Girls who say we need to get over penis size, can you read this? (don't just say yes or no)

I'm 5.5 inches And no size does not matter, but think of how many people diet or have plastic surgery just to look better and be more attractive, they change their nose, lips, abs anything they can to attract someone, the fashion and model industry has influenced girls to become skinnier and look beautiful, and when a guy says you don't need to do that, do you stop? Now what if the body part was connected to love and sex and you could enlarge it through surgery, the fear of humiliation and not performing at the highest level can make you feel small and unappreciated People wear the size as trophies and women show off about the size and how it pleasured them more than an average one(not all but some women do and that is enough to convince a person as he might not know what type of girl you are) The guy wants to pleasure the girl to the best he can and if he sees people say 'i'm not going below 7 inches' it reduces confidence whether you think so or not How many girls wear push-up bras and get breast implants because it makes them feel more confident and they think some guys like it even though they really know most guys aren't like that, sayin' were sad and wallowing in self-pity is hypocritical and unfair Yes the vagina is only about 5 inches, big d***s can hurt a girl's cervix (a lot of guys now know this) I don't want surgery but I can't help wanting maybe 1-2 inches if it meant I could satisfy my partner So girls don't just say he's stupid and realize this just a problem like girls who want to beautiful and skinny And guys I'm sure you've seen other d*** questions so you just have to live with it and build your own confidence Ok, whew... Now off to the Penis Enlargement Clinic
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  • youre absolutely right but I would also add that although girls know a little bit about penis size they don't really care. the only girl that's going to be analzying the size of your d*** is the one who has gotten around a lot and who has mad experience in variety. the average girl you're most likely dating probably haven't f***ed enough men to even know what to compare you to. unless theyve been with like 15 guys by age 20-22 you're really not being as judged as you think you are. most girls just have a man, who has a d***, they have sex, and if you love her and take care of her and she feels safe and comfortable with you she loves your d***! (and you!)

    I've slept with 4 different men, I'm 21. I lost my virginity to someone who I guess was on the small or thin side but it was my first time and a one night stand so how could I judge? and what would be the point of judging after the fact, I'm never going to see him again and even if I did I wouldn't care to do anything with this information. the second guy I slept with I was in love with but he wasn't in love with me, now he had a huge d*** but I only know this cause he hurt like hell and the sex was terrible, again it was only one time. the 3rd man I slept with was average and he was my boyfriend for 8 months, for the first time I actually started to enjoy sex but because of the lack of emotional connection on my part I never enjoyed it fully (he loved me, I didn't love him). now the boyfriend I am with now for 3 months (the 4th guy) is average too and its the best sex I've ever had and will ever have in my life, we're so in love wth each other, I've never had orgasms before but he gives me them every time and sometimes multiple ones. it is all mutual and the chemistry is mind blowing ...

    so moral of the story in my experience its all about the connection and how you feel about the person (FOR A GIRL) whether or not you're going to get off, enjoy it, love his d*** lol. and my first time wasn't bad either it probably helped that he was small because I am small too and I needed some breaking in. I don't want my boyfriend to have a big d***, it would only hurt me and make me sore. its better if he's average so we can have all the fun sex we want and have it multiple times in a night etc. if he was large we probably wouldn't be able to do it that often. which would make his d*** disappointing rather than "wow look at you" ...

    and again most girls unless theyre whores really haven't slept with enough men to give you a good comparison so you aren't being judged as harshly as you are judging yourself (ever, for anything, even girls and their insecurities too). and everybody on this world just wants to be loved so having sex with someone or being in a relationship is exciting and people are a lot more forgiving and selfless when they love someone. they tend not to focus on flaws. and like I said if she feels safe with you and you make her happy and laugh she is going to love you and your d*** no matter what size it is.

    • Yeah I agree, It's more about how good the sex is and the orgasms and less about the d***.

