I slept with my best friend's dad...

[Anonymous]

Okay this isn't some sick fantasy I had or anything. It only happened because I went to her dad for advice about this guy I like. (Yes I know I could have went to anyone but I thought he would give me the best advice because he is very honest with his daughter). Anyway I went over to her house to hang out with her, (I was gonna ask him when he got home), but her dad was the only one home. My friend wasn't there and his wife was shopping with their two other kids. (Note that we had never been close but it wasn't weird for us to be alone until more people came home.) Sense we were alone I thought I'd ask him about my issues and we got to talking, then he said it seemed I just had some misunderstanding with reading the guy and he had some book to help me out. I followed him to his room to get the book (I'd been in there before) and he started reading some things to me and then he got kinda touchy. This went on to the point of actually turning me on and I started touching him back. About 10minutes later he started eating me out then I gave it back and we had sex. We finished a while before my friend came home but I felt so wrong I couldn't hang out with her. She has been calling me and her mom said she missed having me around because I was like a daughter to her. My question is how do I fix this? I don't want to hurt them but sh*t I've done that already. Any advice would be helpful at this point...please :/

[Anonymous]

Dear girl, I don't know how to help you in this. Instinctively you should talk to your parents, or at least someone older and wiser over this, if they are people who you can talk to. Don't ask directly about this subject of matter, but think carefully about what you wanna ask.

For the moment keep this to yourself (because too many things can go wrong if you let it out now), but stay away from them. A lot of thinking will be involved before you take any action. Just make sure you are doing things for the right reason, and taking responsibility of what you have done. Post this question elsewhere to get advice from more professional or expert people. Also seek for student union or counselling help. You need all the help you can get. Good luck.

[Opinion Owner]

Girl I really gotta say this, you did what you should. Sometimes there's no right decision to something, but you've done something that is true to yourself and for the right reasons. Hope things can work out. For the moment stay away from the dad.

[Calgarydirty69]

I am that man dannydavies322@gmail. com send pics the same thing happened to me (horny wife) I was the babysitter I protected the kids

[CatholicVirginia]

Her dad is extremely sick. You are the same age as his daughter. You are around them enough to be like a daughter and he has daughters. I wouldn't want this to be my husband.

If you say anything, you WILL be verbally abused. Rumors will fly. You WILL lose this friend and possibly tear her family apart. This will affect you in your community.

I would suggest you tell the man's wife. I would want someone to tell me. But considering the consequences, that is too much to ask of someone. Only you can make this choice. At the very least, let him know the next time you are alone that what happened was unacceptable and cannot happen again. And if you get lured into it again, control yourself and do NOT let it happen.

[CatholicVirginia]

I also agree with the first comment: seek counseling. Your counselor can help you figure out what to do next, when you're ready to deal with it.

[Asker]

I think I will tell her but I'll talk to him first. I'm not really concerned about what will happen to me. I just want to do the right thing now even if I lose my friend and the love of her family. Thank you very much for your answer.

[CatholicVirginia]

Please feel free to message me any time if you want to talk

[Justinclow]

Don't say anything

[Pummel]

I hear you they have history but she is 35 years old isn't she? I must not be understanding this correctly..

[Anonymous]

i think it'll be best to just tell her. I mean either way you won't be talking to her :(

either you ignore her or you tell her and either work it out or never talk to each other again :(

its not easy to fix! and if you're afraid that youd break up the family...who knows maybe he's cheated on his wife before! why should the kid suffer instead of the wiser person? let him deal with it! he touched you first too!

[Asker]

This is exactly what I was thinking. Thank you!

[awaken03]

Can't fix this, even if your honest about what happened your still gonna look bad..best thing is to move on..you know you shouldn't have done that..it takes 2 to tango..you could have resisted the urge and with that spur of the moment you ruined your friendship..your still young but you can never go back..since the father will definitely want another stand with you..and if your friend finds out she will not believe you and will definitely side with her dad..sorry..best thing is stay quiet and disappear from the picture

[Asker]

Why does everyone think he is gonna want me again?

[Shaun]

Because he wanted you the first time. He'll turn this into a routine thing if you let him.

[Justinclow]

And you want him again

[Calgarydirty69]

he IS going to want you again!

[Calgarydirty69]

HOW OLD ARE YOU? that's why

[Calgarydirty69]

have some faith in yourself, but Rember he is a guy ofcourse he will want it again

[Calgarydirty69]

you will want it again, and probably do

[Calgarydirty69]

have some faith in yourself

[ItalianBro]

Wow, her dad has some serious issues... two kids and a wife and cheated on her with you... You really f***ed up... lets be honest... you probably will never have a good relationship with her family or this girl again.

[Asker]

Well 3 kids, and yea he does. I'm just so confused and I fell wrong but I'm hurting my friend no matter what I do. I don't see why I have to lose my friend and feel like sh*t and he doesn't get anything.

[Calgarydirty69]

yeah true, but you should have known better choices have consequences

[38rakia38]

Keep that to yourself...

Seek counseling.

Cuz, I got no words.

[Asker]

Already getting the counseling and I get the "no words" part. I felt horrible but it doesn't fix anything I did. But do you think I should talk to my friend and just stay away from her family?

[38rakia38]

I would put some distance between you and the family, until you can understand exactly what happened. I know we all run off instinct but you chose to ignore your conscious in regards to this situation. Which, I'm not saying is wrong, nor will I judge you and call you names--because we've all ignored out conscious at one point or another. Just tell your friend you need some space, you're busy with work or school or something. Talking about this now, will only result in a massive melt down.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer. It really is helpful

[38rakia38]

Well... That went better than anyone could have expected...

