If a guy doesn't give oral, does that mean he doesn't like you?

My current boyfriend and I are hardly "official", only been together for a month. We've had sex, which he says he prefers to getting blowjobs, so as a result, I have not given him head many times, but I've still done it. (he didn't ask, I just did it). Anyway, he hasn't gone down on me. He'll finger me but he hasn't tried to go down. He tells me he's done it in the past, but it sounds like it was only a few times, and he claims to not hate or love doing it. I don't need him to do it, but I'm wondering if the reason he's not doing it is because he doesn't really like me. I know I'm hygenic because I take more than one shower a day and I use feminine wipes, and I have done the "smell test" and even tasted myself.and most of the time, if I've showered that day, there's nothing to taste or smell. So I don't think it's that. Are there some guys who only do this with serious girlfriends?

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  • Seriously? You're overthinking this. Some guys just don't particularly care for it. There are those who like it, those who don't, and those who could take it or leave it. It sounds like your guy is one of the "take it or leave it" type. In other words he probably would if you asked him or suggested it to him that you'd like that and wouldn't mind, but isn't going to go out of his way to do it on his own.

    Or it could be that he's done it before with girls who really expected it from him and as such has grown to dislike it.

    As I've found is the answer to most questions like this, you just need to talk to him about it, be more assertive about what you want.

    And lastly, I'm pretty sure there aren't any guys who only give oral to serious girlfriends, that sounds a little silly to me. He must have other reasons for not doing it. Like I said, talk to him about it, it's the only way to get a good answer. People on this site can give general advice, but he's the one who knows the real reasons.