Do guys get boners when?

Hey, I’m just wondering….. do guys get boners from just LOOKING at a hot girl? Like, if they see a sexually/physically attractive girl either in real life or a photo of her, do they automatically get a boner or no? Just wondering.. because some guys told me they do when they see a hot girl in person or a photo of her or even just thinking about her turns them on easily and they get hard but I’m sure not all men are like this, but I just want to know if most are or not…

I'm talking about guys in age ranges 18 to 27.. and when guys get hard, do they automatically come too.. like does it all happen together just at the same time or no?
I also know guys can get them in their sleep and sometimes for no reason at all relating to a girl or anything, but this is another thing.
Is it involuntary... kind of like breathing is? I'm talking about getting boners.. and when it gets hard, does it hurt like someone is squeezing it? Or does it feel good? I heard about blue balls before.
And when I mean seeing a hot girl, I mean her body like if you think she has a good figure and is wearing tight clothes to show off her body, like skin tight or revealing like lots of skin and if you think she has a nice face too..
Is it also true that the older a man gets, the less hard-ons he will get? Like above 40..
Also, what is the difference between cumming and ejaculating and pre-cum? What causes them?


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  • @ last 2 updates:

    Yes, generally guys' hormones mellow out by the time they get into their early to mid 20s, so for instance I'm 26 and it very rarely happens to me anymore. And then as guys get older, 40s 50s, there are many factors that lead to fewer erections and lack of rigidity.hardness (basically a "weak" erection) that can range from testosterone levels, heart issues, circulation issues, stress, and more. That's why so many guys over 40-50 take Viagra.

    The difference amongst those three terms is slight but distinct. Coming and ejaculating happen at almost the same time - coming is just the orgasm itself (the intense pleasure) and ejaculation is a totally separate process where semen is pumped out through the penis. Pre-come is produced in a guy's body to basically provide lubrication inside the penis so the semen flows out as smoothly as possible. Doctors also think it is a base so it neutralizes any acidity in the penis left over from urine (acidity would kill the sperm in the semen). Pre come can show up out of the tip of the penis at any point during arousal but generally it shows up close to ejaculation.

    • Thank you so very much! Really appreciate it! What about update #4? Would it be too much trouble if I ask if you could answer that as well? That is what my question was about in the first place to begin with when I said "looking" at a hot girl. Thanks so much! :)

    • Not unless you switch best answer over to me.

    • Hahaha, okay! I will! :)

What Guys Said 17

  • @Update 4: No, that doesn't instantly get me hard but maybe when I was younger. I have to at least be imagining something sexual going on between the two of us if she isn't actually making contact, and often I do get aroused just from a girl I like running her hands over my stomach or back or arm. Not fully aroused, but it "starts the motor" so to speak.

  • @ update 3: It does feel good, it feels kind of powerful and strong, like I've got something special and impressive and I can feel that natural instinct to want to have sex. It's a very primal feeling. It doesn't hurt, same as being stretched out during sex doesn't hurt girls (unless it's a huge penis). Blue balls just refers to the frustrated feelings (which are emotional and physical) that result from being partially stimulated and then left alone so he doesn't achieve orgasm. It's a sh*tty position to leave a guy in because he'll just feel hung up and neglected and unpleasant until he takes care of it.

    • Nice to know. Also, can you please answer my last update question too? Thanks, you have been very helpful! I appreciate all your answers! :)

    • Sorry, meant last TWO updates.

  • @ Update - Coming is a totally separate event. It takes direct stimulation with a hand/mouth/vagina/whatever to make that happen. Being hard just facilitates that stimulation since it wouldn't work so well if the penis was flaccid. A hardon is like a sign that says "Ready!"

    Also, the penis being hard stimulates the woman so she produces more lubrication in the vagina which feels good and in turn can make the man even harder which makes him all the more ready to come.

  • When guys are 12-15 (generally) they get hard from anything. I hated it when I was in junior high and my mom would drive me to school in her old van every morning with it's crappy worn out shocks. Up and down and up and down the whole way. I'd walk onto campus with a hardon every day because of that, trying to tuck it in before I got out of the car so my mom wouldn't see it. So annoying.

    But to answer your question, in my case, no, just looking at a girl doesn't get me hard (I'm 26). Maybe looking at a naked girl who is in the room with me, yes. But I can't really think of a time when kissing and touching wasn't involved either, so I'm not sure. I think the answer is no, just looking doesn't do it. Needs to be some stimulation, even if it's just dirty talk (which always turns me on).

    • lol I forgot about the bumpy ride boners.

    • Like I said, thanks a lot for your answers but I would appreciate if you could also answer my last two update questions as well. Thanks so much!

  • Its possible, usually in young teenagers but most of the time requires physical contact.

    • @update: No, ejaculation requires manual stimulation.

    • I see. Thanks for your answer.

  • Yeah I do get a boner from seeing a hot girl.

    • Okay, thanks for your answer.

  • im 33...i wake up with one every day

    • Lol, thanks for your answer.

  • I don't get hard ons just by looking at a hot girl, unless I look long enough. Like if they are showing some skin, or are wearing a shirt or pants that shows her figure then I might start getting something. But it's not like "BAM! Hot girl = boner"

    Unless of course she happened to walking around naked. In that case, I'd be tall and proud with it :)

    • Haha, thanks. Good to know. I see. Yeah, look at my last update.

    • Cumming and ejaculating are the same thing. Pre-cum is a little bit of discharge that helps with lubrication. Just like how a girl gets wet when she gets turned on.

    • Ohhh, I see. Thanks for the clarification.

  • It is involuntary. It feels good, generally. I've never had blue balls, but I've heard it's painful.

    • Okay, thanks for your answer!

  • I get hard just from looking at a hot chick, but we don't c*m just by looking at her.

  • If you're talking about the 'potential' of getting a hard-on, then yes! Guys get hard-one from just reading these posts let alone looking at a cute girl. A lot of it is volintary, some... Not so much.

    • Okay, thanks for your answer. :)

  • No its not involuntary unless they are sucking it.

    And no I don't get them from just seeing a hot Woman.

    I also have never had one in my sleep.

    • Interesting. Good to know!

  • Guys get boners looking at a girl, thinking about a girl, when it's out of place, when the wind blows, etc.

    • I'm telling you what it's like for younger guys. Believe it or not, I still remember.

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    • As to your last updates, erections are slightly more difficult to come by as you age, in that they begin to require actual stimulation.

    • Oh okay, thanks, I see.

  • i've gotten them from watching girls rock their hips while they walk away, you girls don't know how sexy you can be with the right pair of legs, the right ass and the right hips, its like, dam, sexy.

  • yeah seeing or thinking about a hot girl makes me hard

  • i get them depending on circumstances, maybe ignoring an urge to masturbate and it later catching up with me, sure a sexy girl, short skirt often does it, i've been so turned on once or twice i came just from getting such an intense hardon, other times a hardon for an extended time where i couldn't readily relieve it causing aching balls or blue balls. for example riding in the back seat on a 3 hr. trip with a hot girl sitting there, she dozed off and her skirt had hiked up and a good view of her inner thighs


What Girls Said 1

  • I think it depends on age mostly. When hormones are new and surging in their early to late teens yes they get them more easily and more often and maybe even for no reason they are aware of lol. I think once guys get over 25 or so they need more stimulation than a sexy girl walking by to get them hard.