How should I react to his boner?

[Anonymous]

i just started seeing this man...last time we met, we had our first kiss...i swear I felt something firm around his crotch...then, he suddenly pulled away and seemed uneasy...the firstthing that came to mind was "oh great, didn't he like my kiss..? but then later, I thought maybe he did get a boner and got nervous about it... so, if we ever see each other again, and kiss and "it" happens again, how should I react? should I pretend not noticing it? should I acknowledge it? sorry if this sounds pretty perverted, if I stroke it without intending to go further, will it just tease him? (no, I don't like to tease...)

[Quadrophonic84]

Wait, "if we ever see each other again" - you would stop seeing him over him getting hard for you?

Stroking without going anywhere isn't the nicest thing you can do, as you suggested. You should

probably just just smile at him and say, "I guess it was a good guess" and touch his arm casually.

[Anonymous]

don't make a big deal out of it. lol Stroked? Dunno. Depends. He may not be expecting it to be stroked this early in the relationship

[DebiPie]

For God sake, don't stroke it if you're not going to follow through on the "putt." Lady, you don't do that to a guy. You might say "thanks, I thought it was a great kiss too." And smile at him.

No teasing. That's just rude.

[islands7]

I agree

[Anonymous]

I am not sure why you are asking this question. Men get boners, it happens. You pretend you don't notice it and no, you do not purposely touch his penis if you are not going to have sex with him.

[islands7]

Reminds me of that movie quote

Mae West - "Is that a gun in your pocket, or are you just glad to see me?" ...

[kriskiss]

so you get turned on by the boner that's like girls getting wet its normally-just means your a good kisser now take it as a compliment and go down on that thing...for a real boner..

[ItalianBro]

Don't tease him... that's stupid... what is the point in stroking it if your not going to finish. Just ignore it.

[honeyltsme]

I see no harm with teasing a little - he wasn't sure how you'd react

if you acknowledge you are okay with his erection being there he should be more comfortable. Just because you touch it a little over trousers or jeans does not mean you must have sex that night.

[shyandhorn]

just appreciate his attracting to you and explain that, mmmm I've done that oh my its great...

he will be slightly embarrassed but will give him confidence as well...

[Godfatherman]

well if you kissed and your hand was on his crotch then I would say that's natural. make the swelling go down for him ;)

[Shaun]

Two choices. Ignore it or play with it.

[urstruely]

Yeah, she's asking which one.

[Shaun]

That's totally up to her. That's my point.

[7gnat]

why would you stroke it and not finish him if you wanted to stroke it?

[darkhorn]

you are pervert

[Anonymous]

If he pulled away it means he's embarrassed about it and didn't want to look like a perverted dog. When this happens again you should immediately pull back and kiss him again. If he had a hardon it's not really because he wants sex, guys can have hardon every morning him without even noticing it. It has happened to me as well and I accidentally pushed her away because I was uncomfortable since we were just friends. I much later realized she started liking me ever since.

[Anonymous]

It would be kinda of embarrassing, I've definitely been there. Just ignore it for now and act like nothing is going on down there.