I think that one thing many girls (and guys) don't do is to step back and look in the mirror. Give an honest assessment of yourself. Do you REALLY look good in spandex pants? Is having the cleavage line all the way down to the navel really looking good? If more people would check themselves out honestly, www.peopleofwalmart.com would not exist.
luv2bshort - you have to highlight your better features. You have Anne Hathaway eyes with the long pretty brown hair. You want to have a guy focus there. If you really are short as your name suggests, highlighting your legs may not be the thing for you. If guys have said that you have a nice back end, a pair of jeans that fit nice there but don't do the skinny leg look on your legs would be a good idea. I can't tell from your picture your bust size exactly. You look to be a a nice size from the one picture of you in the dress. Something that is fitting but doesn't say "here's my boobs!" would be good. You want a guy to check them out briefly as he is examining the 'overall package' but not have him lock on there only. You are going to want those pretty eyes and hair checked out. If the boobs stop him from getting about the neck line, you have failed to acocomplish mission.
No, I am not a gay dress designer. My wife just has me watching too many episodes of 'America's Next Top Model'. It is a amazing what you can learn on that show.
haha you don't sound gay lol but you make sense. I'm 5ft and I'm a ballet dancer so yah dancers body, but my problem is that (some of my girl friends have told me) the reason that guys don't see me a sexually appealing is because I just usually wear t-shirts and jeans. I dress kinda simple, but that is because I'm afraid to cross that line...
You have the same issue as Paula Abdul - short dancer. And she has always been hot in my opinion. T-shirts and jeans - how tight fitting are they? If they are baggy, I would agree with them. If you are concerned about crossing the line, try it in small bits. Tighten the jeans or shirts a bit at a time. What do your friends say are your good attributes - bust line, legs, butt? Work with that area first. See what response your get from friends and guys checking you out.
The key is to compliment your assets with your clothing without objectifying your body. You don't need to be showing a lot of skin in order for a man to find you attractive. Its nice to leave a little to the imagination. Go for stylish rather then something that just displays a lot of skin.
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i love being slutty. lol its fun. :)
but I understand your concerns.
you know some guys like girls who don't look overtly sexual? its hard to pinpoint because I've seen so many different types of sexy. For some girls, its in an effortless laid back nature, they just exude sensuality. for other girls, its more the dolled up look and embodying a fantasy of whatever "perfection" in the sexy sense is supposed to be.
im confused though, I thought slutty = action. sexy = persona, style, etc. you can be sexy without acting on sexual urges all the time.
i guess some people think short skirts and plunging necklines are slutty, but I guess I just don't agree with that mentality.
good luck though. if you are uncomfortable with sexuality and embodying an image that may send the wrong idea, then just remain as you are. there's nothing wrong with not being sexy, its just that some of us fall into that category naturally and enjoy enhancing that image.
ok, so can a person have a sexy persona without acting slutty?
some people will probably judge you as slutty because that's how people are. actually being whatever "slutty" is to our society is about actions though, not clothes. my last comment was saying that you should stay the same if you're worried that people will judge you a s slutty because some will if you dress unabashedly sexy, no doubt about it. why do you want to change your look so badly, if I may ask?
oh I'm not trying to change, just make my look more mature? ha ha I have a problem with not being noticed because I am really petite, guys always think I'm 13 or 14. I guess I want to be seen as a beautiful sexy women and not like a kid.
I have the most perfect example for that
For my best friend's birthday a while back, she wanted all the girls to wear dresses..
ALL girls were in extremely tight extremely short dresses with their breasts hanging out. I, however, wore a dress that wasn't too short but is above the knee, and from the top it's completely covered with no sleeves. It was flowy, and so I put a nice belt to accentuate my waist.
Add the heels, hair pulled up, and a bracelet and earrings...
One of my guy friends told me I was the sexiest girl there!
I have long legs so they looked great with the dress' length.
I also have pretty big breasts, but the coverage the flow with the belt gave them the perfect size!
Like one of the guys' answer.. wear something that accents your best assets without objectifying your body.
Get it now?
I hope this helped :)
Plus... Slutty is the way you act. Sexy is the way you look.
the key to looking sexy: don't try so hard to look sexy. ie there are certain rules, if you're wearing low-cut tops you cover your legs, vice versa if you're wearing a mini - you cover your cleavage.
it's the difference between pammie andersen and j-lo in my opinion...subtlety.
i thought the key to be being slutty was in a girl's attitude, not just what she wears.
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I think it is a challenge and a fine line. Things like not having too low a top or too short a skirt are important. Also I think midrift is bad too.
Being sexy, you could show a little more skin, maybe some cleavage, wear nice clothes, make your hair match your clothes (either straightened or fixed a certain way). Being slutty to me would be a girl that is wearing something that's either not really appropriate for where you are- like if you walked into school looking like a hooker. But wearing clothes that show some more skin and clothes that show off your figure could make you look sexy without going over the top with it.
You can never be sexy without being slutty.
"Sexy" is about how you choose to express your sexuality, how you choose to communicate what turns you on. It's something you do for yourself, for your own happiness.
"Slutty" is a judgment upon your sexuality, and an attack upon it. It's something that others do to you, to harm you.
Any time you're sexy for yourself, you're going to be slutty to someone else. Your choice, then, is who'll be in control. Are you going to live to be sexy, or in fear of being slutty?
Great answer.
Just be you! the right guy will know how sexy you are and that spark will ignite the inner sexiness that you want to display without seeming slutty or over seeking.
And remember that dressing nice to look good does not mean dressing slutty. A girl can show off her nice breasts or butt without the look screaming "CHECK THIS OUT!" I agree, the right guy will appreciate the look.
you look sexy in your profile pic so that's that
Being slutty is about behavior--not just about looks. The fact that you're even concerned about it makes it extremely unlikely that you'll look like a slut no matter what you do. I'm guessing the bigger issue is that you're not 100% comfortable with your sexuality and you have some negative feelings about it which means you're more likely to think something is slutty just because it's sexually appealing.
What in particular are you concerned about? Is there a particular outfit or style of dress that you think crosses the line? And why does it?
Consider this: you could wear a perfectly appropriate bikini to the beach and look drop dead sexy. This wouldn't make you slutty.
you can be a total bombshell without being a slut. Confidence is key because that always comes across to other people. In terms of dressing, know your body and what flatters it. Pick one asset (yes, only one) and flaunt it. Cleavage is not slutty, but paired with a mini or 5-inch heels and you will look like a grade C hooker. Whatever you choose to wear, own it and don't feel self-conscious.
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