How should I tell my mom I have an STD?

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So, I think I just caught an STD from my boyfriend. I talked to a school counselor on what she thought I should do, and she called my mom. She only told my mom that it burned when I urinated, and, trying not to hint that I was no longer a virgin, said it might be a UTI. I told my mom it might be it, (it might be, I don't know), but I have a hunch that it is an STD... My mom is going to take my to the gyno this weekend, and the thing I'm really worried about it is, what do I say if I come up STD positive? When I talked to her in the social office on the phone, she asked if it was from having sex and I answered no... So.. What is the easiest way to tell my mom that I am not a virgin and might have an STD? How can I help make her understand? I already know she's not going to be too happy... I think I'm going to tell her I had oral sex, (I have) or should I just stop and be honest? (I usually am honest) By the way, the reason I'm having a problem with this is I'm under the legal age of consent in my state & my mom wants me to wait until I'm dead or dying LOL...Well... Sorry this is so long THANKS for reading (: <3 && Thanks for the help.

ArtistBboy · Accepted Answer

*Mom finds out you have an STD from the doctor/maybe your guilty expression*

Your mom says: "Wow I can't believe you lied to me"

You say: "Mom, you understand that THIS reaction is what makes me want to lie in the first place? I'm sick of lieing - I want you to be there, but every time ANYTHING comes up that you don't like, you make me feel like I have to lie because of your reaction. I know it's only cause you care about me and want me to be safe, but I am making my own choices just like you made yours, through human error. You don't have to support what I'm doing or go along with it, you can still disagree or be unhappy - but just be there and I'll stop lieing." + "Silence afterwards"

Once she realizes that your human, just like the other 13% of the population out there - she'll get off your back as much.. Infact, it'll make you guys closer.. It's just about the time where parents don't want to let go of their "Baby girl".. And so you have to be the one to break the bond and build a new relationship with you and your parents. It's the only way you'll get freedom.

As for sex and all that sh*t - Mom's right, save yourself the drama and the bullsh*t.. If you don't believe that "refined ass chewing" -> Pay attention to your sexually active friends.. They may show that they are having fun and are completely happy / taken / etc.. But behind the scenes, what do they do? They bitch that "he doesn't like me" or that "she might be pregnant".. etc and so forth.. Mom's trying to get you to focus on YOUR life, because you never "discover yourself" you only "create yourself".. Meaning, if you wanna have a rebellous lifestyle - you'll probably end up dead or in jail before your 30.. But if you wanna be adventurous and see life, that's a whole different story.

Like I said originally, just talk with the woman. I'm sure she remembers those days where she was in your shoes too, she just doesn't want to.

~ ArtistBBoy

TheGoodTheBadTheHOT · Accepted Answer

If she has two or more braincells she will realize that there's a large chance that its an STI, let alone that you've had underage sex. Newsflash - pretty much every girl does it.

Just be forward and tell her. But for next time; use a condom.

kgrrl2323 · Accepted Answer

if you were honest before, what's stopping you now? I get that you're underage and all parents don't understand why we feel the need to have sex at a young age but I'm more than positive that all our parents have the same dirty secrets we are doing now. and if you don't say anything, how are you suppose to get the proper treatment. right now I'm sure if you were to tell your mom what's really up, she would be worried for your safety, not that you have sex. and also telling her can help you to get the OTHER help you need. like getting on birth control so you don't have to check pregnancy scare off your list either, getting condoms, or antibiotics for a possible std. it's up to you really what you do but if you have a good relationship with your mom, this topic shouldn't be a problem and you's two will get through this rough patch together.

timetowaste · Accepted Answer

I think it is most likely a UTI.  It's very likely for us girls to get UTIs as a result of having sex due to the anatomy of things. It's easy to jump to worst case scenario. Do you have any sort of discharge that's unusual?

creamcheese · Accepted Answer

you most likely have a uti/yeast infection. and if it comes out positive there isn't much you can do, but hopefully its only one that can taken cared of with some cream and it goes away. :)

longrodvonhugendong · Answer

Well, the good news is that if it burns when you pee, it's probably either gonorrhea or chlamydia if it's an STD, and those are both curable. I wouldn't be so quick to rule out a UTI though.