Is it true that men still want to marry a virgin?

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I was wondering if you guys still think that you should sleep with  girls, yet expect to marry a virgin? Is it because you want to be the only one who ever sleep with the girl or because this girl is most likely to stay faithful? I have read that engaging in premarital sex can cause someone to seek extramarital affairs.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have read those opinions of my fellow males and I just laughed at some of them. A man will always tell you that to be or not to be a virgin is not important (until they can get what they want) but in the end, when the moment of getting married comes, they will always prefer a virgin, if there is one, over a non-virgin (and no matters how 21 century-like minded they claim to be). In fact, most of my male friends in Europe, America and Australia believe that non-virgins is mostly for "having fun" and to some extent to dating. But serious relationships, they say, would be much longer and enduring with a virgin. In reality, you will find many more opinions of men saying they do not care about virginity in women (as they know this spreads the idea in women of being "liberal") and will grant them easier and more free access to sex.

I know some might not believe that. But let me give you some ugly but real facts. In case you are not aware of, there is a huge sexual market in the world. Who do you think the highest valued women are? VIRGINS, indeed. Men can pay hundreds if not thousands of dollars to get a virgin. Hey, wake up !! Those men are 21 century men, liberal thinkers and in many cases wealthy (e. g TAKEN).

On the other hand, I have also been a very active member of a few churches (from Catholic, to Christian to a couple of strong secret societies) and in the most inner circles of them, men always say variations of "non-virgins for the common people, virgins for the royals", although pubicly they tell you otherwise. The viewpoint behind those statements lay in the potential that Hymen possesses. Of course, you are not going to find the benefits of having your Hymen untouched in common books or research databases because it's been blinded to human eyes.

Anyway, in the end, if you want to sacrifice your Hymen for a casual guy, bear in mind that a common man will not value that. Being said that, I know it is not easy to be a virgin but it can be tremendously rewarding to keep it for your true love.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Virgins sometimes have very strange ideas on what is OK sex, and what is not.

Ellarabbaa1 · Accepted Answer

Most guys opinion on here is that they want to marry a virgin girl, ok cool im a virgin too and i won't accept to marry a guy who isn't, i mean i hear a lot of guys saying that guys should have sex before marriage to be experienced so he can lead his virgin girl in bed and that is soo unfair and unacceptable, if my man thinks like that EVEN if im in lovee with him im breaking up with him..

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I lost mine to a virgin but it turned out he just wanted to lose his to me because I was a virgin. It wasn't love I found out it was only lust :/. It sucks cause I think most guys wanna marry a virgin. I wanted to stay a virgin but oh well I guess a guy will just have to love me the way I am. I'm sure there's a guy out there who will accept you as you are too.

Mahtaazh · Accepted Answer

It's selfish of a guy who has slept with other girls to want his wife to be a virgin. it just doesn't make sense and actually I would never marry that guy

Quadrophonic84 · Answer

You know what makes men seek extramarital affairs? HAVING A D*CK!

Personally, I will never again date a virgin if I can avoid it. I went through the drama of being a girl's first a few years back and I'm never going through it again. I want to be with someone who's already given up on her fairy tale delusions and knows how to express herself sexually so there isn't a whole bunch of sexual (which turns into emotional) frustration around all the time. I want to marry a girl who is great in the sack (and I've got to know it going into the marriage) because if she's not, that's only going to make long term fidelity even harder.

sa230e · Answer

I couldn't care less if a girl is a virgin or not. If I love her that's all that matters.

Cartiphilus · Answer

It seems a lot of guys on this site only want a virgin. Many are very eager to deflower one and as soon as they do call her a slut for f***ing him. "I was wondering if you guys still think that you should sleep with girls, yet expect to marry a virgin?" I find that concept ridiculous and infantile. Unfortunately some guys do have that expectation. It's a double standard girls may never see ended.

