SHOULD I APOLIGIZE FOR BAD SEX?

[RoCkStAR1985]

OK SO A FEW HOURS AGO I HAD SEX W/MY SEX BUDDY. WE USUALLY HAVE GREAT SEX AND IT'S ALWAYS SUPER HOT. I KNOW IM REALLY GOOD AT IT, BUT TONIGHT WE MET IN OUR SECRET SPOT, SINCE IT'S GETTING COLDER HERE IN CALI, IT WAS REALLY FOGGY AND THE PLACE LOOK REALLY SCARY--HONESTLY I FELT LIKE IN THE MOVIE HALLOWEEN--LOL--SO THAT KINDA TURNED ME --- I WAS KINDA SCARED, PLUS 3 CARS PASSED BY (which never happens) SO I WAS EVEN MORE UNCOMFORTABLE.ANYWAYS WE KEPT ON GOING--HONESTLY I WAS TRYING TO CONCENTRATE BUT I COULDNT, I GAVE HIM A BJ BUT IT DIDNT WORK, FINALLY WE WENT ON THE BACK OF THE CAR AND DID IT THERE---SO HE FINISHED (only him) AND WE LEFT I FEEL KINDA BAD CUZ I FEEL HE DIDNT ENJOY IT, FOR SURE I DIDNT, BUT MY QUESTION IS SHOULD SEND HIM A TEXT(nothing too serious) SAYING SOMETHING LIKE "HEY SORRY 4 DA BAD SEX LAST NITE.LOL" OR WOULD IT SOUND WRONG/WEIRD/DESPERATE?

[tammymac]

He is aware the sex was not as great as it usually is with you, but I don't think you want to say "the bad sex" men as a rule, do not like to think they participate in bad sex, if you say that, that's what is going to be running through his head the next time you go to have sex. The less pressure you put on him to perform the better. Maybe tell him sorry, about last night, I was a little nervous with it being so freaky out. I'll make it up to you next time, than maybe tell him a little of what you will do to make it up to him.

Maybe part of the reason it was not so good was because he was nervous too.

[tammymac]

Thank for the bes answer vote. As for why he did not text back well who knows. Most of the time the guys in the FWB relationship likes to make the first move, so you might have to wait him out. Best of luck, and keep us posted

[Celiene]

i'd just arrange for another meeting and make sure it was better then the last time. but def don't say sorry for the bad sex

[Mr5mrtA55]

Sex is never bad. It's just that some sex is better than others. :)

I don't really think anything needs to be said. But if you do, the key here is not to be negative but to say something with some levity and humor. You know, just be like, "You know it was really eerie and creepy last night. I had a hard time getting into it. It was like, 'where's the man with the ax?' LOL We need to hook up soon 'cause I'm dying to take make up for lasts nights lack of usual heat and passion between us."

[Anonymous]

That's be fine that you text him like you said. He probably already knows it wasn't the best surroundings or circumstances for having sex. lol! A nice little "I'm sorry" text never hurts. I don't really think you owe him anything but your little text will take care of that either way. If you don't hardly know the guy and you're not all that interested in a make up session, forget it for sure. If you'd like some make-up sessions, then that'd be a great little thing to do.

[my2847]

Explain yourself to him and what happened and follow it up with, so what fantasy thing can we do, or can I wear foyou to make the next time better for both of us.

[l-hedoniste]

Apologize when you hurt people. Bad sex may suck, but it doesn't hurt.