Do I tell my friend that she's acting like a slut?

[Anonymous]

I have two best friends and we're all very close, we always go out the three of us together and their like my sisters. But one of my friends acts like a slut every time were out! She's only sixteen and she's still a virgin but because she's attractive she acts really slutty. Me and my other best friend are attractive girls too but we don't go on like that. For example a man came over to me last night and said I was hot, I smiled and said thank you, he said my friend was too she told him to have a good night. Then he told our other friend she was hot too and she started grinding up against him making sex noises in his ear (again, she's sixteen). We were at a club last night and the DJ told me and my friend that she was "a little slut". My boyfriends friends told me that if I keep hanging around with her then I'll get a name for myself too. I ignored this warning and went out for drinks with her last night anyway. Some guy was trying it on with me and I said no, I have a boyfriend, my friend told him that I didn't and to kiss me. Another guy grabbed my ass, I pushed him away and she told him that I loved it and should keep doing this. I was standing by myself all night because she kissed eight guys, men were coming over to me asking if I was alone or if I even had any real friends. It was very embarrassing for me. THEN this was the final straw. Friend: Hi! Me: Where the hell have you been? Friend: I'm just having fun. I'll be back in ten minutes. Me: Where are you going? Friend: I'm going to have sex at the back of the club. It's so exciting to finally be loosing my virginity! Me: YOUR WHAT!? Friend: I won't be long. Me: F*CK THIS. I'm going home. My boyfriend was at his friends birthday party last night but luckly he came to the club before he went home to see if I was okay. He saw me standing outside without my friend, I explain what had happened and he was so angry that she'd been trying to get these guys all over me. He wasn't happy at all to say the least. He called her a dirty slut. Some guy tried to by my other friend a drink last night and she told him not to buy my friend one and by her one instead. He said no he liked my friend so she started kissing his neck and biting his ear. We live in a small town and everyone knows each other, I'm not exaggerating when I say that almost EVERYONE calls her "the slut". It's really embarrassing for me and my other best friend, do we say something to her before it's too late? Or do we just let her get on with it?

[MandMandM]

Difficult one. She's exploring her sexual power over men, and obviously enjoying the attention.

The male views of her are the old unfair dual standard (many that called her slut would give their left nut to be able to attract so many women in such a short time). Some of the female views will be based in jealousy that she gets so many guys.

I'd have a word with her about the names other people are calling her to see if she's bothered and would moderate her ways. Trouble is even if she became a nun overnight, it can take a long time or be impossible to undo a reputation in a small town. She may have to move on to start over.

If you get into a conversation with her that hasn't been threatening to her, you should make sure that if she is going further that she has her because in order and is reducing her sti risks. If she ends up a very young mom she won't see most of these guys for dust. If she catches something serious it could mess up her whole life.

[KarKingJack]

Its the way she chooses to live her life. If you don't like the person she is, don't hang round her. You can tell her you don't like her if you wish, it'll probably upset her but be an honest thing to do. But you have no entitlement to criticize her lifestyle. She's young, she's enjoying herself, let her be.

[fireball11]

I think you should let your friend know that she could be in a position that could get her into a sticky situation soon. If you really do care about your friends well-being you should give her a heads up on what her future has to hold. I understand you guys are young and trying out new things, but you need to remember you don't want to regret things you did when you were "young and dumb". At 16 you still have your whole life ahead of you and maybe you should give your friend a nudge and make her see the big picture. Obviously I can't or you can't control your friends life, but if you are continually embarrassed by her you should probably find a better more suitable friend.

[LuckyRA]

Stop hanging out with her then

[Anonymous]

omg why are you still friends with her?