gets easier to control how soon you come as you get into your 30s.
I don't think the emotional connection directly impacts it, but if he doesn't give a sh!t about your experience (which may go together with not caring about you) then he may just want to get off and go to sleep. But if you're just with a guy for sex without a romantic connection then you should DEFINITELY insist on good sex! Ha!
what in gods name? I LAST TOO LONG ALWAYS! it frustrating and I justd asked how to shorten up on my time because the past few times I have had sex I outlast the girls and they get sore and tired. its a curse lasting longer because to be honest most people can't last long and when I can go strong for ever 4 hours and not come when I want to its heartbreaking. no don't ever wish you lasted longer be happy with what you have. I hate lasting longer and then having to finish in the bathroom. LASTING LONGER THAN 30 MINUTES IS A CURSE
Did you mean intercourse lasted 30min--1 hr or foreplay & all total? I think you would be VERY hard pressed to find any human man to have intercourse that long! Maebe a p*rn star, but not at all what I believe "the norm" would be. :) LOL From everything I know & have heard & read, men's equipment is just way more sensitive than ours which triggers cumming sooner----I don't think it's fair to fault them for it, they can't help that...they can however try to do whatever it takes to be sure their woman ends up pleased however necessary.
well adding foreplay it would be 45 minutes total. I guess it's hard to come by those type of guys.
It isn't that they don't care, its that theyre probably really turned on !
As guys mature and get older, they'll definitely last longer. ts the opposite with my guy. He takes too long ! But that could be because guys are so use to handling their manhood themselves with a firm grip, just how it is:P
don't listen to people talking about average this and average that! there are guys that last 2 min. and others that can go for hours! so yes you just have to find that guy who can last verses the 1 minute man!
Emasculating.
No just the truth!
if the heart kept enough blood pumping to the penis for hours you would be dead...and why wouldn't averages be correct? I mean they are averages, there is nothing subjective about them. and ya some guys can last and some can't as well, just like some chicks can cook and others can't as well
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!i never found a girl who found sex fun after 20 min...ill usually get "are you gonna come yet" if its longer than that...lol I mean 20 min of working your core and legs and arms none stop is pretty strenuous... imagine being in the gym and doing chest for 20 min NON STOP...lol
I never thought of it that way. Good point. I would honestly be happy with 20 minutes.
20 min would be good...youd'd both probably be extrememly tired, yet feel very relieved!
It sounds like you have had a LOT of bad lovers. I don't think it's you, I think that they are probably selfish and just are about getting themselves off. Which is pretty sh*tty. You can make it really apparent that your pissed afterward but I think that won't do much since it's after the fact. Maybe to prolong the guy, when you know he is close you can yell out gross things like "Your granma shaving", "Hasslehoff eating a cheeseburger" lol
no its easy to last a long time, I just think about throwing the frisbee or what hockey team is in first in the eastern division and stuff like that but if I really get into it I can "last" only moments before I get too excited and...yeah. maybe he just thinks your really attractive and he can't help it, I feel that if she gives me some foreplay first I can last a lot longer, maybe your just jumping right into it?
Can I take a different tact?
My experiences say the man cums quicker when
> he's overly hot for the gal
> he's not had IT in awhile
> he's been over stimulated by p*rn, etc.
> he's keyed up, perhaps coffee-ized
> she's doing all the right things
> she has a perfect "equipment" match
> more?
hmm I agree with you.. in your opinion though.. when a guy wants to try things and can keep erect for an hour with a girl compared to not having an erection with girl B... and then having a bad impression of her later... would any of your above reasons explain the differences in his experience with both girls? given that his relshp with girl A is much btr, he loves her and with girl B, they were tog out of "pity" and he didn't really like her?
May I say that your case is a tangent to the one above. Liking vs. pity is the curve ball you introduce. It's easier to get hard & stay hard if he thinks her hot/loved. The question above deals with staying power, time elapsed before his orgasm - which could last longer with the pity gal. Write me a private note if more details would improve this answer.
The longest iv'e gone is for 6 hours when I was with my ex... and its all down to loving the other person/stamina.
You can stop and start if he wanted, try to get him going again after a kiss and a cuddle and really go for it, think of it like dancing you need to feel you are really connecting with the other person and the more you connect the it lasts...
There are condoms that de-sensitize a bloke, although I've never tried them{worth a try}to last
longer
There are also two positions that you can try which are you both sitting up, your legs around his waist, and grind away, or girl on top/cowgirl . Usually the more dominant partner comes more quickly so maybe you can give that a try.