  • We all have body image issues whether its breast size, **** size, weight, height but the strange thing about it is even if you manage to alter aspects of yourself you don't like your still dissatisfied with the results or else you'll just move on to something else. If it wasn't your **** size you might be worried about getting the perfect six pack, having bigger biceps, a straighter nose whatever because those are just symptoms, they are aren't the disease, they aren't the underlying problem. Confidence doesn't come from externals it doesn't come from looking good or performing well in bed or having a lot of money or a high IQ its about self-acceptance, imperfections and all. Ultimately the type of partner you want in your life, the type of friends worth surrounding yourself with or the people who know the real you and love you for you. If you attract people by putting up a front you will never feel secure, you'll live your life feeling like a fake, like any moment you'll be found out, and the real you will be starved. You have to let people love you by opening to them, letting them see what's underneath. Not everyone will like you but that's the only way to know the people in your life are genuine and it really will make you feel better about yourself and nurtured at the root instead of superficially at the ego-level. The ego is insatiable. I have been with one man I have no clue what any other man is like in bed, I don't know if size makes a difference or not. I do know that I love the man I am with and he pleases me and I know enough to know there a lot more ways to make a girl scream than just your cock. If a finger can get a girl off then why the hell shouldn't your **** be able too please her? My husband has incredible hands even if he didn't have one he could make me climax. Me and my husband actually research methods to please each other we try new things out on each other all the time you do the same with your lady, I don't think she'll be disappointed or think man I'd give up his skills and his love for 1 more inch.

  • My guy is 7 inches and literally rock hard. We have to go slowly and carefully (despite my desparage urge to go hard and fast) or it puts me in agony. I've not yet orgasmed from sex. Now, I have a friend who's boyfriend is about 5 inches. She has multiple orgasms.

    With my guy, we have to maintain the right depth carefully, but with a shorter penis, the depth is automatically right. If a girl wants to feel full, she should use a vibrating didlo, but if she wants to orgasm from actual sex, she should get a nicely sized penis (ie, not to big nor too small) I'd say 5-6 inches is perfect.

    By the way, the average penis size for white guys all over the world is 5.1 - 5.9 inches. Many different surveys have come up with this same result, so yea. You are average dude. Now learn some skills and show a girl what you can do. As long as you can get a girl off she WILL NOT CARE how humungous or tiny you are. Just get her off and she'll be happy. Sure, many think a bigger one looks hotter (those 10 inchers sure look sexy, but there is NO WAY I'd let one near me. Ow.) but all that matters is that you know how to use that tool properly. And another thing to remember; 7 inches is not easy to deep-throught.

    And another thing, I refuse to wear padded/booster bras and such, because essentially it's a lie. They aren't really that shape and size and I don't like lying. I'd also not want implants because though I'm only a B cup, at least they are real and not a surgically induced lie. They aren't fake, I didn't buy them, they are mine and always have been. Sure, another cup size would be nice, but I only want the real thing, lol.

    I hope that answers your question :)

    • yeah I agree, my girl and I was doing doggystyle some while back and, it was one of those days where, I kinda felt to just f***, like good hard f***ing, and, it was hurting her a little bit, it was feeling good but hurting a little. So I really like to grab her by the waist and fell that contact (of you know my waist against her butt) and I realize with a longer penis I wouldn't be able to get that sort of contact.

    • You are much wiser than your years ... spot on. Also, natural breasts always win the race, I agree!

    • Yea, exactly quest1 :) And.. "You are much wiser than your years" thanks islands 7 :)

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  • Please don't believe the widespread nonsense about penis size. Contemporary scientifically credible surveys show that the average size (50th percentile) of an erect penis is FIVE-AND-A-HALF INCHES BONE PRESSED (i.e measured along the top, pressed into the fat down to the bone. The distribution follows a bell curve, which means that the vast majority of men fall within an inch either side - only about 1% of men have seven inches and less than half of one percent have eight inches - something like 3 men in every thousand.

    No penis above ten inches has ever been discovered in any credible, contemporary medical survey - many have not found penises above 9 inches. Nor is there credible photographic evidence that one exists,despite all the outlandish claims made.

    The fallacies arise for a number of reasons. One is the Kinsey survey, which although famous, was deeply flawed, as it allowed subjects to measure themselves without observation. I think you can predict the exaggeration that would cause. This is the survey that led to the widely believed, but erroneous figure that 6 inches is average.

    I see many girls, on here and elsewhere, claiming to have experienced penises from 8 to 10 inches and above. Don't believe it.The number of women who will have even seen a true 8 inch penis is vanishingly small.

    I don't think most girls are deliberately exaggerating. I think in many cases they are probably measuring inaccurately. The way anthropomorphic/medical researchers do it to measure the erect or stretched penis along the dorsal surface (the top) pressed into the fat pad to the pubic bone (to eliminate the effect of varying body fat). Where they are merely estimating I think they are influenced by their preconceptions of what penis size should be. I am not boasting, but I am 8 and 1/2" bone pressed. All women I have been with who have commented, have said that I must be 10, 11 or 12 inches and every one that commented has also stated that I am bigger than all their previous partners.

