Help! My boyfriend has never gone down on anyone and I want it!

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has never gone down on me. He is in his late 20's, so I just figured he has done it and he didn't like doing that sort of thing. I asked him about it the other night and he said that he has never done that to anyone. I give him bj's all the time because I like to, but I would like a little something in return. How do I ask him to do it or teach him how to do it since he has never done that?

[craig_lyon80]

If he is willing to do it but not sure how then be patient with him. Talk to him about what you want and what works for you. Experiment together so you can both feel comfortbale with things and make sure he knows there is no pressure for him to do it or to get it perfect. I personally love giving girls oral sex and so I do not have this problem but for a guy that is not interested in doing it then he should never feel forced. Talk to him and find out how he feels and if he would be willing to try it and take it from there. If you are comfortable and willing to do it for him then that is great but it should never be done to be expected back, it is your choice whether you do it for him just like it's his choice to do it for you. If it is something that is very important to you then make that clear to him so he knows what you are expecting. If he is still unwilling to try it and you feel you cannot cope without it then you may have to rethink your relationship with him. I hope it doesn't get to that stage though but it is always best to be honest about your feelings.

[bhall20]

Tell him you are going on strike until he does it

[Asker]

funny lol

[Anonymous]

He's being selfish why are you settling for that? Stop giving him BJs, if he will not please you why bother doing it for him? Tell him straight up that you want him to do it

[CuriousEddie]

Just ask him to try it. Tell him you heard it is wonderful, and you'd like him to please you that way.

He hasn't said he doesn't want to, right?

[fengshui89]

If you have had traditional intercourse with him in different positions, try getting him to take a '69' position while you simply perform oral sex while you are both undressed. He will be lying down with you on top. He will have a view between your legs. Perhaps you try using your hands to pleasure yourself while you are going down on him. His view of this may insprire him to use his own hands to pleasure you. If this goes well, perhaps he may finally decide to let his mouth make contact. The key is to inspire him to want to try new things.

[Married-in-PA]

Totally agree. I wish I could have given you 2+ for this answer. I earned my pink badge of courages this very way. Also, she will have much more "control" this way.