They say no because sex just isn't as important as you would think to guys and if it is just sex with you, well it has to be super convenient to make the time for it. Worse, if it is casual sex only, well it is meaningless to them, they have no attachment to you and eventually may feel badly about doing this or just grow bored.
I had an ex who was seeing someone for 3 years before me. They had a sex-only deal and he tried to break it off with her a few times, but she kept pushing to keep it going. He was a player, but even he felt it was wrong to have an emotionless sexual deal with this woman. He just felt it was proving he had no heart or soul and he did not like that.0 0 0 0Maybe he already had plans to hook up with someone else...
0 1 0 0But I am the BEST SEX EVER! Plus I asked him if there was something he was not telling me and he said he has always told me. He is just not into the long distance deal.
Him telling you you are the best sex ever doesn't equal you are the only sex ever... Just saying, its a possibility that he's not exclusively only having sex with you.
No I agree, but I asked him if there was someone else, and he says no, it's the distance. I said OK, that just doesn't make sense.
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I have a long distance relation and couple of booty calls in town that asked for sex and I refused because I don't want to cheat. I told them that. I would have guessed he is in that situation where he starts to have another girl in his life. But you mentioned he said no. I agree with you, it's unusual!
May be he is afraid you're involved emotionally and he thinks that casual sex is a bad idea then. Or he's afraid of getting emotionally attached because he knows the long distance thing won't work. In either case he'd be trying to avoid a situation where feelings get hurt. If it's the case he is a mature person.0 0 0 0Oh I don't know... to not p*ss you off?
"You are sexy" = good thing to say to keep the door open for potential future booty call
"You are awesome/amazing/great/etc at sex" = good thing to say to keep the door open for potential future booty call
Then why, you ask, would he not want to hook up when he came to town? Sounds to me like he's got something else going on, perhaps a girlfriend (or soon to be) where he lives and he doesn't want to cheat on her.0 0 0 0That's what I thought, and I asked him about that. He said "No, there is nothing else. I have told you when I have starting to see someone. I am just not interested in the long distance deal."
Well either he's lying to you or he just doesn't want to have sex with you.
But what guy says no to sex, that's what I don't get!
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0 5Because maybe he's worried that either of you might get attatched to each other and then that would mean it would hurt him seeing as it would be long distance and it would make a lot of complications to put it bluntly.
0 0 0 0I asked him once if he thought there was more there between us and he said it was just sex. Still feel the same?
Hmmm, I don't know then, Sorry.
There's nothing more likely to make a guy rethink his decision than awesome sex. He doesn't want to be like "maybe this can work" when he knows it won't.
0 0 0 0I'd say if he's genuinely a nice guy he probably doesn't want to get attached to you since the long distance thing was deemed a "bad idea". Which one of you suggested it was a bad idea anyways? If you stated it first he might have just agreed so he could walk away on good terms.
If he seems shady at all, then he probably is getting tail somewhere else. And his comments were probably to boost your confidence for any future hook ups. Think of it like leaving the door cracked.0 0 0 0His idea to take a step back and realize the long distance thing doesn't work.
He is not shady at all, always been honest with me. I have known him since college. We have lots of mutual friends.
Does he think you are ugly? He calls you sexy, but sometimes men can lie, you know? Are you fat, how attractive are you compared to him?
Also, does hw think you may have STDs? Perhaps he had sex with you last time, and developed a rash or something? Have you been checked?
Also, are you married?
it seems odd that a man does not want to have sex with you. All men love to have sex. I would have sex if a woman wanted it.0 0 0 0Is is married? Have a wife? Children? That could be a problem...
0 0 0 0no, single, never married, no kids,
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