My boyfriend only holds my hand if I hold his first...he very rarely even initiates a kiss and if he does it's a peck. if we make out I ALWAYS have to be the one to make the move. especially in public. he will be very shy and timid and TRY to hug me then stop..then get closer to me and stop...then I grab him and hug him. the other day we were at a bar together and I grabbed his face and was going to kiss him but he blushed and turned away giggling. I don't get it! tomorrow is our one year anniversary, he is 25 and I'm 26. I'm not ugly at all, I have a pretty face and pretty blond hair, SURE I'm not the skinniest girl in the world but I'm not overweight either. I'd like to think I'm good looking but him acting this way has made me start thinking maybe I'm not good looking at all.
in the bedroom he gets turned on very easily by me and I mean very easily so there's no problem there it's mostly in public. he SUCKS at PDA. and thing is, he used to be all cuddly with one of his exes in public, and I was told he even had sex in front of some people at a party with another ex before! now the latter of the two is a liiiittle too far for me but I'd at least like him to hug me more and kiss me in public and not be so weird about it! I have told him I'm sad he isn't more publicly affectionate with me and still..he's shy. why would a guy be this way? why would a guy go from having SEX on the couch with his ex with people around at a party, to not even wanting to kiss me with people around? what should I do? I really thought I wasn't that bad looking at all...maybe I'm wrong?
This reminds me of an episode of That 70's Show. Red Foreman's wife, Kitty Foreman is upset because she remembered that (when they were younger and before they dated) that Red passionately kissed and groped his old girlfriend in a theater but Kitty never got any of that.
He explains that he loved and respected Kitty far too much. His old girlfriend was just a "booty call" kind of girl but the thing he had with Kitty was special.
I personally don't like to kiss in public. I'm just too conservative to find it appropriate, not for myself, at least. A lot of guys are that way. I can't really see the need to periodically kiss my girlfriend in public, to what? Show everyone that I really am dating her?
Perhaps he's grown more reserved since his last relationship and no longer thinks that kind of public behavior is necessarily model behavior.
What's so wrong on kissing on public? I totally love it, I do french kiss in front of whoever is watching me cause I simply don't give a f*** however if the guy you're with doesn't like to be kissed in public then he's emberassed of being stared at while getting kissed. He's inhibited apparently.
That's not right. There is defiantly something wrong with a guy who won't give you at least a little PDA. I hate to break it to you, but if this guy claims he is "shy" it is a complete load of horse sh*t if he has had sex in public before. I think he's either not into you, hiding or is guilty about something. Have you tried talking to him? Try asking him about the couch incident and see what he says about it. If he can't come clean with you it might be time to consider breaking it off.
hey tbh I don't think its cos your bad looking , I don't bilieve that atall I think its either because he likes you so much he's just gone really shy , or some insecurity he's got with himself , talk to him and tell him how you feell .x
You're reading way too far into it! It's not that you aren't pretty, so don't worry your cute head with that nonsense! ; )
He's just bashful. And maybe he's learned some things from those past experiences that resonate with him, and are dissuading him from acting on impulse again. I can understand if this is the case, and he's scared.
Maybe he's found that he doesn't like PDA all that much after all. By wanting to kiss you behind closed doors, it kinda seems to me that you must mean a good deal more to him than those other girls. Why change? - maybe he's worried about your opinion of his past behavior, and wants to turn over a new leaf.
I had a boyfriend who said he did not like PDA but he and I did kiss, hold hands and show affection in public. I think he was springing back from being in a situation where he was with a girl who he just had a casual sexual deal with. He felt badly about living like that for several years. He wanted to prove to people that he could be in a relationship. I enjoyed the side effect of that. He and I eventually broke up because after he tried to be this guy, he realized he is a confirmed player that prefers having a lot of time to himself and is willing to deal with the work of finding occasional hookups.