Do sexually dominant women exist?

[Anonymous]

I understand that for the vast majority of people: men typically prefer the dominant/top role in the bedroom, and the vast majority of women prefer the submissive/bottom role in the bedroom. My sexual partners have all been very submissive, and while I enjoy both being gentle and romantic and having my way with a woman, but I have never been able to "get off" in those situations. Yet, I climax easily and quickly when cute women half my size do things like tie me up, pin me down, scratch at me, push me against something, etc. I feel like I have to hide that part of my sexuality to be in a relationship :-( It sucks having women you care about cry because they can't get you off. Before I actually get far into relationships, how can I figure out if a women enjoys being sexually dominant or at least likes both roles(aka a "switch")?

[Anonymous]

i HATE being submissive!

but I actually prefer equality in terms of sex, I'm not great at being dominant either and I wouldn't want to be dominant all the time, but I never like being submissive and totally out of control.

my partner is naturally a Dominant but I made it clear at the start of our relationship that if he wanted me he'd have to leave behind that part of himself, because I just can't bare to be a sub, I just don't get off on that kind of arrangement. I knew it was a lot to ask but so far its worked well and we are very equal in the bedroom :)

in terms of how you can know, I think she will inevitably either let you know, or you will get the feel that she starts taking the lead or will say things to encourage you to do stuff to her. I'm quite shy naturally and in terms of things I like to do for my man people might mistake me for more submissive, and perhaps in general this is true in the relationship but not in terms of our sexual relationship.

i wouldn't hide the fact that you like being tied up and stuff, id happily do something like that for my boyfriend if he would enjoy it, but if he never mentioned it I wouldn't want to presume he would like it so make sure when you get to the sex in a relationship you both feel able to talk to each other about stuff like that. really early on my and my boyfriend had all sorts of talks, casual but still very informative, about our own sexual experiences, or in my case inexperiences lol, and just what we like, what we dont, what we're not sure about.

if my boyfriend wanted to go all Dom on me one night I'd let him as much as possible. I get scared by thought of getting tied up and having control taken away but id do what I could to give him something at least. its just all about communication. I think in a relationship you should be able to understand each others needs and giving each other what you want should not be a hard thing.

[Killcupid]

You've got the luck of the draw bubby because all the women I've come across or have been friends with are dominant as hell. I stand aside as an extremely fun loving maso-submissive. Sounds like you have a submissive side so try keeping an eye out for a switch. Dominant ladies tend to have switch tendencies from what I've seen so they're a little harder to spot.

[Handyman03]

There hard to spot hmmmm :( lol

[Anonymous]

Meet women in the BDSM community. They're usually quite open about whether they're dominant or submissive because they want a partner who will compliment them in the bedroom.

[MrScTi]

All the dominant women dwell in that gutter? Talk about the few...lol.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't say all dominant women, nor is it a gutter.

[Phoenix52]

Why try to figure out if a woman is dominant or submissive?

If you want a girl to dominate you, either request it the next time you bang. Or get her sexually attracted to you (get her horny) so badly that she'll practically rip your clothes off and pounce you. You gotta tease her and amp it up.

[Asker]

So eat her out, then deny her d*** even when she starts begging for it?

[Phoenix52]

I would go with making physical moves on her. Kiss, make-out, feel her up. Then back off and put your hand on your chest or leg in a seductive fashion. "If you want it, come get it". The best chances of this happening is when a girl is ovulating - 7-16 days after her period. So if it comes down to this scenario, I'd probably back off and ask her when she had her last period.

[Ashleigh25]

Do NOT ask her when her period was. Especially when you're horny and want sex. She'll probably have an automatic turn off (we're women. We're good at that)

[MarcusBorino]

I like switching off! I like a girl that is my equal that tries to fight me for dominance!

[WtfIdiot]

Lesbians. Too bad you're not a girl.