My boyfriend likes big boobs and I'm not quite big...?

[Anonymous]

I have medium B cups. And my boyfriend always told me he liked them and I felt happy and confident, even though he had said he was more of a butt man and I was happy about tha too, since I have booty. However, the other day we were arguing, because I told him how insecure I felt sometimes, and he gets tiredof that subject quickly so he got upset. I asked him if there was something he'd change about my body, he said he'd like it if I had bigger boobs. Of course, he was mad and maybe trying to make me shut up. Although later he said a lot of what he had told me was just out of anger, but that he actually likes boobs bigger than mine. When we have sex he plays with my boobs and sometimes even comments on how much he likes them. But now, in the back of my head, I constantly think about how he would like them much better if they were bigger. I can't talk to him about this anyway, as much as it makes me feel bad, because I know he hates talking about women's issues. He'll just get angry like the last time. I can't relate, since I don't have a preferred male body type, to me if it's average it's the best (no extremes, just normal, average guys. fat, thin, muscular, just not obese, or borderline manorexic, or bodybuilder types. You get the idea.), plus I care so much more about face and he's just so handsome.

[pwl0lwp]

frankly, any more than a mouthful is a waste ;)

it sounds like you're mainly venting a bit here, but fwiw it sounds like you're much more concerned about your own body look than he is.

you've asked you guy a direct question & he's answered truthfully. it sounds like he hasn't learned the rule about never answering questions like that truthfully ;)

guys are very much tuned to visual stimulation, and often dissociate the person from the image. what this means though is that although your guy mike look at a set of boobs he likes on another girl, it doesn't mean that he would want to swap you for that girl: he's with you because he likes *all* of the other things about you - mind, body, soul.

in short - try not to stress out about this. if bigger boobs are something *you* want (and not just to make your boyfriend happy), well there's always options for sorting that out; but bear in mind that if you have kids they may just fill out anyway.

good luck

[Hercules]

It sounds like he has serious issues with talking about your own weaknesses, wishes, and what he does that might offend you. Do you know why he has such a short fuse and seems to refuse to "be there for you" like you want?

[Asker]

Well, in all honesty, I have talked about my insecurities a lot of times. So I guess he's bored with the subject. In the beginning he'd be all like "Nonsense, you're beautiful! I love you", now he's like "Here we go again. I love you. So what if you don't have the best body? There are more importnt things. I'm sick of hearing you whine, I hate insecurity. Get over it already..."

[Hercules]

Ah. So you've taken it to an extreme. Any ideas on why you continue to be critical of yourself with him? I think he's made it pretty clear he loves you how you are, right?

[Asker]

I guess I'm critical about myself because: a) Through highschool, I was always the "ugly one" :/ I was called names, etc. That led me to believe I was truly ugly. I loved my friends, but they were very pretty and that didn't help much either, they got all the attention, always. b) Because I want to feel pretty around him, and well, he has told me about celebrities he finds hot and I know a couple of his exes and I look nothing like that :/ I know he loves me, but does he sexually desire me?

[Hercules]

If he has sex with you, I think he does.

[Linds]

This is in reply to the comment you left on Hercules' comment:

Ah, I've done this with my guy too and he pretty much started saying exactly the same thing yours has. We've had 1 too many fights about it and I've just decided to shut up. One thing that found to be a reality check for me was when he said "If you keep saying things like that, I'm going to start thinking it's true too." And I thought - wait, I don't want that to happen. Since then I've been working on not commenting on my own body, and we've never been happier.

[blahhh]

if he isn't happy about it tell him 2 like it or shut up.you have the right to be happy.dont let this boy pull you down. no boy is worth it.

[Jasper5566]

bet your gorgeous so there is no way to feel insecure. you should be proud of yourself because you hav that kind of body. he should be grateful .