How do you feel about a girl in a thong or G string in public places?

[Anonymous]

I couldn't believe that some people here find it slutty or a kind of invitation to have sex. For me I like wearing a thong to the beach cause it feels good and I like my body and I can get a great tan. But some people don't get it right. There are guys who immediately hit on me especially if I'm alone and some of them can be quite aggressive even touching me. I don't mind guys looking at me but certain boundaries should not be crossed. And there are people who say- why do you complain of being harassed, you are asking for it. That's really ridiculous. Apart from aggressive guys there are also some women with low self- esteem (usually overweight and insecure) who like to show openly their disapproval of this "slutty bitch" seducing their bfs and husbands. Yeah, there are a lot of men staring at me and I have seen some with huge erections in their swimming trunks which is kinda funny...but whose fault is it? Is the fault of the girl wearing a thong or is it the fault of the men who cannot control themselves, who have dirty thoughts.

[Eiffelgirl21]

Okay...I am trying my hardest not to be mean...I mean, nude beaches and stuff are okay...but, on a normal, public beach? I mean...I know you do not care about showing your butt to others..but what about having respect for other people? I am not sure where you are from..maybe we are from different countries..and that might be the difference..but, all I am saying is...#1 I have a great ass...but, I would not display it to others...Regardless. Why? Because, I would not want to disrespect others..such as family walking around...or couples walking around. It is disrespectful for a girl to walk around in front of other people's boyfriends, kids, and etc. You do not think so? It is like you flashing a guy your boobs, but, it's your ass. I hard you talk about "haters" well of course they are going to hate on you...you are being disrespectful. Two weeks ago I went to a beach..and there was a couple on the beach in front of me. And, to the left of me there was a girl who was wearing a bikini..I think...but had it cringed up in her ass...so it looked like a thong. Anyway..the girl kept looking around for attention..which I thought was funny..and finally, she received it..from the girl's boyfriend in front of me. I felt bad for the girl in front of me, because she was cute..had a nice body...but, this asshole was literally staring at the other girl. It might not be her fault that he is staring..but if she hadn't of done it in the first place, then it wouldn't have been an issue. She puts it out there for EVERYONE to look. It wouldn't make you feel bad? Or uncomfortable if someone's boyfriend was staring at you in front of their girlfriend? I know when guys stare at me in front of their girlfriend, I try to disappear..quick! Because I feel bad. Just saying.

[Belleevans]

Agreed. My boyfriend was perving on all the bums the other day. I was really offended. I feel embarrassed when the women bend over. You can see their holes and flaps. It's unbelievable this is not illegal. I'm gona tell my boyfriend off next time. But it's in our face as well.

[ATadTooNice]

I personally find thongs super comfortable and panty line free. Wearing a thong or g-string in a public place, under clothes or showing a bit, is not an invite to sex, to being hit on or harrassment. Really, how many guys show their boxers while their pants are down to their knees? I do think that wearing just a thong on a beach is a no tan line thing, but if you start to be stared at and beig hit on excessively, you can't start complaining =_=' When the guys start to be touchy feely, that's when you can complain. Control. Guys are more visual, so them getting erections or staring is not really their fault. Heck, guys get random erections so just don't pay attention to the bulge XD You have to see both perspectives. The girls who hate are jealous and should be dismissed. Girls who politely ask you not to bend over a foot from their face are being polite. Boundaries XD Unfortunately, how you look is how you are judged, dressing how you want to be treated is a pretty good rule :P To respond to some comments on here, there is no invite to be raped. That Is Why It Is Called RAPE. When guys get raped, is there an invite? Heck no, why would it be different based on gender. There is common sense though. So Hun, do everyone a favor and please don't go to any secluded places alone!

[dryad]

Best way to discourage a guy's advances is to tell him right away "I have a boyfriend/partner/playmate" whether you really do or don't. Universally, that's our way of saying we're taken or we have enough clocks at this time. And don't say it snubbishly, but politely, as that'll only p*ss them off and they'll spit on you once you turn your back, calling you a "slutty bitch attention whore!" After all, if I'm dressed provocative, I will assume guys are going to approach or pitch bonfire tents.

What you can also do, if you happen to be wearing a shirt or cap, have something written on it to discourage guys from approaching you at all. Here's a list of ideas:

--- Sorry, I'm currently dating a police officer

--- I'm not open for business

--- I'm a radical noman feminist

--- I have an STD which your father gave me

--- Kiss off!

