What would be considered as tight?

[Anonymous]

I read this question on here about a guy complaing that that girl he slept with was too lose, so he couldn't get off. That made me wondering, what is tight enough and what is too loose? That guy said he could put three of his fingers in during foreplay. Now I'm a virigin and I can put two of my fingers in but only one of my boyfriends. As far as I know, there's not a scale for it either so I guess it's kinda hard too measure. And it depends on the guys size too. But on average what would be to loose and what would be considered tight? by whatever measures you want

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Actually "looseness" and "tightness" are ambiguous terms that refer to two things:

1. The natural size and elasticity of the Vagina; this is the minor element but cannot be changed.

2. The muscular power and strength of the Vaginal muscles and Pelvic area; this is the major element, can be changed, and is quite measurable.

Essentially the idea is that #2 is far more important than number one because just like a harder erection allows for easier and generally more pleasurable sex a more muscular vagina has stronger contractions, more control over those contractions, a greater amount of those contractions, and a greater ease at getting aroused, lubricated, and some report greater sensation / sensitivity ( in a good way ). This is in turn a good way to produce greater friction ( because the contractions themselves and control you have allow you to do specific things ) and manipulation.

What is "tight" enough actually can be argued to be completely separate from partner's penile size as well for a few reasons:

A. The size of the penis has nothing to do with the vaginal strength, when men complain of looseness it's generally the second element ( lack of pelvic / vaginal strength ) that they are talking about.

B. The vagina accommodates a normal sized penis stuck into it for the most part, the odds of #1 playing a part are very, very low; what this means is that it gives rise to the sensible "Men are too small" argument since female stimulation relies on being stretched while male stimulation relies on being squeezed. The greater your squeezing power the greater you are at sex in general.

C. An extremely large penis can have the same result; because the muscles of the vagina also naturally have their own definition smoother ( thus weaker ) muscles tend to be less pleasurable due to a lack of friction in the first place, so the argument that a larger penis will feel better because a vagina is smaller is actually more or less a myth; the point required for that to likely be true is a point far beyond normal pain limitations when the penis is pressing against the walls far too hard. This would also introduce lubrication problems but that's another topic.

At any rate vaginal strength is measurable tangibly with weights and whatnot if you wanted to get some. Training the pelvic floor ( ultimately having strong hips and legs is the real plus to this as well ) is one way to increase vaginal strength since all those muscles happen to be interconnected and most any exercise to one effects the others. It's more effectual to just go and become a runner than to specifically work your vagina but if that's not for you there are plenty of objects and tools for the job. I don't have the weight scale or pressure scale however to tell you if your vagina is strong. Sad.

Hope that helped.

[oh_henry_oh]

Are you serious? A guy actually acted this way toward you.

You need a better class of boyfriend. Look elsewhere.

And under no circumstances, none whatsoever, give him any benefits. Next time you see him, in front of some of your girl friends, tell him he'll have to go back to using his hand.

By the way, we're engineered so that almost any two people, any man, and any woman, can mate and enjoy it.

I realized something else too, when I was in college -- that all women, every single woman without a single exception, was attractive. It actually is true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Now, maybe you have had five children, maybe you were in an auto accident and that part of your body was injured and the reconstructive surgery isn't complete. Maybe that's true. But get another boyfriend, because that guy is someone who doesn't appreciate women. He may come on as if he does, but, my guess, is that what he said, he said to hurt you.

That's why I suggested that you comment to him in front of your gf's.

And really, FIND SOMEONE ELSE.

My suggestion: Think about what so-and-so (someone else,) would be like a year or three down the road. Show him around to your friends, see what they think. Be selective, that's what girls are entitled to do, that's part of being a woman. My wife was, and hey!, she and I are in love. Still.

So, don't settle for jerks. Look around. Enlist your friends. You really want to love this person. Not someone you might be able to love but someone who you're actually in love with before you seal the deal.

I'll give you one more tip, when you're in love, the world stops. I know, physicists, astronomers tell us that the world revolves around the sun, stuff like that. That the moon revolves around the earth.

Don't believe any of that. It's not true, not one word! Truth, when you meet the right person, the world will just stop. For you. For your man. The world will stop. Completely, That's what love is, don't settle for less.

[Asker]

Thanks for the long and thoughtful answer. But no, no one acted that way towards me. My boyfriend never said anything like that, I just read a question on here from someone that said this

[Anonymous]

i can put only one finger into mine...if I try another it hurts like bloody hell...and I am not a virgin

[flatironguy]

Three fingers sounds fine to me. If your boyfriend is only fitting one in, his hands are huge or you are pretty tight. Tight is usually good, but too tight can be troublesome. It can take a lot of work to get it in.

[livelifetothefull]

Yer, I have that problem - I'm TOO tight (virgin but has been fingered many times before), he can fit 3 fingers in - but its not as good/easy, but his d*** won't go in! *sad face*

[Anonymous]

im guessing if you can get your fist in there that would be loose lol. I doubt your loose if your a virgin. Usually only women who have had babies loose some of their tightness

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Well this is true and false. A ) Fisting is not something that requires "looseness"; it's a technique that relies on relaxation. B ) Losing muscular definition can also be done by just sitting around. Most of us walk so we maintain that definition, but those that are sedentary to the point of the extreme ... Well.