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I have small B's. And no, my frame is not small, I'm not skinny or athletic. I'm a freakin' pear shape. And yes, some guys say that smaller is better, but I don't buy that for a second. Why is TV plastered with huge boobs then? What about Playboy, Penthouse, and well, most porn? Strippers? Argh!I know I should feel beautiful and confident and all that, but it's so hard when everything I see are big breasts being adored. people always tell me well look at small chested celebs like Keira Knightley, etc., well they're gorgeous and very skinny, they suit them, not me, I'm very curvy in my lower body, and look disproportionate up top.My boyfriend loves me, but all his celebrity crushes have big breasts. Also the porn he watches, big breasts. He says he likes mine, but he prefers bigger ones, but that he loves me and he's not perfect either so I shouldn't fret. But I do, regardless!Anyway, it's not enough to hear just a handful of guys say that small breasts rock, because usually they also like AA or A's, not B's. Then are the guys that like big ones. Ugh. What can I do? I feel so ugly, I never see my body type being glorified and feel hideous, I want to cry! It's always the uber skinny type or the busty ones.

Amor3x0 · Accepted Answer

Wow, learn to love your small breasts.  My friends who are big breasted have so many back issues and some of my friends cry over it.  Men aren't thinking about the physical pain a female can go through with big breasts.  Men aren't compassionate beings as much as females are.  And those stupid celebrities are fake who were created by the media.  Those celebrities are probably 90% plastic who do crash diets, some have eating disorders, most have personal trainers up their butts 24/7.  So if men think those girls are attractive who have big breasts and everything synthetic then I guess most men adore the dangerous near fatal sad life of a celebrity.  So yeah I don't know why guys like big breasts but what I can say is that the media brain washes a lot of people and guys are more suseptible to it since guys are naturally attracted to women.  If we didn't have so much bad shit we have today men would be completely different.  Men were kind of made to follow women and their beliefs so when women stop acting like sluts and trying to make their bodies fake then men will adjust to women just being simply natural and beautiful.  Women have to make the change really.  So yeah I guess I gave you a couple of reasons why.even though it is really sad.  I have small boobs and I love them and no one can change that about me.  You need to love your breasts and get rid of those who tell you differently.  Fill your life with positive people and for goodheavens sakes get rid of that boyfriend.  He watches porn when he's with you and he tells you he prefers big breasts? ok he's being honest but he's a dirt bag who doesn't respect you.  Love yourself and be with someone who will love you just as you are.  You don't need to be with someone who makes you second guess your body.  I honestly don't know why men are attracted to sacks of fat but once I can figure out the mind of a man 100% I would be rich as hell and Id let every girl know.  So I'm as lost as you are but I do have some ideas.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't find that big breasts are adored, honestly, I get a lot of trouble from having DDD/E sized breasts. its been said before, the breasts in porn and attached to celebrities are synthetic, and when growing up as a teenager, exploring their sexuality through porn, they're only exposed to a certain style of body, which gives them unrealistic expectations.

I guess I'm like you but backwards, I don't have very wide hips or an ass to match my breasts, I look top heavy, and its awfully painful.

I would kill for small breasts, if it worked like that.

I hate that men stare at my breasts instead of my face, I guess it happens regardless of the size, but my are abnormally large for my body type so I guess its kind of a novelty.

Also, I have to add models hardly ever have big breasts, characters in television shows generally don't have large breasts, and if they do they're a slut.

Large Breasts means sex, which creates a kind of demeaning picture of women.

I'm not going to tell you to be thankful for what you've got, because it sucks, but you and I are seeing two different stories, I'm seeing the negatives to large breasts and you're seeing the so called "positives".

You know, I bet the models and playboy and stuff don't get to enjoy good food because they ahve to starve themselves, they're never going to live a real life, have people admire them for their intelligence or charm, they aren't going to be able to have people like them because of their personality.

oh and by the way, its been proven that men are more attracted to women with large hips because of their child bearing qualities, keep that in mind.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

hmm I don't know the answer to your question.but I do know a lot of guys who prefer smaller breasts, so I wouldn't feel too bad.