[Distant]

Stop contacting the entire family. Confessing will break up everything. You've made a mistake. Time to take responsibility.

~Distant

[Asker]

But seeing her wondering why I'm ignoring her hurts so much.

[Distant]

It's going to hurt, of course. Let's face it. There's almost no situation where telling them is going to help matters. Just keep this to yourself, if you insist on keeping in touch. ~Distant

[CatholicVirginia]

But she wasn't the only one who made the mistake. He made the BIGGER mistake by having sex with a girl who could be and apparently was like a daughter to him. Do his wife and children not deserve to know? Especially his wife? Taking responsibility does not necessarily mean hiding the crime.

[Distant]

I have to agree, Virginia. I was assuming that telling the entire family was out of the question. I did not condone her pretending it didn't happen. They've both made mistakes and the proper way is to confess to it. Or deal with the consequence that she can't have contact with this family again as it will surely cause her to feel guilty. ~Distant

[CatholicVirginia]

I like your update. I imagine that this level of honesty WOULD make the mother feel bad that he targeted you. I hope you can all get past this and I hope the sick prick gets what he deserves.

[Vickymoore9]

Yeah probably not a good idea you had to talk to him about sex or guy issues. Most married couple already have those issues and he took advantage of the situation.

[Vickymoore9]

I was raised by my dad most my life I remember when I figured out I was having sex. He said ok let’s get you on birth control and then showed me pics of STD’s lol saying that what can happen. That was the only sex talk we had, I think the rest is just learned best through trial and error.

[briannababy]

Damn. I have no advice.

[anonymous17]

Wow that's a serious situation I don't know what to do

[Honeybaby]

Well at least you told your friend and her mother. You said that he had cheated before, whether if had done so in the past it doesn't matter. What matters is your actions (it takes two). Please learn from your error and don't do sh*t like that again because it involves other people. Peace!

[Honeybaby]

Bad situation! Should never have happened. You got two choices confess or take it to your grave, but that means it's a burden you have to carry for the rest of your life.

[Calgarydirty69]

just tell her, you are the slut who fucked him

[HomoErectus]

make sure this secret follows you to your grave.

nobody else but you (and him) should know. nobody else, never.

if you forget it, better.

[hALLDAY]

There's no advice anybody could give you that would be of help. It happened, its done with. Keep it in the past and move on. Carry on with your everyday life how it was before, and act like it never happened.

[Asker]

See that's advice! As long as you don't just say "You're a slut" I wouldn't put an honest answer down.

[hALLDAY]

But you were asking how to fix this and in all honesty, this is something that can't be fixed. You really only have 2 options. The first, keep quiet and hopefully it never comes up again but live with the guilt (problem is never fixed though). The second, you tell your friend, she hates your guts but you pass the decision onto her whether or not to ruin her family. Its scary how you can get caught up in the moment, only to realize the true extent of your actions. That's life learn from it.

[diamond3]

do not tell anyone about this! I don't think you can hang out with any of them again it won't feel right I think you might just have to move on from all of them an get a new friend

[Wowie101]

There is no doubt that what he did was wrong. And consequences should be applied. But what you did was equally wrong! You knew better and are using the fact that he had cheated before as cover that he was in the wrong that you were a victim but your not... what you did was horrible... ur friend will never be able too look at you without seeing what u did... Let alone trusting you...

[sylar]

Don't tell anyone. If you do, your friend will hate you, her parents will be divorced, and she'll go crazy on you.

[Bricealan]

How old were you when it happened and how old was the dad?

[Shaun]

Pretend nothing happened.

[Asker]

That's what I was gonna do. Didn't know how it would go though.

[Justinclow]

Does he fuck your friend to? Bet he does

[Jillian222]

Take it to your grave! Confessing will just cause a lot of chaos and drama. Just keep it to yourself. I don't know I've never heard anything like this before in my life...

[Jesterface195]

Holy sh*t! keep it to yourself, don't tell anyone ever, it sux but f*** it dude sh*t happens..

[dudeman]

i hate the human race we are a cancer on this planet

[DeanWillis]

Agreed. But I like the term virus more. Agent smith from the matrix

[Asker]

Again, not helpful.

[dudeman]

no very helpful live with this info be a better person stop talking to the family and move on with your life, in life every decision has the potential to drastically change the out come of tommorw now you know f***in your friends dad is bad who would ever have thought that would be the case real life lesson here

[Asker]

I know it's bad but you can't say you haven't done something you regret. The mistake and lesson should be learned by both me and him.

[dudeman]

lol forget about himforget about the family you still haven't learned your lesson, the family needs to be out of you life its over get it threw your head

[Asker]

I got that I can't have a relationship with them. There really isn't much of a lesson. I know I gave into something I shouldn't have. I'm trying to do the right thing now. If he is willing to cheat on his wife and hurt his daughter then I think I should be honest and then step out of their lives. I don't care how I'm looked at at the end, I just want to make one right decision here.

[Dom163]

That is one hell of a mistake keep it to yourself

[ObxWolfie]

Bad girl. I’m still not sure why you felt the need to burn his life. That hurt everyone. Sex with you didn’t hurt anyone until you told everyone. I hear nothing but victim and that’s not ok. You obviously enjoyed it and you sought it out as much as he did. He was tempted by a 20 year younger girl. It was just sex. He didn’t leave his wife for you