--- Suck your own weiner, if you can

--- I just put my ex-bf in the hospital

--- I just put my ex-bf in the grave

--- I'm a proud owner of a 12-gauge shotgun

--- I just brought an M1 Abrams battle tank

(Of course, the last two will attract military boys, but if that's what you want then go for it)

[eurochick]

Love it!

[dryad]

:D

[Asker]

Thank you! Great ideas and I gonna use them. I'm not wearing a shirt to the beach but may be cap or towel.. :))

[dryad]

Have fun :D

[Eugene]

"Is the fault of the girl wearing a thong or is it the fault of the men who cannot control themselves, who have dirty thoughts."

FYI man has no control over his erection whatsoever. It may appear even without any kind of reason, against man's will and it doesn't matter if there's some girl nearby or some girl in his thoughts. I, for example, got one while doing my math exam and no, I don't find numbers nor teacher sexy.

Yes, it is a fault of a girl, in this case it's your fault. I completely understand that women won't ever figure it out and/or accept it, but you should try to realize that when you underline your private parts by wearing potentially sexy (and at some point provocative) dress in a public place, you will attract attention from guys. For you thongs are for a better tan. For those guys it's a provocation.

In a same way you could ask "Who's guilty for being robbed: a guy walking alone at night in a Bronx wearing a crapload of gold on him or those thugs who robbed him because they have dirty thoughts".

For that guy it's a way to express how cool he is. For those thugs it's just an easy way to make some money.

Or in a same way woman can start crying that she got raped in a dark alley while she was wearing lingerie only.

TL;DR

You're asking for it.

[MindPieces]

You are right about that no one can expect us to control our erections or our arousal in general (which the QA even said herself that she is OK with that). But no guy ever has the right to harrass a woman. And THAT's what every normal guy should be able to control about himself.

[Eugene]

She shouldn't provoke it in a first place.

[Kimkitty]

Well, but still it doesn't give any guy the right to harrass the woman, just because it is provocative.

[Eugene]

"If you make a dog angry, it will bite." So instead on focusing "he shouldn't", I'd suggest to focus on "she shouldn't". I understand that it's hard to get through woman's skull, but that's just how it works.

[vmw2008]

Woww are you serious? I hate men that make a statement that it's the woman's fault for getting raped based on how she's dressing. She's not hurting anyone by dressing how she likes. A rapist IS. If I can control myself from murdering, and robbing, he can control himself from rape. That's a ridiculous statement. You're giving rapists a pass to give into hurting people, destroying lives, and breaking the law. *They're* the ones that need to control themselves. I'm completely appalled.

[dryad]

Well giving this a balanced point of view, I understand what you're saying Eugene, about the "dark alley" --- I wouldn't wear lingerie while walking through a dark alley, better yet I wouldn't walk down one anyway if I could avoid it. I use wisdom where I can, since rape is sometimes committed by the mentally insane, people who cannot control themselves like others, so it's good to be cautious. Dress in lingerie, through dark alleys, with a big boyfriend and it'll be okay

[Eugene]

You know, it always made me smile when girls are wearing tight jeans, light topic without a bra, f*ckload of makeup and then are bitching that guys whistle in their direction, harass them, try to hit on them etc. Just your case. In your question you mentioned "And there are people who say- why do you complain of being harassed, you are asking for it. That's really ridiculous." That's not ridiculous. That's actually the point, it's just a matter of stubbornness for a female brain to accept it.

[Eugene]

Regarding murdering and such: Obviously you don't want to kill someone without a reason. Note "without a reason". Now if some jackass constantly tries to pick on you, thoughts about doing something about it might appear (beating, murder, revenge, whatever). After that's it's just a matter of mental stability. Sane people won't do it, less stable people might do it. Same goes with rape. Just don't give a reason. Many men agree, they simply decide to be quiet to avoid incoming sh*tstorm.

[venividivici]

i agree, except for the rape part. some girls attract racists without showing a bit of skin!

[Eugene]

I don't expect women to agree on a rape part. Since it mostly affects only them, from their point of view their opinion in this discussion is automatically right, while any other is automatically wrong and irrelevant.

[carlo]

I agree 100%. Female's morale is the only right morale. If it doesn't fit in, gets labelled perv

[arashmenalagha]

this answer makes me smile :D!