    As say I am not boasting - in fact it's caused me a lot of problems, which is why I get frustrated when perfectly normal guys agonise over the size of their penises and girls make exagerrated claims about the size of their previous partners. I have hurt some girls and have had to go slowly and carefully and be self-conscious in certain positions with most at some time. There is a reason why average penis length is 5 inches and average vagina length is the same - evolution knows what it's doing. Average is best.

    Please girls - think about the way the fashion industry promotes ludicrous and exaggerated female body types and weights as the norm and causes unnecessary anguish to perfectly normal women. Don't to the same to normal decent guys.

    • 1 thing wrong about your post

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      largest penis in the world is 13.5 inches erect. He doesn't get girls because they are scared of having sex with something so large :\ lol so the whole "no penis found above 9 inches" is wrong. Your post is still good.

    • Thanks for you kind words Leto - however I maintain that I am right. Take a look at every credible medical survey ever done - NONE have ever found a penis above ten inches. The only survey I can recall, that claims to have found a penis longer than this, was conducted decades ago (IIRC in the late 19th century) and is impossible to verify.

    • Leto is right man. You're very close in your examples but there are guys while only the 1% that have very large members. and yes it causes them great difficulty in the bedroom. Lexington steele for instance says he's 11 inches long but when measured on camera shows only 9.5 inches. It is sad that mainstream society says that good sex can only be achieved through penetration. where ass the majority of women surveyed speak about 4play, Kissing, touching in general being real keys to orgasm.

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  • Ok so I'm not sure why you posted this aimed at people who want guys to be happy with what they have, so I'm just going to say that men need to get over their penis size insecurities :)

    Worrying about not being big enough, not being able to please your woman, etc. is (what I imagine) very annoying for women to have to deal with. Yes, I'd like to have maybe another 1/2 inch more girth, and possibly another 1/2-1 inches to mine, but honestly I'm satisfied with what I have. I'm 7 x 5.5 (length x girth), yet I'm a virgin and probably have no idea of how to really satisfy a woman. But I know that I can't (naturally) change the length or thickness of my penis, so I better figure out how to finish the race with what I have. You're adding so much unnecessary stress, anxiety, and insecurity by worring about your unit.

    Yes, girls like bigger or thicker d***s, that's something that not many girls would deny. HOWEVER, they aren't required for good sex, they're only a bonus. Just like us guys- we like big boobs on girls for the most part, but we don't HAVE to have a girl with big boobs. So quit worrying yourself sick over this stuff and spend your energy learning techniques instead.

    • I'm not worried or obsessed and kinda alright with my size, I just wanted to make people realize that wanting a bigger d*** is not such a stupid and ego-boosting thing

    • But too often it is a sign of a deep insecurity. People try way too much in society to constantly get more, more, more. And for what? So we can feel better? I doubt it. It's a subtle sense of the need to feel accepted or admired. You mentioned girls who get bigger breasts to feel more confident...confident for what? So that she can market herself better to guys? That is the exact scenario of playing up for other people's expectations.

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  • I think it's more about the foreplay for most women, than the actual size. Also personality, and sex appeal. So, while I agree that guys with bigger ones have more confidence, I have had guys from a variety of sizes and the ones that were the best weren't always the bigger guys. Some of the guys were flirty, they said the right things, kissed/touched the right spots and that got me closer to the edge than anything else, so work on the things you can change. Work on learning more about how to touch a woman and kiss her to turn her on, and focus less on the things you can't change...your size. I do hear you though that you just want to make the woman feel the best she can, and that's a good thing. There are plenty of guys that only think of how it pleases them so you win points for the desire to make the woman have a good time!

  • Everyone has their own preference. Honestly though, if a girl is only concerned with a guy's penis size, then she has really skewed preferences. I personally care more about how a guy treats me, and how he lives his life than how big his member is. I know that sounds Utopian, but I'm sure a lot of women feel this way. Any woman that leaves you because of your penis seems quite silly to me. There is more to a man than his penis. And I don't understand how you feel you can't satisfy your partner? It's not about the size, my last boyfriend was 9 inches, but I hated having sex with him. He didn't care how I felt and most of the time it hurt a lot. The only reason I stayed with him was because I cared about him. My new boyfriend is smaller but I love him so much :) He cares so much about how I feel and I care about him too! It works out so great :) I am truly satisfied :)

    • It's these kind of answers that just muddy the waters even more. We know other things are more important but what is the ideal or best physical size to cause the most pleasure?

