Do girls care if a guy is a virgin?

Question

I'm a 17 year old guy, and a virgin. I've been called good looking before, 6'3", average weight, glasses, green eyes, musician (Drums, guitar, etc) I don't have a six pack or anything but I'd like to think I am (I'd post a pic if I knew how), I'm kinda shy at first but once I've known someone for a week or so I open up quite a bit. I'm waiting for the right girl to make love to, because I guess I want to be in love when I make love (I hope that makes sense), I feel like if I'm going to bee that close to someone physically, I need to be that close to someone on an emotional level too. And I've made the mistake of telling on of my friends about this, and as you can imagine, it spread around FAST. A lot of guys call me "f**" "queer" you know. So I was wondering what you girls think, is it weird at all? I feel like I'm the only one in the world who feels this way...P.S. It's got nothing to do with religion.

HeatherJean131 · Accepted Answer

You are not alone. I feel the exact same way. I want to wait to lose my virginity to someone special. I want to know them emotionally and somewhat physically(holding hands, little kisses on the check, pecks on lips, cuddling) and feel that in my heart it is the right thing and that I am ready to move on in the relationship I am in before I just got and lose it.

Just don't listen to the guys calling you those horrible words. They just don't know how you feel about making love to someone and the meaning behind it for you. They probably go around calling you those names and make fun of you for wanting to wait but I bet deep down somewhere in their hearts and souls they envy you. They envy you for waiting and not just making love to the first girl you are with.

I hate how I go to school everyday and hear how so and so had sex or so and so did this and that together. I hate hearing those things I feel like really people you are Freshman in High School you shouldn't be doing that kind of stuff. I was and still so happy when I saw this question and got really excited because somebody understands me. They understand what I feel about the situation.

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zombiefood · Accepted Answer

A lot of girls feel that way. I think some guys do, too they're jsut too afraid to admit it. But don't be ashamed of it, just ignore them, you don't want to date them so what do you care what they think? It doesn't matter to me if my guy is a virgin or not. I might be worried that he might break up with me just so see what else is out there, ya know, experience sex with a few other girls, so he doesn't regret being tied to one. But... my current boyfriend has only had sex with one other girl and I've only had sex with one other guy and, being in that situation... I trust him, I don't worry any more if he'll get bored or something or start wondering about other girls. I think, as long as you're a good guy and you can show her you care about her and love her through the cute/special things you do, you don't need sex. And when it comes time, it won't matter that you're a virgin because, even if you're terrible at first you'll get better, probably quickly. And you can talk to her and she can tell you what she likes and doesn't like and through communication and trust you'll be amazing within the month. So, no, I don't think that many girls care. I wouldn't worry if I was you.

Good luck, I really hope you find someone special.

demonpixie · Accepted Answer

There is nothing wrong with you. I actually know a lot of guys who are virgins, and the ages are from 16 to 26. So don't worry about so much.
Now there are some girls out there that want to 'devirginize' men. It's like getting back at the male population or something. So watch out for these crazy women.
I totally understand what you're saying when you said you want to make love to someone you Love. There is a difference between making love and f***ing.
Don't listen to your friends. They will rip on you for a while, but something more interesting will come up sooner or later.
It's also a good thing that you are a virgin since you're still a minor. Focus on school and your career and everything will fall into place when the time is right. That special someone that you are saving yourself for will come around when you aren't expecting it. So enjoy life and don't worry too much what others say about you.

Message me if you have questions.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

DON"T WORRY DUDE YOU'LL BE FINE!

1. you're only 17!
2. does the average age of people drinking their first beer matter to you? no? why would you worry about the average age someone loses their virginity, then? it's really not important ;)
3. I met some girls, but never met one who actually did care that I was unexperienced, as long as you're honest about it I think some might find it really cute, some won't(but hey no one fits everyone)
4. For what it's worth, I lost my virginity when I was 21 and I don't give a flying f*** about what people think of that. I just waited for the right moment with a girl that I liked, there's nothing wrong with that and if people tell you there is something wrong with that, trust me, those are the most insecure people around! ;)

bottom line, you're constructing a problem which isn't there!
Live your life!

TigerRoseBear · Accepted Answer

I'm the exact same as you. I want something really special to share this special activity with, lol. Those guys who call you gay are just talking out of their asses. Don't worry about them. Most guys I know feel the same way about sex as you and I do.

ChelseaBSB · Answer

Finally a guy who knows how to think when it comes to love! It's sickening hearing guy brag about their sex life. If only they knew they were doing it with guys that their ladies have slept with lol. I totally agree with your decision on waiting for that special person. I'm 19 going on 20 and I'm still a virgin and proud of it. I'd rather be STD free and not pregnant thank you! I'm the same way with people. I'm a little shy at first but open up once you get to know me. I think one night stands are pathetic and a waste of love making personally. I respect you for waiting for the woman you fall in love with. Don't let anyone tell you any different.

shaking-cold · Answer

i would date you for sure, hah. it just shows you have self respect, and don't rush into things.

vmw2008 · Answer

I think that's really sweet and admirable. Those guys are immature and are just trying to hold you to the standard that men will screw anything that walks. And if it's any consolation, most guys who give in to that kind of pressure will admit that they regret their first time. That they wish they would've waited for someone else. I've had more than one guy tell me that before. So do what feels right for you. I think it's impressive and mature. Let them be "cool" and lose it in some drunken one night stand they can barely remember. <---yeah, that's really attractive. I'd want to date a guy like that lol (sarcasm)

udolipixie · Answer

Yes. He better be I don't want some cheap slut.

somnambulated · Answer

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. Some girls even get off on de-virginizing guys. And there are just as many girls your age wondering the same thing.