"Is it because you want to be the only one who ever sleep with the girl or because this girl is most likely to stay faithful?" I'm sure some guys are so deluded as to think they were the first and only to f*** their girlfriend. As for the second, the degree of faithfulness of a girl, I submit, depends on how well she is treated and loved by the guy. It is not dependent on the fact that she was virgin before the relationship began or before marriage.

"I have read that engaging in premarital sex can cause someone to seek extramarital affairs." No partners seek extramarital affairs when the fabric of the marriage becomes fractured and there's little hope of reconciliation. The person seeks solace in another's arms and body.

ShallowNight26 · Answer

I've not slept with a women that I wasn't ready to move in with & get engaged to. While I don't expect a virgin, I do a measure of self control with commitment. Because that's what I'd be bringing to the relationship.
willing to move in together... 3
Willing to get engaged ... 2
actually engaged... 1
actual partner ... 1

Ragnarok21 · Answer

you can take the man out of the cave, but you can't take the cave out of the man.

with a virgin the caveman brain thinks he gets to shape the passage, the channel (the vagina) and the vagina will be custom fitted for his male member, "because he is just so big and he likes it tight... and women who are not virgins are not tight" ( caveman brain thinking)

a virgin has no experience, and there for is like a new toy, that can be taught to please him and he can take advantage of her naiveness, because she doesn't know better or any different.

their easier to cheat on, with no experience of other men they won't know if the man is been sexually active with someone else.

they tend to be younger then the women that would be in his age bracket.

the caveman has trust issues, a women of experience is independent, a virgin is not. (in the bedroom) the experienced women may leave him.

smbcomix · Answer

I want to marry a girl who's a virgin because I'm one too. We don't carry any STD's, we're both new at this, we can both grow into our sexual relationship with each other at the same pace and enjoy ourselves (and each other) immensely because of it. We're less likely to cheat on each other. Plus -- novel concept -- we also happen to love each other at the same time.

I never thought we guys should sleep around. That's just stupid and puts you at risk, not to mention gives more fuel to our "man-hating friends" for their fire.

arashmenalagha · Answer

you better tighten that asap!

scar1 · Answer

it usually about the whole "virgins are pure" thing, I personally think the whole concept of virginity is stupid

dudeman · Answer

yes I would rather marry a virgin because I would allow myself to give 100% of myself to her a women that's not a virgin I don't think I could give 100% to her and I would be less inclined to commit her and if I did I would probably cheat on her when the opprotuinity arises like I won't go looking for it but I'm not going to turn it down either but if she was a virgin I would most definitely turn it down

Exterminatore · Answer

To answer your first question, yeah guys who are like that are out of their minds.

I have no idea why guys want to marry virgins. I could apoerciate that they're virtuous, but I think it might suck. You'd have to teach her everything.

As far as the premarital sex and infidelity, I've read that too and think it's BS. I was with a lot of girls before I got married, and not I but my wife cheated. Probably with more than one guy, but one I know for sure.

DeanWillis · Answer

You assume all guys aren't virgins. I'm a virgin and I want to lose it to a virgin. Marriage is out if the question at this point.

zzzondarrr · Answer

Yes, its true!!
I myself am 24 and still a virgin, and I will remain until I find a girl I know I will spend the rest of my life with, I know, I feel so strongly that she has to be a virgin too, and I don’t really know why, it's somehow just so deeply written in my heart, I just think it's so important, and I’m not actually religious at all, it's just as I was born with it... I just so deeply believe in one love only, that when you have multiple partners you simply can't bond that much with any of them, I just feel it as a form of cheating... And I think I can see the difference between virgin and non-virgin girls, at least I was right about all of the few girls that I managed to ask about it, and it's that I see some kind of unspeakable beauty in the girls who still haven’t had any partners, especially the ones that haven't been in any relationships yet, something so beautiful, just the look in their eyes, that it completely overshadows all the physical beauty a girl can have...
And on the other hand, I met a lot of really gorgeous girls, who had relationships with other guys, and I always felt when I looked in their eyes that something so great, so important was missing, that for some reason we would never be able to love each other like we should, to completely surrender to each other, like they lost some faith in love and locked the parts of their heart which became just unreachable... And though I think they wanted to be in a relationship with me (I am in fact quite attractive and successful ^^), every time I eventually backed off, every time reassured of how important it is, at least for me, that beauty, that purity of heart I could find only in girls who still haven't had any partners... And I’m growing so desperate lately cause I simply don’t know how and where to “effectively” search for the girl of my life, and to find her on time is basically the most important thing to me in my life...