If it it's serious, talk to him...
and if not...come and see me :D
6 hours...jesus christ dude, my d*** would hurt...or probably fall off...thats way too long
Lots of younger guys need to learn and relax so they can last longer and please their partners with their cock. Older guys (30 and older) should be able to last as long as you want and need! I can f*** for hours if the girl is very sexual and enthusiastic and to me there is nothing better than a long hot f***ing session with a girl you are really into and make her come multiple times.
You must be very good if it only lasted 5 - 10 minutes. Sometimes a guy can't help it, because it feels so good.
I know a few women that would rather the guy not hold back and climax together. Plus that gives more time to get back at it 30 min later for a longer session.
You want stamina? I lasted 8 hrs with taking some breaks. You run into things not being as wet the longer you go. She was so sore the next few days, I highly doubt she would ever want to go longer than an hour again.
Depends on what you mean.
If you are talking about intercourse, more than 7 minutes is unusual. If you are talking about all sexual contact then 5-10 minutes is a little silly. I suggest that if they aren't making you happy, don't sleep with them.
I generally make sure my partner comes a few time before we get to the intercourse, at that point, I am seldom asked to worry about lasting more than 7 minutes.
good luck getting anyone to last beyond 15 minutes. didn't you know the average duration of sex is something like 7 minutes?
then again, I've never been shorter than at least 45 minutes, so I'm hardly one to talk.
are you for real? lol that is weak!
why don't girls have bigger boobs and flatter stomachs? wtf kind of question is that...its not like we make the conscious decision to last X amount of time...and to EXPECT a guy to last an hour is completely absurd and unappreciative
yep
Why do you guys expect us to choke on your penis when all we get in return is 5 minutes of jackhammering?
cause we gotta go through the pain of asking you out, paying for your sh*t, and living through the crazy moodswings
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lol well he did better then the Average apparently. Haha!
The average length of a couples sexual intercourse is around 6 minutes (penetration, not including foreplay) so if your expecting 30min-1hour, its a bit unreasonable.
It's not because we don't care about the girl. In fact, it would actually mean the opposite. That is, that we were so turned on by her and the actions that were preformed we couldn't stand to last any-longer.
IMO, it is pretty hard to control yourself when you are in "that state of mind and extacy" no matter what you do.
Thirty to an hour isn't sex, that's a love making session. I noticed you said "hooked up". If you're hooking up with guys don't expect it to last long. Maybe it's cheap, but I would have to really care about the girl if I wanted to have sex for that long. Granted, when you're younger it's easier to have sex and just keep going. Even after you have cum. But from the gist of it, it sounds like you want sex to lead up to one big finally for both of you right? I could make it an hour if I was doing most of the pleasuring. lol
I'm 22 I think I last a while in bed average about 20-45 minutes some nights I can't even cum. I blame it on drinking vodka and energy drink all night and being terribly dehydrated. I'm also not the guy women typically go for, so when it does happen I try to make it last as long as possible lol.
Why do so many girls get the notion that sex has to long so long.? do you know how hard it is to keep a d*** hard? not to even mention stamina
last * I was in a hurry
Ah geez, at your age you should have no problem with this!
i don't have a problem. just do not expect unrealistic stuff... however I am very happy with mine ;]
hey...you could find a guy who's into tantric sex like sting...except you're not supposed to come when you have tantric sex because you're supposed to "reabsorb your sexual energy that would have been released through coming" or something.
limitations of the human body. :)
i agree with kermit. its like blowing air in a balloon
no matter how big it is sooner or later its gonna pop if you keep blowing it... sorry for the unintentional puns.
Maybe have didn't find you attractive, maybe he thought you are attractive, maybe you was doing something right that made him c** in 5-10 mins. That the only situations I can think about. I remember my first time that I lasted about 20-25 mins.
That's better than my experience. With my ex, one clit orgasm and she was completely done for the evening. No working at getting me off, no penetration, no nothing- it was usually just orgasm, get dressed, and go on to something else. If I was lucky, she'd at least stay naked and give me something to get myself off to (I will say, she was damn good looking). Never a decent handjob or blowjob either (longest BJ she gave was about 20-30 seconds), which is pretty bad considering I made her come a few times from oral alone. I didn't usually finish during penetration either, but that was the fault of the condom, not her. Blue balls, ahoy!
In retrospect, our sex life was pretty awful, but considering now I don't even have one, I suppose it's preferable to nothing.
Message to all girls and guys in the bedroom - Why not both communicate and really try and please each other rather than get angry about it
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