I'm a size A and yeah I used to feel pretty crappy because of it but.the guy I'm dating right now says he loves them the way they are, and it just doesn't seem to bother me anymore.

I think our culture has just been affected by so many advertisements with big breasted girls that it is now seen as sexier to have a bigger bust.

All I know is everyone has different preferences and you shouldn't let those magazines get you down. One of the biggest problems with our culture is how much advertisements etc. try to influence us (in everything, not just looks), and it's scary how much they succeed.

I think what your really crying over is your perfect version of how you think you should look, not what your boyfriend wants. If he really loves you (which I gather he does), he doesn't love you anymore because your beautiful. Your beautiful because he loves you.

So I hope eventually you can learn to love yourself, just like he loves you.

The extra confidence this gives you should make you even more irresistible to him =)

hope that helped

Infogirl · Accepted Answer

I used to work in an upscale gentlemen's club (AS A WAITRESS) and there were girls there that would sometimes make more money than the big breasted girls and lots of guys liked them too and I'm not just saying that I've seen it. One man asked me "Can you find a Russian girl to sit with me-but I don't want any huge floppy breasts" I told this small chested girl to go sit with him and now he always requests her when he comes in. Really-some men do perfer it.

As for playboy: there are small chested women in playboy now. Have you seen the girls next door? Well the twins on the one episode had small breasts, but they were still popular.

J Lo. has small ones and a curvy bottom(like you) and lots of men like her.

Look-your boyfriend loves you for who you are, maybe it's a good thing you've got small ones because you know he's not just with you because of your boobs. However, if you keep complaining about this to him he may think your right and have no confidence so stop. Don't compare yourself to other people-especially not pornstars and strippers lol it's not healthy

Subotai · Accepted Answer

Well I am kinda short and that sucks sometimes some girls will just ignore me or write me off for it.  But you can't let that get to you.  I am not proud of the amount of knowledge I have of p*rn stars and strippers, but honestly there are whole p*rn websites dedicated to girls with small boobs.  Liking women with big figures isn't rare but it seems like its actually the minority, look at all those skinny little celebrities.  Last but not least you said you are curvy in your lower body, well I'm a booty man anyway, most  men in the world are.  Also don't ignore the value of taking care of your hair and having a big smile and knowing to yourself you are beautiful.  I am sure there are plenty of men that find you attractive, and unless you want to become a p*rn star or stripper yourself you are not trying to catch the attention of all guys, hopefully just one at a time.  When you have a boyfriend maybe you will worry he finds some other women, more beautiful more sexy or whatever, well don't think about that he's with you.  And guys worry all the time about whether their girlfriend or wife thinks about other men the answer is yes and so what.

dave216 · Accepted Answer

Please God, grant her the serenity to accept the things she cannot change; the courage to change the things she can; and the wisdom to know the difference.

sarah-a180 · Answer

Hey sweetie, I think we all hate certain stuff about our bodies. We just can't match up to the girls on TV & in magazines. And it hurts not to feel as beautiful as we want, it just does.

If you wanna know why guys are like this, I think it's kind of a mystery. There are some theories that big breasts are an indicator of fertility or that the extra fat means the girl's more likely to survive with her child. I also heard this theory that, back as we evolved (and before women really had a choice in whom they slept with), the men who went for breasts were the ones who were differentiating between women and children, which is a good thing.

My personal theory: breasts *are* sexual, and a sign of womanhood. And humans (especially men) just tend to get fixated on the biggest and best, even if bigger isn't inherently better. Women can get the same way about penis size: bigger doesn't necessarily feel better, but it can still be more exciting.

I don't know what you should do. I'd say you should think about implants. I mean, none of us are perfect: why shouldn't we make ourselves better? And, you know, work on your body or your body image too. There are therapists, workshops, books, etc. that might help you be happier with what you have.

