Guys, can you really stay emotionally detached from the girl you sleep with?

If you sleep with a girl multiple times over a month or several week period, is it easy for you to stay emotionally unattached? Or do you have to work at it?
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what if you liked her but you were moving VERY far away... and you weren't looking for a relationship. You could tell she was getting emotionally involved... Would you try to stay friends or would you cut contact completely?
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  • What does one have to do with the other?

    Finding a girl who you like to have sex with, and who likes having sex with you, is awesome. You never have to worry about "what if she's just with me because of my money" or "maybe she's just putting on an act and faking all of this until we get married." You just know this girl is having sex, with you, because she likes having sex with you (and not just any random guy)!

    Is there a relationship that forms? Yeah. Is there a closeness and connection that forms? Yeah. Is it romantic? No. Is it emotional? Yeah. However, it's like an increased or deeper level of friendship. It's sort of like, someone that you feel so comfortable and close with, who is like your best friend, who you also find attractive and casually have sex with from time-to-time.

    The negatives? It's just a friend. That means, she would never ask you for money. That also means, you would never start co-mingling finances. That also means, that when one is in a relationship, there's no sex unless specifically and clearly requested by the person in a relationship.

  • Easy. If I'm not looking for an emotional attachment in the beginning of a relationship, I'm not going looking for one just because the sex is good.

    If I'm leaving, and she has feelings and I don't, I would try to have a very sweet goodbye--very sweet, but very goodbye. No mixed messages.

    • yeah, just confused because he seemed to reallly like me when I just wanted sex... like planning dinner dates and talking on the phone alot. then I got upset he was moving away, and he got distant and ended it.

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  • I would say we all get attached, like that puppy dog that comes to play with you, he rubs and lick, how can you not get attached.

  • Yes, I believe most men can. Actually I'd say that's quite frequent for guys to separate sex and emotions in their minds. For most guys sex is synonym with intercourse really, quite different from the way girls experience where sex and emotions are usually intertwined.

    As long as the relationship is FWB only there is no issue in my opinion. Problems can arise when this is not explicitly understood by the guy and the girl so one is led to believe it can be more than sex.

  • Men can make things out to be just physical if they want. Is it morally right? Not if the girl is emotionally into it.

  • yes because if we are just having sex I don't respect her as a women maybe a person but no a women to commit to

  • If I don't know her well or already have made up my mind I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with the girl then I can have sex a hundred times and still feel nothing. If I already had some feelings for the girl then sex will usually make my feelings stronger.

  • If those were the terms and conditions of the sexual relationship you're having, yes it is easy indeed.

  • Most guys would care for the girl as they would care for a friend so we wouldn't want to hurt her on purpose.. But if we have decided that she is not girlfriend material then we can stay emotionally unattached. No problem at all.

  • cold hearted asses probably have no problems with this, but most guys I think, do care

    • did you let yourself get used