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Big Muscles, Small Package. Am I Shallow?

So I was kinda dating this guy who I really nice, sweet and hot (big muscles). A couple months later we got Intimate and OH Surprise! His package was really thin and small. I felt like laughing because that was just so ironic, but like a good girl I didn't say anything and finished. I couldn't really believe it after that I just did not want to know much about him, so I did the guy thing and did not really talk to him for a while. Is been almost a month and a half and I'm starting to feel bad. He obviously got the message now and stopped being persistent. My reasons for my behavior are not only due to his small penis, but because I got scared that I was getting really comfortable with him and I have been hurt a lot and the fact that he has a small d*** didn't matter much to me was also scary. He actually did a really good job with his mouth but I don't know if putting up with his small package is something I want to do in order to have a relationship...am I being shallow? and if so how can I fix things? I feel like I did something wrong, or did I do the right thing?
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P.S. iS not like if I'm only into Big Packages, my previous boyfriend was actually not big, more like average. And Muscles guy had other things I didn't like(obsessed with money)Is not he repulses me like I said "I was Getting Too Comfortable with Him" and
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Why I Mentioned the"laugh"was because it was Ironic,I just assumed that a guy like him would have at least an average size package not such a small one.NO! I'm not into looks, but along with other personal traits,it was what made it easy 4 me 2 say BYE
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  • Yes, you are shallow. Justify myself here you go:

    1.) You posted this on the internet describing and listing facts. If you have to ask then...

    2.) You were a good girl because you didn't laugh? If anyone is considering laughing during an intimate moment you do not deserve it in the first place.

    3.) Thinking and judging someone before you even partake in upon it. He can't help what he was born with, like you said he did a good job.

    4.) Not talking to someone is not a guys way out, its a cowards way out.

    5) Attempting to justify yourself by bringing up past relationships. Like this guy has any control over what asshole hurt you just like you did so to him.

    6.) You keep bringing up his penis even though it is rather irrelevant as the biggest sexual organ is the brain.

    7.) Anyone who has the mindset "putting up with" can walk away anytime they want. People are who they are. Height, eye color, penis size, breast size ect...You should love them the way they are born with all their positives and flaws.

    Figure it out yourself.

    • Well the part about laughing was because he is a big muscular guy and has a small d***...its ironic because movies make jokes like that so when we see it in real life it's like, "HA! It can be true." I completely agree with you on everything else though.

    • Hmmm? Guess I gotta watch some more movies outside of action and horror to understand why guys who partake in a healthy lifestyle are laughed at?

    • Well I don't get they make so much fun of it but I do get what she means, not that it was right because it wasn't.

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  • lol I don't think so he was obviously overcompensating for something. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be happy. We all have preferences and there is nothing wrong with that.

    • lol thanks!

    • Oh got to love the internet! Sugar coating answers always works the best these days.

    • haha yup!

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  • i don't believe in the word "shallow".. I mean in all reality we're gonna like what we're gonna like. having a preference or wanting something specific in a person isn't being shallow. all the people saying he can't help it, he was born with it, blah blah blah.. well that may be true and it may suck.. but in the long run if his penis doesn't make you happy the first couple times, it won't forever so why waste time? I'm not saying that's all a relationship is about but whether people like to admit it or not sex is a factor in a relationship. is it "shallow" to not date a girl because you simply don't like brown hair and she is a brunette? it doesn't mean you think she's a bad person, she's just not a girl you're interested in, physical feature or inner beauty. its your preference.

    • Agreed. Do you ever get the feeling that people that think that everyone should be judged purely on their "inner beauty" are in the same category as those that only judge people for their "outer beauty". A person is the entirety. Inside and out. If I really love someone I want to love all of them, their sense of humor, their personality, their interests, their eyes, their smile, their skin, etc.

    • I agree! thanks for your input

  • Shallow? Yes and extremely judgmental towards someone you are seeing. You had no problem with him until you saw his d***. Then not talking to him is almost as bad as laughing at him and that isn't just the guy way of doing things a lot of girls do it too. I feel really bad for him because you acted like a complete bitch towards him.

    But to finish answering your questions...Yes you're shallow...No you probably can't fix things (You should apologize though)...You should feel that way because you did do something wrong.

    Next time remember who the guy is and not what's in his pants.

    • if someone doesn't like me just because of my boobs, it doesn't make them shallow, I just didn't have everything they were looking for in a person. and hate to break it to everyone but people are allowed to like and dislike people for their inner OR outer beauty. people will leave others for what's on the inside, so why can't they leave them for any other reason they want if it doesn't make them happy?

    • She isn't shallow because she doesn't like if small penis. She is shallow because she let that one fact about him define him even though everything else is good. Sorry to break it to you that judging people by your preference or anyone else s will get some called shallow.

  • I LOLed at the title.

    The size is not ironic, what's ironic is he doesn't realize that the bigger he gets the smaller "it" looks by proximaty.

    This is why I go for men who are not into bodybuilding, wear clothes and for some reasson look very calm, friendly and comfortable all the time. They usualy have nothing neccesary to compensate for. They usualy are more interesting people anyway, you can actualy have a conversation with them without seeing them try to flex for you like a puffed up peacock.

