My boyfriend has been acting really "girly" when we have sex. Help me!

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend has been acting very "girly" when we have sex. HE IS NOT GAY! lol At least I hope not :O But like sometimes we are having sex and he will moan kinda like me or make very feminine facial expressions. I also noticed he's been taking more "feminine" positions like when we do 69 he wants to be on top or sometimes when I'm playing with my self to reach orgasm, he will put his ass in my face and bends over like a girl would and it is such a turn off for me Because his ass ain't all that. lol I love him very much, but let's just say I don't particularly love his body. He doesn't work out and as a result, he's not in very good shape. I never really complimented his body because I didn't want to lie to him, but I also never made any mean comments about it. But I can tell that he wanted me to compliment it, but like I said, I didn't want to lie to him So a few months ago, while we were having sex, he asked me what I liked the most about his body. I froze, Because I didn't have much to say. I thought, "well I like his d*ck" but I don't think that's what he's looking for." So I thought "well his ass is alright." lol so I told him that and I don't know if he is on a roll now since I told him his butt is alright and that's the reason why he has been behaving this way. but it's creeping me out! WTF! Why is he acting this way and have you ever experienced something like this? lol

[jst4fun]

Oh god, this has happened to me too. I got weirded out, said nothing, and quit the relationship. Im pretty sure thats not the best way to deal with anything, but I had to because I was really turned off and it wasn't worth having an awkwardly direct conversation about it... afterall, there's really nothing he can say to explain why he was acting like a girl in the bedroom. Also it would probably be pretty embarrassing for him , and he likely wouldn't get over that. Maybe you could mention something about how you think its sexy when guys shut the f up when they cum lol He probably wants you to peg him or lick his butt, neither of which I consider gay, necessarily, but maybe he's not sure how to go about being penetrated. lol Hopefully that doesn't sound overly crass, but its honest.

[screwlife]

to be honest it sounds like he is either gay or he's cheatching and he's with another girl that likes that type of stuff im so sorry to hear this and if its true im am so sorry for you but if it helps i know mine is cheating on me and i choose to stay and everyone is telling me to brake up with him but i can't if that makes you feel any better about whats going on

[Anonymous]

LMAO. FUNNIEST POST EVER.

[Asker]

Ha ha ha! I know!

[Opinion Owner]

having said that... yes... my ex was a feminine guy. he was hot though. but he knows that he's kinda feminine. does your guy own up to being feminine in any way?

[Opinion Owner]

wow I am still laughing over the butt thing.

[Opinion Owner]

the next time he does that with his butt in your face, aren't you going to have a hard time not busting out laughing cause you'll remember this post? I know I would be choking with laughter.

[Asker]

Emmm not really but he was raised by his mom so I kinda noticed he talked a bit girlie but I didn't think I was going to deal with this kind of sh*t! lol and thanks, you have officially "jinxed" it! Now I will never be able to keep a straight/disgusted face again ! lol

[Phoenix52]

Your boyfriend should STOP having sex with you for a while and get to the gym instead.

Let him build some testosterone in his body - that'll make him more agressive and dominant when he wants to f*ck you next time.

And this is another reason why girls get turned on by a bigger guy with muscles - because he's so masculine and packing the testosterone in his body. Meanwhile, toothpick guys may not be so bad, as long as the girl likes the nerdy, intelligent type who displays more passive traits that will let a girl have more freedom and breathing space in the relationship.

[Asker]

Well how the heck do I tell him that? lol I've tried suggesting working out (for health/a nicer body) but he gets really defensive :(

[l-hedoniste]

"it is such a turn off for me"

That's what he needs to hear. When he does something that really turns you off, you stop the sex and you say, "that thing you're doing, really turns me off." That *should* be enough to stop him, unless he gets off on making sex ridiculous, in which case he needs to tell you this.

[Asker]

Yeah but like I was telling another person, I just don't want to make him feel like he can't be himself around me. I love him so much and want him to feel like he can trust me, but the ass thing is just a no no no no! lol

[l-hedoniste]

There's a difference between being yourself and being a jackass; no one's true self is a moron. Also, we're talking about making the sex you're having work for you, something he should have a very great interest in.

[alcorn]

hahahahahaha that's so funny, um probably just watch some internet p*rn with him cause guys are guys on there. and he will start to mimic there behavior if you look interested in it. should get rid of the girlie behavior

[Even-I-can-do-it]

What are feminine facial expressions?

We all do strange things. I've been on top during 69.

Maybe he want's you to grab him or his ball$. I think a girl bent over like that is appealing but I can see where on a guy it might be disgusting.

Just say you like everything about his body & right now you love this & grab his d*ck.

I agree with the others he may want you to be the aggressor.

Maybe he wants a finger in his butt?

[thisGUYknows]

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. oh man, I don't know what to tell u. sounds kinda gay to me.

[Asker]

lol!

[Swampwater]

tell him to grow a pair. you don't need 2 pussies

[Ceekash]

Well he sounds gay to me ..u know not all gay people looks gay..

I Think you should talk to him about it. At somr poin you will so do it now

[ASjun]

LOL, I think it's time for him to get out of the closet.

[Tasha123]

Agree !

[Anonymous]

If he is going to offer his ass up to you have you considered getting a strapon? Maybe he want to catch for a change

[Anonymous]

when watching a movie or something comment, 'oh wow look at his (muscular) body!' see how he reacts ;)

[Asker]

OMG I've tried that and he gets so butt hurt! I feel stuck! lol

[Opinion Owner]

haha oh no, yeah thinking about that again; it would hurt his feelings! maybe watch p*rn with him where he's able to see some buff guys in it, and he may get horny and try and re-enact the scenes if you show you're enjoying it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he just wants you to be more dominant is all?

I don't know... his actions don't sound all that feminine to me...?

[Asker]

I've gotten that vibe from him, but lately he has just been acting so "girly". It's out of his character to act this way or maybe he was just not comfortable enough at the begining to show me this side of him and know he is?... I mean I can tell him that it turns me off and what not, but I don't want to hurt his feelings or make him feel like he can't be himself around me. Every time he initiates sex, I get so scared that I'm going to end up with a big ass on my face! lol