[BoobMan]

Nothing at ALL wrong with wearing a thong or G-string to the beach. That's totally OK. And yes, judging by your pictures, you WILL get a lot of male attention. If you're complaining about guys looking, then yeah--I'd say deal with it. But it doesn't sounds like you're complaining about looking. Guys will ALSO try to talk to you which you should expect. Obviously if they're saying disrespectful things, that's not right. And touching you is clearly FAR beyond the line.

Regarding the women, again it's OK for them to look and some may have an unhappy look on their face, but that's just out of a fear for the competition. It's clearly bitchy if they say something unpleasant.

Lastly, the occasional hard-on will happen. That's no one's "fault." You have a very nice ass and great legs and you know it. Guys will react to that and it's natural. Once again, if they act inapproriatey that's over the line, but expecting them not to look or not to react is unreasonable.

I certainly hope the next time I'm at the beach I see a girl like you in a thong--and I promise I won't be inappropriate! =)

[Asker]

You seem to get me right unlike many people here. I already said I don't mind guys looking at me, I'm quite used to it. but I hate people who invade my personal space and touch me and harass me. When I go to the beach with friends I have no problems. and when I'm alone the problems come. And sometimes I just want to be alone, have a swim and relax. But they wouldn't leave me alone. I wish all men were gentlemen like you.

[BoobMan]

Yes, we ARE a dying breed! LOL! Yeah, I can imagine it's tougher when you're alone. I'd definitely at least try to start a conversation, though if you clearly wanted to be left alone, I'd be cool. And you should DEFINITELY know by now that showing off a nice butt in public is an invite for EVERYONE to look--not just the guys you want looking. If that's what you want, keep it covered until you're in private. (Thank GOD that's not what you want! Ha!)

[BoobMan]

Thanks for the Best Answer! Would be good to see you around a bit more! ;)

[nevergivinguponu]

All people can be immature. I don't see a problem with it. Regardless of shape and size. The guys don't see it as harassment anymore then you feel it's okay to expose your bottom. In America to see a chick's butt is like nd base and at a tittie club they have to pay a over charge. You give it for free.I am pretty confident but reserve my thongs and nakedness to a nude or topless beach where I know it's for me and I'm not trying to get shock value. Kinda like a karma thing for me, after you have a couple of kids and your junk has fallen there atthe beach on the towel next to your family, will be the girl you used to be. At that point I will say thank you to that girl who is going to jump start my man for me. ;) No one has the right to touch you or grop you. Why do you let these strangers get so close to you? Are you flirting and then they move in? I would set boundaries with people.

[MrOracle]

What folks are trying to say is:

No, it is NOT right for any man to touch or otherwise sexually harrass you because of what you are wearing (or not wearing, even if you're naked). And *most* men won't.

BUT, we're also saying that there are evil people in the world, and mentally unbalanced people, and so sometimes it is smarter to sacrifice a bit if your freedoms to avoid putting yourelf in a situation where you might provoke someone who lacks the moral compass to control his animal instincts.

For example, wearing a thong on a beach with a group of friends around is fine. If you're by yourself, maybe it isn't the smartest idea. It isn't the suit, but the situation, that is different.

[jacquesvol]

Right on the spot.

[toulouse]

Could you kind of get your butt out of my face, and please keep it at least five feet away friom my salad, thank you.

[falendove]

LOL!

I know this is like a month old, but C'MON. You're acting like you're Megan Fox because you get attention from men. A man is a man, they will get hard for a hole in a f***ing white oak. I think you are looking for attention. Go on a date in a fat girl suit not even fat, just cover up, in two sizes too big and see if any man ever calls you again, because your personality f***ing sucks and I love hot women, but you don't have to be so into yourself, I mean, this is an internet site, and you obviously let your true self come out in saying that your the sh*t and fat people should all die. At least that's how I see it. If you want a tan go to tanning salon naked, but no, you want to get attention.

(: Cover up, because when a man sees you all he thinks is "sex". So have fun getting used.

