My friend is mad at me because I lost my virginity?

[Anonymous]

One of my best friends is married to the guy she lost her virginity to. She has only dated 3 guys in her life (this includes her husband). I have known her since elementary school (we are now both 25) For a long time, I had waited to lose my virginity because I wanted to find the "right" person. However, after dating a few guys that seemed to be all the same, my views on love changed. Sex became more like something that I wanted to experience, I genuinely felt ready and it happened. I told my friend about it a week after it happened and she is VERY upset with me. She's upset because my views on love and sex have changed as I've dated and gotten older. She is treating me more like her child than a friend. Why do you think she is doing this?

[jensillar]

You're 25 and you had sex... Not something someone should be upset about but I have a good feeling why she's acting that way. Since she got married at a young age, she doesn't know what you had to go through dating so many losers. I'm sure you still believe sex is important but at the time, you also wanted to experience it. That's what life is all about, experiencing. Since she doesn't have as many options she would've had, she's probably stuck with one belief and only one way of how things in life should be run. Tell her you'd like it if she was a bit more open minded and let her know you are an adult, so you'd like for her to respect your own decisions as well.

[MyNameIsJonas]

Good answer. I agree

[l-hedoniste]

She doesn't respect you.

If I'm telling another adult who they need to sleep with, when, and why, I have zero respect for them as a human being. I don't to that to adults I respect, to equals.

Look around. Do you see other people telling their friends how to run their sex life? Of course not. Any friend of mine who tried that would risk getting dumped.

Yes, she's treating you like a child. Worse than a child--the better parents realize when their kids are growing up, and act accordingly--she's treating you like a *stupid* child.

It's up to you to decide what this means for your friendship.

[juice1]

she feels she has an air of superiority over you because she believes her views of sex with the person your marrying is above your new view that it doesn't really matter. so she thinks she better than you because she waited, which is retarded. no view is better than the other, which she doesn't realize.

[dudeman]

shes just disapointed in you its a littld dissapointing, you waited so long I'm a little diassapointed too

[Anonymous]

I think because you shattered her picture perfect image of yourself.