The difference between sex with an experienced guy and a virgin guy?

[Lucky1227]

So I have been thinking about this a lot because I was always really in between on this topic I always said I would never lose my virginity to a virgin guy.. but then I thought about it and I was like "well maybe I would because that's kinda cute.. blah blah" but then I thought about it again recently and decided NO because virgins guys don't know anything, and 2 people who don't know what they are doing (even though I have a basic idea what to do.. I can give good BJ and I know stuff that other guys told me they wanted to do to them even though I never had sex with them so I didn't get to do it) and I am 20, and I feel like any guy who is in the age range of what I would hook up with and a virgin is.. a problem person lol because no guy should be over 21 and a virgin still in my opinion.. so I just kind of want opinions on experience versus lack of.. and I pretty much already know who I'm gonna have sex with and he is experienced so.. yay!

[skittledittle]

not to be random, but sex with a different person is sort of like losing your virginity, right?

yes, an experienced guy, naturally, will know more, but it doesn't necessarily make the sex better...the best moments of sex are when you find out something you didn't know, about yourself or your partner. I think it's more exciting the first time you have sex with somebody (in general, not in losing virginity) because you don't know their body, their feelings, their likes and dislikes... I mean, why do you think people do research and try out positions listed in Cosmo. Sex is a constant learning experience and it's also instinctual. I don't think being a virgin makes you less sexual as far as satisfaction is concerned, I think it might make you a little hesitant/innocent, but you'll find your way.

besides, there are people who have been having sex for years and STILL suck at it (no pun intended), so experience isn't really an instant win.

furthermore, no offense girly, but I think you sound a little douchey saying guys over 21 are required to lose their virginity. that's somebody's personal choice. don't attach a pathology to virginity. if a guy is 23 and a virgin, it doesn't mean something is wrong with him. it is what it is, and if it's your preference to be with a non-virgin, that's fine, but don't judge.

[38rakia38]

Virgins are eager to learn, although some can be a little timid and self-hating...and quick...just depends on the guy/

Experienced guys...well, yeah...self explanatory.

And hey, the two virgins I slept with were both 22, it wasn't because they were "problem men" but because no chick would give either of them the time of day. And hey, you know, they wanted it to be special--so they settled for me.

If you already know who you're going to sleep with, why even post this? I mean, you come off as a male virgin hater--in some ways. I get that your askin a question but yeah...it just kinda comes off a little...insulting to virgin men. In my opinion. Maybe I'm tooting my own horn.

[Lucky1227]

Maybe you are tooting your own horn... and I know the guy I'm gonna sleep with but if God forbid it doesn't work out I need options

[38rakia38]

Virgins need love too.

[Lucky1227]

I don't have a problem with virgins as people.. I am a virgin.. BUT I think that I wouldn't want to have sex with a guy who doesn't have any experience

[38rakia38]

It's not horrible. If anything, if you don't know what you're doing and they don't know what they're doing...it can be kind of fun. But, me, I'm experienced and deflowered two guys. One guy was a inexperienced sex wise, but damn could he eat p*ssy. Point is, even guys who haven't poked can still give a girl some pleasure. Even crusty old non-virgins like me.

[Lucky1227]

Lol I don't doubt that it may be fun for some people but to me... it wouldn't be I would just like experience. And I only like guys older than me and I would spend all my time wondering what's wrong with them and why they didn't lose their virginity sooner you know? Maybe after I lose it I will consider sex with a virgin but... not right now.

[38rakia38]

Oldest guy I dated was 10 years older than me, and I'm 21. He didn't lose his V-card until he was my age currently. Plenty of experience down the line. But proud of waiting until 21.

[jacquesvol]

Cartiphilus' post seems correct to me but he doesn't take into account that not all experienced guys will (try to) be good in bed. A number among them will just think about their own pleasure.

IMHO it's WAY more important that you're in love with the guy and the guy is in love with you and that's 100% willing and eager to think more about you than about himself and his own pleasure.

If he's a virgin, he can read books and learn what to do where and when and anyways you can (should!) guide him. You should even guide an experienced guy: it's quite possible that the women he knew liked other things than you do. Don't expect a guy to know (guess) what your preferences are. Every girl is different and you'll have different preferences this week, comparing to your preferences say 6 months ago or next year. The differences may be small or may be important.

BTW, don't plan it too much, let it happen gradually and at the good moment for you.

Here you'll find a long text I posted: link

[Cartiphilus]

A guy who is experienced will know how to lick your clit in just the right way to drive you into an orgasm. A virgin will not know. An experienced guy would be able to tell you how to do cowgirl both for you and then for him. A virgin would only know how to do missionary. That's easy. Just get on top of the girl, enter her and start pumping. An experience guy would not you need at least twenty minutes of foreplay. A virgin would just kiss you some, get hard and start trying to f***. If you really want to enjoy your first time find a guy who has had at least ten girls. So, you're looking for a guy who is at least in his late twenties, very attractive, self confident, very suave with girls, can kiss very well and you know girls who know him so you can check him out. Of course physical attraction and chemistry between you and your deflowerer is important.

[hALLDAY]

Sorry but all I read was just a bunch a stereotyping.

[Lucky1227]

I think he's right I mean hello it is obvious that experienced guys know what they are doing.. that's a given I had a guy tell me once he "couldn't take my virginity because he has too much experience" he changed his tune recently BUT I have a better guy now so I don't care about him :) lol

[Cartiphilus]

After you've lost your virginity, halliday, and have had a few more girls, you'll know I'm correct. BTW, I realized a typo. I meant to write, "An experienced guy would know that you need at least twenty minutes of foreplay." Also, an experienced guy will really know the actual erogenous zones of the female body and how to exploit them to fully arouse her.

[kaviraaj]

its not that true

am 24 still virgin

i lack personal experience but am really not that dumbo

i really satisfy a girl more than other guys(experienced guys in your sense)

[hALLDAY]

I don't understand, experience vs non experience isn't a big deal. I really can't believe that people make sex sound like quantum mechanics. Sure you pick up a few things here and there, but what works for one may totally not work for another. About the virgin age thing... its your opinion, but it seems rather odd and unorthodox that someone could be 21 and one day old and you would think less of him than a guy who is 20 years old and one day away from 21. Stupidity at its best again... I guess...

[Lucky1227]

I mean I think even 20 is old to be a virgin but I am 20 and a virgin so.. lol

[TheWhiteFreshPrince]

What ever happened to having sex with someone you like and not basing your decision on stupid things like experience?

[Anonymous]

play with your one eyed willy.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, the experience is going to mean less than how into the guy you are. So if you're into the guy you're thinking of, then go give it up!