Snatchley · Answer

When I buy a can of soda, I prefer to be the one who opens it and enjoys it without it coming into contact with another mans penis.

zagor · Answer

Even if the girl I was going to marry was a virgin, I'd want to break her in before the honeymoon. What if she has weird hang-ups about sex? And who wants all that pressure on the wedding night - what if you drink too much at the reception and can't get it up? No, even if you're both virgins better to get it out of the way before the wedding.

Besides if you're both virgins no worry about STD's so why wait?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Beta punks like to marry women that already been drilled..

RebeccaSJ · Answer

Not hubby.

Notallways · Answer

I don’t think it is true for most guys any longer. It is unfortunate if you ask me. The less people a person sleeps with the easier it is to bound and stay satisfied for a lifetime. I was not looking to mary a virgin, but when I met my wife of 14 years I decided she was worth waiting 1 1/2 for. My reasoning, besides her being a great person who complimented me well, was that she would be loyal, and not destroy my life like I witnessed happen to so many. It was the best decision of my life. I was no wear near being a virgin myself. Had been with many different women before her. Sex with her is better than anyone of then. I only wish I had done the same and we were both virgins. Pieces of my soul or ability to bound feel like they are missing.

DR_AHMED · Answer

NO I WANT TO MARRY A VIRGIN CUZ I AM A VIRGIN TOO AND raise our sexual relationship together with love
its not right for guys to sleep with a lot of girls , u only sleep with the girl u love after getting married

my English is not too good so , excuse me

IAMnotSTUPID · Answer

Yeah, I prefer to marry a Virgin.
Because i would like to be the first she ever known and last too... And I am a virgin too. Now adays, personal respect of body and modesty have been reduce to the extend that, the sexual organ which is suppose to be enjoy between deep lover becomes like a disposable cup in short USE AND THROW.
And i can't literally swallow that my so, going to be WIFE have been fuck- back and front -side by side by some crook ASSHOLE...
And i have no intention of getting a girlfriend to break my virginity and hers too... Its just the whole idea of my personal feeling that, i would like to use my DICK for someone who deserve the same NEW LIFE, NEW BEGINNING, START OF NEW JOURNEY,... because i dont want to imagine looking at my son or daughter that, the place where they came from and brought to this world, has been use and fuck by many man in the past...
And I understand that, Not all girls are bitch and whore--some of them have been cheated... but also there are some bitch that cheats other simple minded man who have been use just by acting pure and humble but have been fuck back and front by many... So i prefer remaining virgin for the special one---release her and mine pleasure at the faithful night of ours and the rest of our lifes. Personal Opinion... i

Randomofc · Answer

you know? girls are born virgin for a reason!
which is? at some point a male will penetrate her and give her a whole new experience filled with new emotions she will Never forget about it all, no matter what. So the real question is? "would you want to marry someone who's not 100% in love with you?" and the answer is clear!!! Who would want that? this is why every smart man would seek a virgin to marry, she will be loyal, she will not have 'already dead emotions' from her past, she will not have a total broken heart over those who fu*cked her in the name of fake love and left her without any reason! Cus this is life, random people will always try to use/abuse you when ever they get the chance! and this is the real reason for any girl to protect herself from mankind and only addicted herself to a man who's willing to stay with her forever and that man can only be a husband! marriage is a long term relationship with affection and respect, meanwhile the man wouldn't truly care or be able to give 100% Love/respect to a girl who has been defiled others. No Man can do that, so let the people with no experience claim what they want on the internet!
in the end! We all require something new to start our life with, used things are never worthy. >non-virgin girls are just like used (secondhand) goods, it lost it's value already.

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