But I still say get the implants. It seems like it'd make both you and your boyfriend happier. You can always get them out if you change your mind. I think they've become pretty good at keeping the sensation and the ducts you need for breastfeeding.

lolabear · Answer

guys, from a lot of what I've heard, are ok with just a handful. there's also usually 5 types of guys:

1.guys who look at butts

2.guys who look at boobs

3.guys who look at faces

4.guys who look at legs

5.guys who look at stomachs

however, these guys don't always go for the girls that make the most sense with what they like, that's why your boyfriend doesn't mind your breast size. he's most likely a boob guy who thought you were really pretty. be glad for that. =)

really, though. my guy friends tell me all the time, sure big boobs are great, but a handful is really nice, no matter what shape the girl is.

the-carrier · Answer

I have a friend who just had a boob job, she got her's enlarged from an A to a B.  She's an exotic dancer (she hates the term stripped) and she reckons since she did that her requests have more than doubled.  We were discussing boobs with her co-workers the other day and I asked her why she didn't go a bit bigger, especially considering her chosen career and all.  She and her co-worker replied simultaneously "Any more than a handful's a waste."  Big boobs are fine to look at but what service do they perform?  And when you're getting down and dirty they tend to get in the way and get squashed and get hurt.  I don' tknow why bug breasts are adored, I guess because they portray an image.  when you look at big boobs you think of sex.  When you look at smaller boobs, you don't necessarily think of sex.  My question to you is, if you've already got yourself a wonderful man who loves you as you are, which it sounds like you do, who cares what the rest of the world likes?

Curious-Plumber · Answer

I love breasts. The sad thing is many celebs and pornstars get fake breasts which is a huge turn off. I don't want to hump a plastic barbie doll, I want a woman. Any size natural breasts are superior to huge plastic domes. BTW I love small breasts, but I love a girl's face and personality a lot more. If a girl had a cute face, great personality, and huge boobs, I would like her...if a girl had a cute face, great personality, and small boobs, I would like her...end of discussion.

Blindness · Answer

I think your hostility is the bigger problem.

peace-love-couture · Answer

You do want sympathy or you would not have created this question

im-captnobvious · Answer

that is very sad how you feel about yourself. but I can say taht I am on the other island, and often don't feel manly enough. I'm not strong and marginally athletic. but that is another subject for another time.

i haven't read all of the posts but here is how I feel about the subject.

big boobs are nice, but too big is bad just as too small. boobs are, however, one of the last things I notice in a girl.

hmm. I think you are only somewhat understanding. think of it like this. your going to buy a nice sports car. so, you go out and find the one with the biggest engine and the widest tires with the fastest times. Before you buy it, you get home only to find the only other one of it's kind that was ever made parked in your driveway because your rich uncle decided that you would like one.

after looking at it again you notice that it does not have big cupholders and a small backseat and therefore it would be unplesant to drive and you then have the car shipped off because no one would buy it and you would never find a use for it. is this how you would really react?

im guessing not. I'm hopeing you would be more excited with the car as a whole, and sure, you LIKE cupholders, but who cares!

same wit boobs. if she is nice and has a nice body (which, a good face is better than any amount of good boob)does your boyfriend want big boobs? who doesn't? but I highly doubt that your boyfriend thinks that those celebertiys are hot because of their boobs.

personally though, small boobs are not a turn off, but saggy ones are and small boobs don't get saggy so you are a little bit ahead there. sorta. if your fat enough to have a saggy body then, that's more of a turn off then ever.

the tv is wrong too. Think about the other way around. i.e. do you like guys who wear makeup? unless your weird then probably not. yet all of the actors wear it!