Brendi87 · Answer

You're not the only guy who's like this. I've heard stories =) and some guys prefer to be involved with someone they care about instead of some random chick. They may even go through a couple of random chicks until they go, "Ok, I had enough. I want a gf."

The problem is that once a man has done it, he doesn't want to stop. They can but it's frustrating, and they tend to lack self-control and sometimes even self-esteem. Also, men feel pressured to be more experienced than women in order to please them the right way or like no one has pleased them; so, they will practice a lot.

stillonfireforyou · Answer

NOTHING IS WRONG WITH BEING A VIRGIN... ...unless your 40.

mittens657 · Answer

oooooooh, green eyes are sexy, your a lucky guy. no, being a virgin isn't weird at all. my best friend's brother is in the same situation, he waited till he found "the one", turns out she was a virgin too, so don't worry. if I was around you and I heard you say that you were a virgin and waiting and blah blah blah, I wouldve thought yu were the cutest guy out. your one in a million.:p

SuperCurious · Answer

Thats a good thing :) my guy and I waited until we were really in love and all that and we didn't loose our virginity to each other until the month of my 18th birthday lol, its a good thing imo

queenofpeen · Answer

Maybe they don't feel like they have anything else to be proud of :P

LiliLippps · Answer

No, it is not weird for a guy to be a virgin! I have lots of respect for guys who are virgins because that tells me that they have respect for themselves and for the ladies! I atcually hope that the one I fall in love with and get married to is a virgin, so we can take each others' virginity and experience our first time together. I know some guys who are virgins and that doesn't make me look at them any other way. And don't worry about what other guys say, they're probably virgins themselves and they just wanna look good in front of their friends:P Don't be ashamed of being a virgin. I know any self respecting girl would rather a virgin over a guy who uses girls to get them into bed when ever they wanted... so anyway, just take your time and find the right girl, you have plenty of it!  She's out there somewhere and I hope you find her...  :) <3

calgirl · Answer

well, while the guys made fun of you I bet the girls fell in love with you. if I were 17 you'd be my dream guy

Filrtnumber1 · Answer

No, why should we? In fact, I respect you're beliefs a lot.

I don't know you, but the way you describe your feelings, and when and why you want to make love, really is cute. I think you should do, what you WANT to do.

Be who you are, just cause teens think its "cool" to have sex, doesn't mean you should. Do what you feel like you want to do. Its your BODY, not theirs.

You aren't the only one who feels this way. Trust me, when you LOVE someone, and you make love to them, it will feel TEN times better, and more comfortable. You know why?-- because, you know you've not been used, and you KNOW its not lust, but really love.

You're not a queer, you're actually way normal than most people out there.

FenFrann · Answer

glasses are smexy :P . I think your a really sweet guy . I think its romantic and that any girl would be lucky to have you. I know I'd be happy to fond someone like you !

Greeneyes4242 · Answer

Dude. I think I love you. No, but seriously, that's cool with me. I find that to be respectable, even. Don't worry about what those guys are saying. You're not going to be having sex with them anytime soon so ignore their stupid attempts at disses.

myspacemybroke · Answer

It's a instinctual thing. The more a male mammal has spread his seed the more worthy he is of being socially sought after. Of course in today's age we should be far past the neanderthal point of view when it comes to society, but unfortunately the majority of us are not. For the record though, I agree with you, unless of course I'm under the right influences in which case I'd poke a rock if it was willing.

MIMI0008 · Answer

I have the same ideology that you do. I'm waiting for the right guy to come along and just like you I want to be in love when I make love(and it does make sense).And I feel the same way I'm shy at first but the better I get to know someone I open up more.And I'm going to turn 18 on May 17 and still a virgin. But anyways I don't think its weird at all that you're still a virgin. Its just rare for a guy to be a virgin at that age is all(or to at least admit he's still a virgin). I find it very sweet and mature that you're waiting for the right girl to make love to because not many people have that same ideology. And you're not the only one in the world that feels that way

SteelersBabe · Answer

Theres nothing wrong with virgins:) I'm a virgin and I know from experience that it hurts when the person you love has had sex with sone girl.  You get over it, but it stung for a tiny bit.  As long as you know what you're doing, I would have no problens:D

elizabeth24 · Answer

aww its sweet. To know that a guys isn't gonna go after you for sex makes a realtionship so amazing. There is an emotional level first then a physical one later down the road I really like it