Girl with flabby tummy and stretch marks?

[Anonymous]

i hate my body, its horrible. I've had a few boyfriends but I wouldn't let it get to the relationship stage where we're comfortable having sex. when I was younger I was in a nasty accident, so I've got stretch marks all up my legs and my bum from the operation (I don't even know how that works, don't ask ;P) and apart from that, I've got a flabby belly...? obviously boys would like a skinny girl with a nice body, but does a nice body matter so much? is it very important for good sex? thanks.

[heatherlu]

Every girl has body hang ups. They just do - even the conceited ones who go around telling everyone how they're god's gift to the female form, have something about them they don't like.

Essentially it's not that big a deal.

There will, of course, be guys around who are only after looks. And generally the trend is, the younger you are, the more superficial you are - but that isn't always the case. I'm not the best looking person, I have stretch marks, and I have a bit of flabby belly, and to be honest some massive thighs - none of that has ever got in the way of my sex life. It's not like I've ever took my top off, and a guy has suddenly lost his hard-on.

The way I see it, is if you get to the stage with a guy, where you're about to have sex, he's already decided that the way you look doesn't completely turn him off. He's either attracted to you physically, or connected with you enough emotionally, that he doesn't really mind about a few imperfections. I think girls idea of what a guy wants is different to reality. I mean, a guy can lust over really slim, toned, prefect women, but it doesn't mean they expect every single woman to look like that under her clothes.

[thesedeadorchids]

I have a tummy and some stretch marks, AND a boyfriend who I have very good sex with, very frequently.

There's always going to be guys who will be shallow cocks, and of course there are guys who are very much into girls like you (but probably don't announce it). As Belgie said, the younger the guy the less interested he is in looking past appearance and sexual conquest.

Wait a few years and guys that are more mature find other things more important, or even more of a turn on, than appearance (whether or not they're attracted to your body type or not). As for a tummy physically affecting sex, apparently bigger girls are better in bed. It's a fact, google it. More cushion for the pushin I guess...

And just a note: CONFIDENCE! Love your body, it is the only one you've got. Look after yourself and grow fond of one body part at a time. Live your life with confidence and others will see your beauty and not your flaws.

[taster]

Well said My Lady...i hope our Question Asker is paying attention...

[Belgie]

You're at that age where it won't matter to any guy who thinks he can get sex from you.

When you're older, it won't matter to any guy who wants a relationship with you.

It will only matter now if you (like many girls your age) want a relationship with a guy your own age. Most guys of your age group are not interested in relationships. It is very common for girls who have some sort of physical "flaw" to take this attitude of guys and blame themselves, instead of realising that young guys are basically scum. They will decide that the "flaw" is to blame. Their skin, their boob size, their big nose, their teeth, whatever it happens to be. That'll be the thing they blame for finding it hard to find a guy interested in more than sex.

This could then lead to you carrying around emotional baggage and neuroses in your 20's and even your 30's, thinking these scars are a massive deal, when they really won't be.

If you can get that through your head now, when you're young, you'll be in a much better mentally healthier position when you're older.

[Distant]

A nice body is good for many reasons. It shows that the girl cares about her appearance enough to keep in shape, for one. It's dependant on the guy whether it'll affect your sex life or not. Many guys will have sex less frequently or the quality will go down if their girlfriend starts gaining weight. The stretch marks aren't a big deal and most guys won't judge you once you tell them what happened.

~Distant

[Samanosuke47]

I like distant's answer. The stretch marks don't matter so much. I have some too. I don't know how. But I do. lol And I say just try to go running or something. :] Your not going to get magically skinny. Most people it requires some upkeep. I have an easy time being skinny.. but I still have to upkeep or I know I'll start to get fat.