Does he like me because I am a virgin?

Well blasting this off over the internet is fun - but um thank god nobody know who I am but I met a guy and he is wonderful and he tells me how smart and amazing I am and that there is no girl out there that never drank or smoked or did drugs in her life or whatever else girls do but he found out I am a virgin and now he can't stop talking about how I should have sex with a good guy and all but I really want to know does he actually like me for me or because of my situation? And why must guys always want to pursue virgins?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • From literature + history, virgins are portrayed as being pure and vulnerable.

    Guys, for a number of reasons, get turned on when they seduce a virgin girl.

    One of the reason would be that the idea of being that "special guy" who took her virginity away is a fetish for many guys. However, ironically, whenever a guy tries to do this, they're never the "special guy"... One advice, if a guy starts saying things like "Oh, you should have sex with a good guy", don't even think about losing your virginity to him, because he probably says the same thing to every other virgin girls.

    I, on the other hand, prefer virgins because I'm really not into girls that are playful.

    I like girls that refrain themselves...it kinda makes you feel special when they open up to you you know?

  • Don't be so quick to sell yourself so short: I'm sure you have other things going for you besides your sobriety :) I imagine you have some boobies and a peekachoo too, which most guys are pre-programmed to hunt for, so don't be so surprised.

    Savor the moment and embrace your goodies. Sometimes it's not that important "why" someone likes, just that they do. There's nothing wrong with letting people into your life, you can still enjoy their company without giving them the keys to the bounce house. A friendship is a nice place to start, where you take it from there --  is entirely up to you.

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  • It could be that he's a virgin-hunter, or he's just legitimately surprised to find a girl your age (I'm turning 21 soon and a virgin too so it's not like it's a bad thing). I would say that only time will tell and reveal his true genuine or hidden motives in due time. You sound like you enjoy talking to him and getting to know him so just take things one day at a time. You can be smart and still have fun.

    And there are guys who like and dislike virginity. It is what it is. I'm more interested in a guy who likes me first and foremost, regardless of sexual history or lack thereof. Sex shouldn't be brought up straight away, that doesn't do anyone any good.

    -Jaguar mouth

    • I will actually follow up on what you mean - thanks!

    • You're welcome. I hope everything works out, if not, there's another learning experience for you. :)

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  • I just think he wants to have sex in general... He is basically a nice guy, then pitches that you should sleep with a nice guy. Being 'smart' he uses the fact you're a virgin and says you should sleep with someone like him. But if he was really a good guy, he wouldn't be pressuring you into anything with anyone.

    • so basically he believes since I am inexperienced and since I have never had an actual relationship I would fall for that easily - hence me supposedly being smart (about it)?

    • He thinks that since you haven't already lost your virginity that you will want it to be special and up to now he has probably been very nice (lets face it if he was a jerk you'd certainly not sleep with him), so basically he'll tell you that you're best to lose it to someone good. So he's basically indirectly suggesting you should sleep with him.

    • i figured and thanks for clarifying it!

  • I didn't ask you for sex, just sayin'.

    • hahaha...but I think you did...

    • You wish, maybe if you're a good girl I'll think about it. ;)

    • hahaha...LOL...I am not such a good girl so sorry ;D

  • It sounds like this guy and most other men around the age 18-25 just wants to get laid and this dose not mean you can't have a stable relationship with him but he saw an opportunity to be with you and he took it.

    • actually he is 30

  • gotta pop your cherry sometime or another

    • ok thanks I guess