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

well sometimes if you adjust your diet, it helps improve your bust size or taking certain vitamins to help (but check with a doctor first) and also try to be happy with yourself and not fall under pressure. I feel that most guys , they dont' know it, but it's hurtful if they say you need breast surgery or to change yourself for them. I don't listen to guys anymore, I do what I want and I still look hot. so you just need to work on things like playing up the features you have that are hot and maybe find healthier alternatives like eating foods that help with bust size and that's what you can do if you can't afford surgery.

londongirl357 · Answer

From a girl's perspective, I think medium to small sized breasts are the most attractive. So there's something there, but they'll last well (lol) and aren't gonna be all saggy by the time you hit 30. Hey, at least your breasts will never be around your knees, right? I'm a large B so I kinda get your pov, and I think most guys like Bs or Cs so don't worry. Super crazy big breats are fine on screen in porn or for one night, but most guys wouldn't want a girlfriend like that (I don't think). I'm a pear shaped too btw, quite a petite/slim one, but it's damn annoying not being able to have slim thighs no matter what I do! At least we tend to have small waists and curvy hips, even if our fat distribution is a bit munt =D

Jarett · Answer

I LOVE smaller breasts.  But with that being said, most girls that have smaller breasts also have the smaller frames and are skinny.  I think that most guys won't care as long as your chest matches your body.  If you're so upset about your body, why not join a gym and tone up?

JustDance · Answer

listen. this is what I think

Boobs of all sized, I LOVE> just because theyre boobs lol. and I want to see them and play with them.

Now, depending on the girl it can be attractive or not. AS LONG AS YOUR BOOBS ARE PROPORTIONAL TO THE REST OF YOUR BODY, you are fine. Small, medium, large, XXXL lol.

i like small boobs just fine. The girl I'm in love is quite skinny and she has small A cups from what I can tell.. I think she is just perfect in my eyes. Nothing wrong with small boobs.

What you should be worried about is shallow guys. And in your young 20s or teens, you will meet a lot of them.

DagoFlip · Answer

I'm going to be upfront about this. I'm being completely honest. Yes, we DO care about boobs. Yes, we DO care about your figure. But who the HELL says that we have to like big boobs? Who the HELL says that we have to like skinny girls? I, personally, SERIOUSLY don't like big boobs. They're too much of a distraction. A lot of my friends don't like skinny girls. We like someone we can actually touch without breaking. I mean, think about it. Are Playboy bunnies real? NO. Are celebrities real? NO. Is the media and TV real? NO. NEVER listen to tv. It protrays their "perfect woman" so you will buy their products. You ask why big breasts are adored? Well, it's an evolutionary thing. Men are attracted to breasts because it shows a sign of nurturing, and can better feed the offspring. Same with women with curves, those show that the woman can safely carry the baby in the womb safely. It's all on a subconscious level.

But, we really do care about how you look. But it's a matter of what we LIKE. Just because someone looks good on TV doesn't mean all men on earth are going to like that type of woman! I, personally, like B's and C's. Those are my favorite. And pear shaped? So what?!?! YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND. If he didn't want you, he wouldn't be with you. But he is with you BECAUSE HE LIKES YOU. Your not hideous, your not ugly, your beautiful. Take pride in the person you are. If you don't like who you are, nobody else will like you either. If you do love the person you are, everyone else will love you too!

smokeadmiral · Answer

Well I know you say you don't want sympathy so I won't give you that. But what I will say is this. The media has pushed so hard and long for women to have a skinny body and large breast that now all women have a sense of insecurity if they are able to conform to that type of body. Truth! and not SYMPATHY is that many many men...this one included happen to prefer a woman that has more thickness and curves and smaller breast. I don't say that to "shut you up" but to tell you that many of us guys don't and haven't bought into the stereotype body that has been pushed on women for so long. It's not the majority of men's preference so NO the media doesn't represent me or most men on what we want in a woman's body. Take it for what its worth.

