Why can't guys show us exactly what they are looking fore?

[wannabesexymommy]

Generally, as a bisexual woman I think that I can figure out guys thoughts pretty well. However, you all really have me stumped on what it is you REALLY want out of a relationship. We've all heard the saying, "actions mean more than words" so here are some examples for you and maybe you all can help me figure it out. "i prefer a girl with a little extra meat on her bones!" however, they released the top 100 woman and they are far from girls with meat on their bones. you flock to skinny women, so which one is the truth? "i prefer a natural classy girl" yet, the p*rn you all prefer is of girls with giant breast implants, they are stick thin, with heavy make-up and long manicured nails? "i love women of all shapes and sizes! a womans body is beautiful!" then why is it that it seems like you only go after ONE type of woman? why do you have terms like "butter face" "roast beef curtains" "mosquito bite boobs" "cottage cheese thighs" "Yes, guys like to look of trashy looking girls at the club and things like that, but what they really want is a nice, sweet, average or pretty girl." well, then why don't you? I don't exactly see a line for the ladies with a little extra weight, some stretch marks, or a little bit of acne. guys! I don't get it! why can't you show us and tell us what exactly you are looking for? Because its making women like me scared to even go out in public not knowing if we are average or too ugly to be seen in public!

[Anonymous]

You're clearly going to all the wrong places to find guys because I've only met a handful who are actually like that.

Also, don't generalize saying all guys into that stupid category, most don't fit even half of those criteria.

As for 'meat on the bones' vs top 100 women: That's a magazine. They use famous and rich women, all of whom are small. That's just the way it is. Most every guy I know loves girls that don't look like they'd break if you hugged them too hard. Stop complaining because a very specific and select group of men that voted in the contest-thing voted in skinny girls.

Classy girls vs p*rn: I don't know a single guy who watches girls who look like that in p*rn. In fact my boyfriend, who's sitting next to me, quite literally just gagged at the thought of it. No one likes that. That's just the kind of p*rn that's most easily found and exploited. Most guys watch p*rn with normal looking girls and jack off to the actions, not the girl. It's got almost nothing to do with her, from what I've heard.

Shapes and sizes vs mean terms: First off "butter face" is probably my FAVORITE insult ever. It's just so much fun to say and use. And it's very true. Some women have hot bodies and ugly ass faces. That's just they way it is. And beauty differs from person to person. One guy will find a girl's face hideous and the next will thing she's the sexiest thing alive. So not all men want the same thing because not all men like the same thing. Stop. F***ing. Generalizing.

Looks vs good girls: Once again, some guys want super skinny girls but most of the guys I know want some one normal. Most guys, at least most any who are in it for a serious relationship, will look at looks secondary to compatibility and personality.

I know I said "most guys" a lot or "some guys" but that's what it is. Men aren't a single species that all acts the same, like lemmings. You need to find new places to hang out because where ever it is you're going clearly doesn't play host to the guys you like. Also you need to fix your attitude, if you're going to act like a jerk and assume every man is going for looks and sex and skinny and perfect then no guy is gong to want you because you're assuming he's a superficial asshole right off the bat.

Also, gain some confidence because that'll help. If your entire self image is dependent upon what you THINK guys want to see then you'll never be happy with yourself. You need to like the way you look, f*** what they think. Stop judging yourself based on stupid standards that guys don't really want.

[wannabesexymommy]

wow, your calling ME the jerk. nice.

[udolipixie]

Stop judging yourself based on stupid standards that guys don't really want. And you know all men. Sadly the majority do want these standards: thin, young, and a pretty face. Telling fat girls that guys who aren't chubby chasers or into bbw are going to be initially interested doesn't help them The guy might mot mind fat on a girl but he'd prefer a girl without it.

[wannabesexymommy]

who said I was the one judging myself? I am married. but I know that when I hang out with my husband and his friends and my male friends all say things along those lines, but their actions all speak differently. those are all different quotes from people that I know. HENCE my confusion. I know that not EVERY guy is like that. but I would say 90% of the guys I know are.

[Opinion Owner]

So YOU know all men? See I said I didn't right in my answer, I even started a paragraph off with it. I don't claim to ever know men's preferences, but I do know those of the men in my group of friends, so I'm speaking for them. But I guess, since you speak for men everywhere, I'll just rescind my answer.

[Opinion Owner]

Well then your husband has immature boys for friends. Men like that haven't grown out of their equivalent of a woman's "bad boy" phase. Any mature, grown up man doesn't act like that.

[Shaun]

Excellent post and points. You, my dear, know men.

[udolipixie]

"i prefer a girl with a little extra meat on her bones!"

however, they released the top 100 woman and they are far from girls with meat on their bones. you flock to skinny women, so which one is the truth?

Unless they are chubby chasers or into bbw they are lying.

They don't mind a girl with some fat but they want it well portioned out

You see guys going for fit women first right?

They don't mind the fat they do not prefer it.

"i prefer a natural classy girl"

yet, the p*rn you all prefer is of girls with giant breast implants, they are stick thin, with heavy make-up and long manicured nails?

They want a girl who is naturally beautiful without makeup they don't want a Katy Perry.

When guys say no makeup it really means makeup I can't tell you're wearing.

"i love women of all shapes and sizes! a womans body is beautiful!"

then why is it that it seems like you only go after ONE type of woman? why do you have terms like "butter face" "roast beef curtains" "mosquito bite boobs" "cottage cheese thighs"

There is much more consensus among men about whom they find attractive than there is

among women.

Studies with the raters ranged in age from 18 to more than 70 have proven this.

Its three things: thinness, age, and facial features. Search men agree women don't Mr. Wood

Women share agreement on men attractiveness when they are fertile/period time they an

macho faces.

"Yes, guys like to look of trashy looking girls at the club and things like that, but what they really want is a nice, sweet, average or pretty girl."

It's like girls going for bad boys when they're young then wise up & get a good NOT nice guy.

Guys fool around with the hot girls then settle down with the average girls.

Very few people actually go for what is good for them early on.

guys! I don't get it! why can't you show us and tell us what exactly you are looking for? Because its making women like me scared to even go out in public not knowing if we are average or too ugly to be seen in public!

Guys will still get with ugly/average girls they just prefer attractive ones.

How many times have guys said they don't ant to settle for someone they're not attracted to

while being hypocrites and wanting girls to settle for guys that don't fit their Mr.Right.

But very few girls are truly ugly most people are 5's.

[zombiefood]

Well said, very well said. I approve.

[young4myage]

Here is what all guys are looking for:

A woman that takes care of herself. Size matters only if it keeps her from enjoying life.

A saint from 8 a. m. to 8 p. m.

A naughty wore from 8 p. m. to 10 p. m.

A mute from 10 p. m. to 6 a. m.

A masseuse from 6 a. m. to 6:15 a. m.

A naughty masseuse from 6:15 a. m. to 6:18 a. m.

A day planner from 6:18 a. m. to 8:00 a. m.

Mostly, guys want girls that like themselves. And occasionally like other girls...

We are not complicated, we just want women to be four or five different people.

[Shaun]

1) for me, meat on her bones is the truth.

2) you and I are looking at completely different p*rn.

3) I've been in relationships with thin as well as thick women and loved the hell out of them.

4) I don't even like to look at the trashy girls at the club.

Unfortunately, I'm just an average looking man, so I'm basically invisible to women.

[rorothelover]

i want to clarify what you want but its so long to read...lets be frnds and can chat to clarify