  • Hmm interesting topic of debate here...

    I personally think that while size does play a part in sex (only in extreme cases- how many average girls could fit a 10 inch **** into their vagina? @_@), a man's ability in the bedroom should be prized more.

    However, I have found that a smaller **** can be better to suck on. Fits a little better, if you're not as deep throat savvy as the p*rn stars out there and can be less intimidating. A larger d*** you have more surface area to play with...but I definitely don't discriminate :P

    At the end of the day: a cock's a **** and a boob's a boob. Each man is different and have different abilities and strengths in bed than to another man. Why should they be ashamed of that?

    Same goes for the boob debate. Small t*ts stay perky, big ones sag but they can titty f***.

    You can get surgery, but I would advise anyong thinking about it: to only do it if you feel that you personally have to and not to do for anyone else but yourself. You can end up regretting it otherwise.

  • I agree with this completely, but the main issue is everyone seems to have this negative self-image.

    They're not fit enough, our boobs are too small, our legs aren't toned, our face isn't perfect...

    I've always made a guy with any size penis make him feel like he's "The Man", maybe he's not big or maybe he's pretty small but every d*** has some sort of good quality about it. Maybe his balls fit in my hand or maybe it feels good in my mouth or something. Because ego-stroking does good things for the self-image, and when you ego stroke like I do, it generally leads to a more confident partner and better sex as a result.

    • I believe all these self image problems is mostly due to the media and fashion trends these days.

    • ^ This is totally true and I agree with you 110000000000%.

    • Awesome :P glad someone understands the idea of helping others with their image (especially if you're with them in some way like that).

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  • I'm not sure what the question is...

    If you don't like the size of it THAT much and can change then do it. The end of your "question" makes it clear that you're going to do what you want any damn way so who cares? What's the point in trying to validate your decisions to a bunch of people online.

    If I was a guy and I had that same size penis I'd think about it. I think you can have good sex without having a huge penis, but I think you don't have to try nearly as much if it is big.

    It's up to you and you already made up your mind so...yaaay.

    • its true .. if it make you feel better then do it ...but do it right go to a doctor and get it done professionally then you can have a huge ****

  • The vagina isn't 5 inches.

    They are all about the same depth, 4-6 inches normally and when aroused 7-9 inches.

    • -__- nice generalization? lol

    • Generalization? That's the stats for the average vagina.

  • Its so refreshing to see a guy posting a fair penis size thread on here. Its great to see that you've covered all the arguments I can think of, rather than just complaining and making us girls seem so shallow and conceited.

    Thanks for such a well thought out post.

    • loool but you lot are shallow and conceited...thats right, I said it...cats out the bag, elephants in the room.

    • The problem with this post is that you assume most women are not shallow. This is not the case.

  • i don't care,your size seems normal to me

  • i like my sex rough , very! so bigger isn't that much better , my boyfriend is a good above 7 and it hurts a bit at times , like your ovaries are getting punch I think if it was a bit smaller it would be perfect.. but like I said I like it rough so bigger feels more uncomfortable then pleasing

  • i don't think penis size matters! I like a guy for him not his tool! like my boyfriend now he's considered small but I love it because I love him!

  • 5.5" is my girth. There's no surgery that will ever make me longer and I don't want to be longer. Only one time was a woman's vaginal opening almost to big for me to fill and it was because had four kids. I could literally use a flash light and peer inside her vaginal opening at her cervix. Fortunately, she moved her hips to a certain position and I was able to get friction and pop. After three different women in three different cities exclaimed about my size, I've never had any worries about size. I have to say there is a certain level of satisfaction when a woman gets off me and walks bow legged to the bathroom.

  • penis enlarmgent is in it's infant stages from what I've read. In order to create length they cut the tendons holding the penis in place. This only ads maybe an inch. This also creates the problem where your penis will point to ground even when fully erect since the supporting tendons to keep it sticking out are severed.

    Your best bet is stop trying to get that extra inch and instead study the female anatomy and kaumasutra.