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  • Yes it shallow but there's nothing wrong with it.

    If you feel he didn't satisfy you physically because of his small package, its a problem and its as simple as that. If he did satisfy you physically despite that... then your an idiot and dumped him for nothing. =)

  • Ask yourself this question: What if a guy finds out a woman's boobs aren't quite to his expectations, is it OK for him to bang her and reject her based on his standards despite her quality in bed, oral skills and/or personality? I bet women would get downright pissed if a man did that. But hey, we all have our requirements right?

    WRONG!

    It's not the size of the packages folks, it's the quality of the person with what they have. Assuming that tall, handsome muscular men and tall, big breasted athletic women are the only ones who are satisfactory is wrong. I don't give a half-rat's rectum if some people think it's just whining, to judge others this way is just plain ignorance. Of course people have the right, yet having the right does not mean it's the right thing to do.

    The defense rests

    • This is a great answer!

    • The sad part is that some out there disagree with my argument. Must be the selfish folk

  • I'm sorry, but you were attracted to him based on his looks and muscles so you liked him superficially. Then you dropped him like a pair of old underpants when you found out he wasn't packing something else superficial. I'm not going to say you're shallow, but it doesn't sound like a deep relationship either way.

    • haha I know, and I think that's why I been feeling guilty lately

  • If you don't like guy for whatever reason that is not shallow. If you do not talk to him after sex because "he is small" that's shallow. You should at leas be little sensitive and straight with him. He deserves it. We are ego-sensitive and you put him down. He must have felt terrible.

    • do you think he knows his d**k is small? do you think he knows that's the reason why I stopped talking to him?

    • Yes, he knows. Almost every man measured his ... And he most probably thinks that that's the case, that you didn't talk to him because of that. He would even if that wasn't the case.

    • aww man. Do you think I can still do something to fix things?

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  • If they aren't sexually able to meet requirements then it's not shallow, and she did give other valid reasons for breaking it off.

    Although- she did say he was good with his tounge.

    And regardless she shouldn't of just stopped talking to him he deserved an expliniation

    • I think you are right about giving him an explanation. I've had a girl tell me straight up that my penis is too small. I appreciated that and we're now friends. I just don't get why girls feel they have to tell all their friends. I feel bad enough about having a thin, 3 inch penis.

  • Sexual stimulation is very important in a relationship, and nobody should just settle with being unsatisfied... I respect you for asking if shallowness is the reson for you feeling guilty...If you didn't care than, no... your here to ask if others had issues with this, right?... Everyman has an unanswered question about their size or performance, if you told him straight out than you could have devistated him for life, so thankyou for not doing that, or at least he thanks you without knowing it,lol... Thankfuly my past GF's come back for some play time, but have a hard time dealing with my personal attitude for whatever reason, so take your pick lol...

    But he's probably the guy who just posted: Am I shallow because this chic I was with had the biggest Grand Canyon of a snatch that smelt like a wet dog in mid summer !

  • buy a dildo

  • NO! But shallow will do til they come up with a owrd for how cruel that is! I hope you're built like Dolly Parton or a stripper, or some day some guy you're interested in may want to laugh at the size of your boobs N reject you, N you'll see how it feels. N it sacred You that the size was OK? It's SCARY to have a heart N be a decent person? DAMN, YOU'RE COLD...

  • I thought about answering this question with some thought, but the fact that you chose RT's response as your best answer, you really just wanted someone to tell you what you wanted to hear. So here it is: no, you aren't shallow.

    But look in the mirror, I hope you see Gisele Bundchen looking back at you because if you don't some guy will probably be posting a question soon like "Superficial girl, unfortunate looking face. Am I shallow enough?".

    • haha I think you're right. I'm good looking but not a model and I don't just wanna hear I'm right, I feel bad for a reason

  • The facets you initially described for ditching him are shallow. Some of the ones you later invoked aren't. It is hard to answer the question on such conflicting information, and probably wouldn't change what you've done or how you think.

    You should just hope that one day somebody you care about other than yourself doesn't chuck you out because they didn't like some normally private part of your body that you can't do much about.

  • yeah he was trying to cover for that with his muscles and his looks I guess. I tend to date guys who happen to be average for the most part. only two who were just on the small side and I dumped them not because they were tiny but because they had sh*tty attitudes. been there done that.

  • I think your projecting all the things that were going wrong onto the fact that you didn't like his small penis to make yourself feel guilty =[ Which you should try and get out of. A lot of people do that, without thinking, they make themselves into bad guys...

    Have you come to terms with this though? Its been 2 months

  • I’m small

  • if he really matters to you it shouldn't matter. if you're just in it to make yourself happy, find someone with a bigger d*** lol

  • I think you were shallow, yeah. Too late to do anything about it now. Just accept that you're shallow.

  • I lolzd, that would suck for him... Poor guy. And poor you.

    • hahaha

  • you like what you like. no one can change that

    • thats right!

  • why? that is why most of those morons want huge muscles because they have small c ocks. all guys know that.

    • umm yup I heard that too

  • sounds like you were something of a c unt.

    • hahahaha

  • I just want to say, I found All of this hilarious. (Comments included)

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