[Asker]

you are narrow minded and sound like a hater, I know people like you will never understand,

[falendove]

people like me? I could get whoever I want with my swag. you sound like a hater now. and still sound like a dirty skeeze

[Eiffelgirl21]

lol

[AustinMan]

When you wear a thong to to the beach, it has a lot of connotation, at least to me. I'm NOT saying that it makes you a slut or should open you up to verbal or physical assault but if you have the hot bubble butt I'm imagining, you have to understand that a thong or G-string isn't just another kind of swimsuit bottom. For those of us who are inveterate butt men, it's extremely distracting. Wearing those bottoms says that you're very proud of your booty, and want everyone to see it, and don't mind making some guys sweat over the sight of it. Don't expect the other gals to like it because they either can't, or for some women with a little modesty, they won't compete. I think maybe going to a tan through swimsuit with a little more coverage will make going to the beach a little easier for everyone but it's you right to wear what you want so clearly it's your call.

[dweebette]

A G-string is meant to be UNDER YOUR CLOTHES.

[sumina7]

I am afraid you have to adjust to your surroundings and people around you.

[TonyMetal25]

You know what, your funny...getting naked in front of a man and telling him not to care, well you can ask this from a man who's dead & not living...as a married man he might run away so he doesn't do something bad...but for a bachelor he might not control himself...wearing a thong in public is something harassing and will eventually attract guys, and some few guys might think of raping you...so watch out...it's very easy to get raped, especially you might get raped by many men like an orgy an MMMMMMF...so good luck and BEHAVE!

[Asker]

that was Nasty

[dave216]

Its fine to me, but then I would prefer a nudist society. We are all too hung up on our bodies.

[kriskiss]

Three thumbs up! :P

[PeterCobra]

how do I feel about them? with my hands at first.

[jackfriendly]

It is the fault of society that has put shame into sexuality. If men were properly exposed to a healthy sex life in your country they would not get an erection even if you were completely nude rubbing yourself in front of them. It is usually in middle eastern countries and the USA that the female body should be hidden as not to arouse the male population. However, it is exactly this sick fear of sex that turns out a country full of sexual perverts.

[eurochick]

I wear a thong at the beach. I am european so have never had any problems as it is common here.

[aventaes]

sorry but erh not where I live being belgium :p

[missmeow]

there is nothing wrong with wearing a thong but Sweetie you ARE being provocative and if it bothers you that guys love it and hit on you then don't wear one :)

it is actually your fault for wearing it , I'm a chick that also gets dirty thoughts when I see a girl with giant boobs showing it off to everyone :) people can't help there thoughts but you can prevent them from thinking that way by not wearing one

[ComputerTech22]

Yes and no to this answer. It is more complicated than you think. I believe there is nothing wrong with you wearing a thong to get a great tan; however, I think that if you don't like the attention of touching or offensive comments from other girls then maybe you should tan in your back yard and be the girl next door! ;)

It seems like you don't mind about the men getting erections thinking about you. So I would recommend that you tan in your privacy of your own home or one were few others can see. For the times when you go to the beach maybe wear a bottom that is a little tighter and a size to small so it really flaunts your ass!

Answer my question please!

[Milesdavis2998]

It doesn't matter what your wearing, guys are going to hit on you. You wearing skimpy clothes screams (via instinct) that you're available. Get use to it or put some clothes on.

[abiecolegrove]

Your to damn skinny..eww. anyways..dont worry bout what others think thong is a thong

[DebiPie]

If you have the body for it, wear it. But you should know that people are going to have different opinions of you & you can have no control over this. Also, have some common sense about it too. Seim & sun bath in it, but when you go get a drink or whatever, where a wrap because there are families, etc. This shows respect for them. You do have to think about others, as you are wanting them to think about you, not wanting them to think of you as a slut.

It goes both ways.

[b_luvedbaby]

I'd be extremely annoyed by you and I'm not insecure, overweight or unattractive. You're seeking attention (i'm looking at your profile picture). If you don't like the attention then don't wear attention-grabbing outfits. Enough with the dumb excuses too. You know why you're wearing a thong in public, and so do we. What you wear is your choice but don't bitch about people's reactions.

[Eiffelgirl21]

agreed

[beerY33]

Why not just go naked then, hm?

[Asker]

why don't you put your coat on then? it's the same.. and I'm not naked , there's a big difference.

[beerY33]

Your ass is naked, and the rest is nearly there, so why not just take it all off? Would it be okay for guys to walk around with their asses hanging out?

[Red_Arrow]

In a thong bikini, your butt is naked and in most of them thee front clings and reveals; also most expose most of the breasts. So as this answer stated, "Why not just go naked". You are pretty much at that point. The thong is for getting attention. If you want to shed the fabric but not get the attention you are getting, go to a nude beach. Probably won't go because you would not get the attention you seem to crave.