i know how you feel. I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years 5 times and I don't really regret it, it was fun but I really have a hard time accepting that it changed my relationship. I couldn't tell my boyfriend, so I didn't. I don't think I would tell him until years down the line when it won't matter as much.
i think it takes a lot of courage to admit that you cheated, or to break up with him. I don't know if it would be for his own good, but he probably deserves to know. I'm not ready for that though. I won't lose my boyfriend over some random hookups. and I did have sex with all five of them. :(
my boyfriend is religious though, he's waiting for marriage and I know he would be so hurt if he knew. he knows I'm not a virgin, he's fine with that, but cheating really isn't okay. I've admitted that to myself but I have this life I see ffor us and I'm not willing to just let it all go. so I feel your pain. its hard to do whatever we know to be the right thing. I would say its worth it, but that may be a lie. "what they don't know won't hurt them" is how I see it.0 0 1 4obviously you and the op are willing to let there relationships go being as selfish as you girls continue to be lol
Sorry but you DESERVE to lose your boyfriend over "some random hookups."
You should tell him, your basically saying that what you did was alright because you had no sex but what you did seems even wronger because you enjoyed it. Tell him now and get it out of the way and then you can move on to the guy you really want
0 0 0 0I wouldn't tell him. But if you are gonna keep doing it, you need to break up with him.
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The fact that you think because you two didn't f*ck makes it not a big deal and that you don't regret it says everything to me. You didn't cheat, you had a long-lasting affair which you apparently initiated. That's WORSE than if you'd had sex with him one time! And don't try to tell me you respect him, because if you actually did you would feel like CRAP with the guilt constantly eating away at you! Your nonchalant attitude about the entire thing is, simply put, horrible. You're right about one thing, though. You definitely shouldn't tell him (because from the sound of things he's done nothing like this to you) and so need to break up with him because you betrayed his trust in a way that probably shouldn't be forgiven.
0 2 0 0Wow... ftw! haha... You cheated in a 6 year relationship, don't regret it, and actually enjoyed it. Tell him exactly what happened and let him find someone who wants him. ahhhhhh Just when I think I am ready to try relationships again something comes along and wises me up! Be fair to him. If you actually care about him tell him.
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0 11If doing these things with another guy made you happy and you don't regret them, then obviously you shouldn't be in a relationship with the 6-year guy. That's not how loving long term relationships work. Usually when there's infidelity, the person who committed it would do ANYTHING to take it back.
2 3 0 0Haha you sure went into depth describing what you've done with this new guy. You did every thing except the act itself cause you "didn't want to cross that line" lol. Slut logic ftw?
1 3 0 0Why are you still with your bf? It's clear you don't respect him. Have the courage to let him go, for his benefit and yours. I agree, no point on telling him you cheated. But stop wasting both of your times.
0 2 0 0i don't think that's fair. I do respect him, I was just probably wanting something that was missing from the relationship. I don't think it has to do with a lack of resect for him, I just had my own things to work out.
Start taking responsibility for yourself, please. He's the one that was cheated on for months, ask him what he thinks about the fairness of your actions and if he feels you respected him or not. I think you are taking it way too easy on yourself. But it's just my two cents.
The real question is if you'd do it again if you could / Will you stop doing it?
Telling him isn't a 100% green light; honestly I'd just leave it dead because if I know anything about life itself things that happened in the past that won't happen again are dead, no point even to alleviate your guilt, unless you intend to re-offend or are currently offending.1 0 0 0Just tell him so he can dump you and find a woman who actually respects him enough to NEVER put him in that situation. Because you clearly aren't that woman.
0 0 0 0i'd be honest and you prob should let him know about the whole talking for the last few months thing to. just saying from my perspective I find what you did is worse then like a one night stand type of thing.
0 0 0 0i think you should have broke up with your boyfriend 5 1/2 years ago tell him you just don't want to be with him because he doenst make you happy and you cheated on him
1 3 0 0Hey, dear my boyfriend I'm a slut
1 1 0 0Just grow up and tell him. If your relationship is strong, you guys will work it out. But I don't give a f*** if you didn't put his d*** anywhere inside you. What you did was cheating, pure and simple, and even worse you did it multiple times without regret. If your boyfriend breaks up with you, which he has every right to do, then you have no one to blame but yourself. Sorry, but that's the truth. Sounds like you need a wake up call.
1 1 0 1you sound like a good time. ;)
btw make sure you're on the right account when you post a comment. I can see you slipped and made a boo boo below. lol0 0 0 0you should tell him, its not fair to him, at all not matter how long you have been together
if you guys have been together that long, you shouldn't have done what you did
just be straight up with him and tell him0 0 0 0
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