scar1 · Answer

some guys like small boobs but most don't, my friend complains about sweat build up and sloppines that according to him comes is associated with big boobs most of the time. he also complains about not being able make out properly because of it. personally personally pear shape sounds hot as long as there is no bad fat (fat around your mid-section or sloppiness) and small boobs aren't my preference but not a big a deal

sparklebuds · Answer

Breast size is totally a matter of opinion. I'm a C cup and my boyfriend loves my breasts. Most guys like big boobs but it's not something they have to have. Because you can't really control breast size. Most of my guy friends say, "More then a handful is a waste." So I guess guys like breasts that fit in the hand? And even if you aren't super skinny that doesn't make you ugly. Love is in the eyes of the beholder, your boyfriend likes you the way you are so you're fine. And if you're not happy with your weight or body type just get out more, go for a run a couple times a week or hit the gym. And try to stay away from fast food and junk. (Do not starve yourself!)

saturdayx · Answer

Respect the B cup. We have a lower chance of weight-related back problems! If a guy has a problem with your breasts he probably would re-consider if your back was aching and you would rather chase a bottle of advil with some whiskey than please him. Best of luck, love.

MissSariie · Answer

Hey, I'm a 36 B.. I hate mine too, but what can you do? (I'm definitely never going near plastic surgery.. *shudder*)

It makes me laugh when I go into La Senza or another bra store and see sizes that are like E.. I'm all like HOLY CRAP IT'S AS BIG AS MY HEAD! Lmfaoo.

But yeah, try to love yourself the way you are and don't try and change yourself just because of media glorification or anything like that. Most of the women in the media have had boob jobs anyway. Which I find totally disgusting.

trod199 · Answer

Screw breasts its all about character if he can't see that then move on you deserve better

micropk · Answer

Well...lady I don't know you...but if you ask me...I am least bothered about breasts, rather I am attracted much more by curvy pear-shaped butts and nice legs and hands(neither too thin nor too fat).

It's my kind advice that don't worry about that. Because you know no one is perfect in this world. Also...I am telling you...many times big boobs look unnatural and sometimes ugly too. Small boobs look humble.

Although your boyfriend likes bigger ones more. But after all he loves you...Coz he might be imperfect himself too, on some points. You should be cheerful that you have got an understanding bf.

And as you have a beautiful bottom-half, that effect of small boobs is nullified...I mean for me surely it is ture...and for many other guys like me who love beautiful buttocks... :). While watching porns..I focus most of the time on the lower half and get too much excited while whether small or big boobs...they doesn't make any difference for me and boobs also don't excite me much.

So...cheer up and enjoy life, and enjoy the love of your bf...I will be very happy if you follow my advice...consider my words like those of a caring friend...I am a caring person...:)

CleverClover7 · Answer

Let me just start by saying that I'm a 34 A cup so I understand what you are saying. The media definately does blow things way out of proportion. I love horror movies and what helped me a lot? The fact that the women who die in the horror movies are all big chested women. The little "buttercups" all survive because they can usually run AND fight back. Therefore, the media may portray big chested women as sex symbols but they ALSO portray them to be inferior upstairs if you get my drift. :)

Most women who have small breasts want them bigger. Women with bigger breasts want them smaller. Women with curly hair want straight hair. The list goes on and on. Women are generally not happy with what they have. Best thing for you to do is start working on how YOU feel about yourself.

My boyfriend also says he prefers large breasts. Who cares? He loves me for me or he wouldn't be with me. Like he says, "I don't love you for your breasts."

The thing that makes a woman MOST attractive is not the size of her chest but her confidence. Whenever you walk into a room, hold your head high and walk in like you own the place! Never forget it.

When you start getting down on yourself...dye your hair, get it cut, buy a new outfit, change your makeup, etc. Do what makes YOU feel sexy. Forget everyone else. Especially the media. Besides, it's better to enjoy your life. They spend most of their time TRYING to maintain that body. Another thing, those bodies are airbrushed and MADE look like that.

Celebrate being a woman and being different! :)

I have small breasts, yadda-yadda...

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