    I have a 4.5 inch penis and I have yet to leave a girl unsatisfied. The truth wether you want to ignore it is that size doesn't really matter so much as knowing where the sensitive areas are and how to apply pressure to them. Aside from that pleasure from sexual penitration is minimul. Use your hands, your abs, your thighs, your lips. Everything you do and every body part you caress can and will have a different affect on your partner.

  • okay...I don't really know if this is a question or not. Remember "it ain't the size of the boat that matters its the motion in the ocean" and yes there is a retort that says "you can't cross the atlantic in a row boat". which is also true. as long as a guys d*** is above 4 inches technically it can please. There is some truth to the claim that "the bigger the guy the smaller the d***". the fatter a guy is the more likely his d*** will be, metaphorically, swallowed by the fat. If you loose about 10 pounds you could at a half an in to an inch to your d***, now if you are already skinny and still are small. and you can't seem to hit her spots no matter what you do. try oral play or even using a dildo. as long as she knows your trying your damnedest to please her then its okay.

    also the bigger issue is the girth. you can be 9 inches long and if you are pencil thin then you are probably hurting her more than anything.

    my boyfriend is about 9 inches and sometimes it does hurt because he hits my cervix we just work with different positions.

    doggy style is good for deeper penetration. missionary is good for clitoral pleasure as there is more friction there.

    • The average girth is 4-5 inches around. Anything under that would be pencil thin?

  • it really doesn't matter because you're going to get people with different preferences. seriously. I dated a few guys, if you can compensate in foreplay and other things, don't put so much emphasis on something a very low percentage of girls care about

  • Size doesn't matter. It's all about what you do BEFORE that matters. Personally, sometimes I do like a "big one"for no other reason than they're fun to play with sometimes! Seriously though, I like any size...short ones, long ones, fat ones skinny ones, as long as they work!

    • >>>fun to play with<<<...IS THAT IT? nothing more?

    • Figure it out dreamishobby

    • In other words women don't care about d*** size for a relationship partner, but most women like the answerer prefer to have casual sex with the well endowed guys. Well, the sluts do anyways

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  • I think 5.5 is great. I like it in the 5-6.5 range honestly...I've had an 8, its stupid long.

    • lmao its stupid long? So when he whips it out you say "thats stupid" lol

    • no I called him a light sabre and wouldn't give him head. I don't even want to try to swallow someothing bigger than 6.

    • wow you must b a boring girlfriend

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  • thickness counts for more than length for me personally

    • I agree!

    • what is good thickness ?

    • Average circumference (thickness) is 4-5 inches. Women prefer 6 inches in circumference.

  • Good points

    Although it doesn't work that much, the 'male' stereotype doesn't permit for insecurity, whereas the 'female' stereotype is built around it. Your not allowed to be worried about your d***, they're not allowed to be happy with themselves.

    The minute you say 'f*** it' to outstanding pressures, social pressures and the pressures of preference (F*** magazines, f*** people and f*** what a bitch thinks) then your above it all, and your flying. Your wiping your backside with the magazines, people are wiping it for you, and your f***ing those bitches, never mind what they think.

    But its an esoteric path to take, its only taken by the few, because it lacks safety and serenity. Your problems become your own, and that scares people.

    • I refute the best answer, those statistics are f***ing bullsh*t.

    • Watch these. You might find them interesting. .youtube.com/watch?v=Qf4kW_UkRIo&feature=related youtube.com/watch?v=BYguQ4JYriI (I can't post links so you'll have to add the missing bits.)

    • Are they about d***s?

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  • Here's the "physical answer". It's been my experience that longer wasn't always better simply because it can only go in so far. Once it gets to the end - that's it! But, further to that, for me it hurts it if hits the cervix. The circumferance (I guess) doesn't cause a problem physically.

    The preconceived notion that size matter is really just an issue (sorry, couldn't think of a better word) with the man. I don't go out with a guy, enjoy his company, have a great time, start dating or whatever only to get rid of him because his penis wasn't 6.5" long! That is just not something I think about.

    That's my honest answer.

    • Sounds like you really get around

    • If he has a 6 inch circumference and six inch in length, would you be happy with that?

  • size is really not that important, actually I would say your a very good size, if it's too big your gunna hurt the girl more than pleasure her, trust me I'm a girl and I also talked about this with my friends before so we all agreed too big is not good,

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