Guys why do like to rub along your upper legs?

[Anonymous]

Why do guys like to rub along your upper legs? Also why did he kiss me on the thighs and belly? Was wondering about this and can't find much about it online, am not worried about it but was curious to know what these things mean, know he is not trying to get into my pants at all as he has said so and will take things at my own pace when I am ready to go ahead with things. (so far we have only closed mouth kissed :)) but I was just wondering what it means as he was rubbing my legs a lot and distracting me with kisses on the neck when he was rubbing my legs cause at times I had fun with him and instead distracted his hand lol though I am okay with it happening. Also when he couldn't reach my neck or shoulders or upper back he would kiss me on my upper legs and stomach over my clothes. he has also kissed me on the forehead, upper back, fingers and cheek as well as lips. I know he likes me a lot and we are both committed but if people could explain these things more I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks =) p.s. I am 25 years old for peoples notice and he is 28 years old. First boyfriend and I trust him totally. p.p.s. I don't have intimacy issues either but it is my first ever relationship so am learning as I go thus I ask this ;)

[MrOracle]

I would disagree; you almost certainly have some intimacy issues. You are 25, yet are at the stage in relationships that most girls get to by 15. There's something to that, for sure.

And your man is 28 years old. He's been an "adult" for a decade already, and sex is a normal part of adult relationships. And while it's great that he's willing to wait and go at your pace, if you really believe he doesn't want sex RIGHT NOW, you are really out of touch.

He is trying to be as intimate with you as possible and still follow your "no sex" rules, and, by being intimate, he's hoping you will give him the okay to go further. Again, I would expect a girl in Jr High not to know this, but by 25, you should have figured that out long ago.

What is it that you aren't telling us?

[Asker]

what is it that I am not telling you is that okay if you must know I was bullied and harrassed by GUY'S when I was at high school including having them breathing down my neck etc. If you must know not a pleasant time so thus I was not interested in guys till I met him. In other words I was scared of guys and didn't trust them thus why I have not figured it out at all as I WAS NOT INTERESTED IN ANY GUYS AT ALL! if you must know I thought they were all losers who I couldn't trust till I

[MrOracle]

Actually, that's a better answer than many you might have had. Some men are definitely a-holes, and even dangerous, but those guys are the exception, not the rule. It's unfortunate that it's taken you so long to learn that, but at least you have. Just remember that it is natural for adult men to want, maybe even expect, for things to go faster. You're a decade behind most women your age, and men will have to adjust to that a bit.

[GingerGuy]

Because they are erogenous zones for a lot of women and a lot of women enjoy those things, especially as foreplay. Do you ever to that to him? It's the same reasons probably. My girl often touches my upper leg.

[minerva_milano]

He kisses you over your clothes? that's weird...

we usually use kisses to FEEL the partner, I MEAN, SKIN, you know?

I think he is just trying to show you that he likes you, and want you to feel appreciated.