My boyfriend thrusted himself into my mouth during a blow job. Does he respect me?

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He is a super considerate guy... says he loves me.  Has never had many girlfriends so not much relationship experience and he is in his 40's.  We are both adventurous in bed and very sexual, dirty talk, etc.  But this to me was over the line.  Should I consider this a red flag?  I told him it was disrespectful and if he ever does it again I will bite it off.  Should I discuss it more?  I am actually really freaked out about it and wonder if it is providing some insight into a side of him I don't know.  We've been together for 6 months and he is a sweetheart overall... this really threw me for a loop.

islands7 · Accepted Answer

Well my woman will throw the switch to off if I was ever disrespectful or if even role playing into a rape scene. You would consider her the gold standard on zero tolerance for disrespect, e.g. come on t*ts OK but why ... never in face on purpose, never on knees to give BJ, seldom sex if it doesn't turn her on.

However, she does get turned on by f***ing her mouth (other wording stronger than yours) as part of the BJ scene. In this she will allow to be dominated. Otherwise, she likes the traditional kisses & hugging that leads to oohlala.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

omg you told him you'd bite it off? Lol. That's a bit much :p. Yea tell him you don't like it but I think he just thought it was hot not a sign of disrespect to you or anything :) If he disrespects you, he'll show it on other ways as well. Talk to him politely about it ;)

lananoel · Accepted Answer

When he gets into I've had it happen with my ex and my current. But they both asked for my permission. The issue is of communication. Example " do you mind if?" " I don't like it when." He was really enjoying it and yous aid he really cares.. I wouldn't have told him I'd bite it off I would just ask him not to do that its disrespectful to me. And I bet he felt guilty that he disrespected you. When you discuss sex just tell him to ask before he tried a new movement as to not cause problems. I do it with my man and were smooth sailin.

Shea25 · Accepted Answer

dont be alarm, he was so into it that he js wanted you to swallow the whole thing. he just got caught up in this moment of pleasure. you already told him that you dnt like it so no need to discuss it further, but what you can do if you dnt want to swallow the whole thing is to use your hand to stroke the rest of it, that way you can control how much goes in your mouth.

selfishstars · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't take it to mean he doesn't respect you (unless there are other things he does in the relationship that suggest that). It was probably in the heat of passion, or if he's inexperienced, maybe he didn't "think"/realize that you might not like it. You've told him you didn't like it. I'd leave it at that unless it becomes an ongoing issue.

Quadrophonic84 · Answer

Stop updating it with the same thing co*kass

Quadrophonic84 · Answer

Eh, people get a little crazy during sex. If he's really good to you he'll hear what you said and be more respectful of your wishes in the future. I personally am not a fan of grabbing the girl's head and doing that since what I enjoy is sitting back and letting her take care of everything.

primitive · Answer

no I just think he likes to get freaky...

he trusts you enough to let you wrap your mouth around it..

my ex was the same way; we dated for 6 yrs...its nothing to be afraid or ashamed of...

i say you do the same to him when he's going down on u.

ginny · Answer

Did he know you consider that disrespectful?

FenFrann · Answer

Well maybe you where so good at it , that it just went automatically .  I think it was that. it was good that you let him know that you do not like it . communication is good between lovers . you should be clear about what you like .

Longshot · Answer

During the excitement of sex it happens. You told him not to do it again. Enough said.

bhall20 · Answer

Are you kidding? Any man who has watched a minute of p*rn will want to do this to his girl. It isn't meant as disrespect. It is just something he wanted to experience. And it feels 100 times better. You should apologize to him.

msjay · Answer

Respect has nothing to do here that's just something that all guys like to do they like to see their girlfriends swallow.u are overreacting just talk to him and tell him your not into that