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I Had Sex With My Boyfriend's Best friend... And I Don't Feel Guilty :/

I've been crushing on my boyfriends best friend for ages and although I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months, he refuses to have sex with me because his not ready. I was round his mates house for the day and he started to kiss me, so after kissing him back, we had sex multiple times. The problem is... I love my boyfriend, but I don't feel guilty, and id even go and have sex with his mate again, because he was amazing in bed, I lost my virginity to him too :/
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  • Trust me. I have been there.

    Except when I cheated, it wasn't with his best friend, it was with two guys (at the same time) - but it wasn't sex, just some touching - through clothes when I touched them - but they touched my boobs and ass under my clothes (as I am a virgin, and had never done ANYTHING before that night).

    And I didn't feel bad at all.

    In fact, I felt nothing. I felt sorta 'cool' that I had done something.

    Until someone finally snapped some sense into me (the only other person I told before them was acting as if it was OK and that I didn't do anything wrong). And that's when it hit me. And I felt horrible, and decided to tell my boyfriend the next time I saw him.

    Trust me. It WILL hit you. It may take hours, days, weeks, but trust me, it will hit you, and when it does, you will feel horrible. Especially when you tell your boyfriend what you did.

    Do what I did, and tell your boyfriend ASAP, and then break it off (no matter how forgiving he may be, and even if he begs to have you back - like mine did), because he deserves better, and you need to let him get over you.

    And to everyone else: trust me, she will get punished. Karma will come back and bite her on the ass. It did that to me, and now I am stuck in a FwB relationship (with one of the guys that I cheated with) that is going no where, and I have fallen for him. Hard. And he doesn't want a relationship. So yup, I did get punished. As will she.

    • why did you get in a friends with benefits relationship did you give your friends with benefits your virginity oral anal or vag

    • I got in a FwB relationship because I thought that is what I wanted-just sexual things w/out any emotional stuff (and it was originally) but then things changed, feelings started developing-all that crap. And he doesn't make it much easier on me by treating me like a girlfriend (and admitting that he is starting to like me), then expecting me to be totally fine with staying FwB. And I am a virgin still, I give him oral and hand jobs, and he fingers me and plays with my boobs and sucks on my nipples

    • damn seems the one that really loses out is the dudes that have to kiss you in the future

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  • He's going to find out no matter what. This is his best friend we're talking about; these things don't tend to keep themselves quiet for very long however much you'd like it to.

    Sex is quite obviously a big deal to him, and by doing what you've done you've undermined your relationship - and his views. I'm not saying that your views have to be the same as his - but if you wanted sex, and he didn't cheating wasn't the answer. You should have been honest, told him where you stood, and if the two of you couldn't work it out - broken up with him; not gone behind his back and hooked up with one of his friends.

    I'm pretty sure that if you did love this guy, you would feel guilty, you would have respected his stance on sex, and cheating would have been your final resort after ending the relationship - and you definitely wouldn't be thinking about having sex with this guy again.

Most Helpful Guys

  • That is horrible... I hate how often I hear this on this site, and even through everyday conversations. It is people like you that tend to scare me away from relationships. I would love nothing more than to be the best I can be for someone special in my life, but you and others like you make me wonder if I can ever put my trust in anyone. It makes me sick! Have enough respect to tell your "boyfriend" and let him find someone who deserves him. You don't love your boyfriend, so please don't let him waste his time on you anymore.

    • yeah its wild eveybody I know cheats on each other

    • No joke! When I am single its game on. We are free to do what we want at that point, but if you are going to COMMIT then actually do it. Cheating is such a cowardly thing in my eyes. People don't have the balls to end the relationship, or even be honest when they have done something wrong. Its disgusting on multiple levels.

  • You need to break up with your BF.

    Yes, your Boyfriend wasn't meeting your needs. You should have broken up with him when that started to be a problem and he wasn't going to change his mind. But now you've severely violated his trust, and breaking up with him is the only answer.

    Having a Boyfriend means making a commitment to him. You broke it, whether you feel badly about it or not.

    If you're going to be selfish, you need to be single. Otherwise, you're hurting other people.

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  • LOL. Nice. I'd kill to live without regret.

    Do you have any mental illnesses? Certain things could cause blunted affect, and so on, where you wouldn't care about anything.

    • yeah I do have a mental illness - ish :P I forgot what my counciler called it, but my mother committed suicide when I was 10 and now I no longer feel any negative emotions

    • Ahhh, yep... I think you've got blunted affect. I get little spells of it but its never consistent or sustained for any length of time like yours. How has the situation been going?

  • Now I wish I was the best friend... what ever happens.. happened...

  • That's horrible! Leave your boyfriend at least, he deserves better than you!

  • well you don't love your boyfriend first of all and you should definitely tell him so you guys can break up and he can stop being friends with that guy

  • You don't love your boyfriend. If you did you wouldn't cheat on him. You just feel comfortable with him. Be honest with him and break up with him. It is a bit shameful that you would say you don't feel any guilt. That's a whole other emotional thing you'll have to get checked out.

  • That was still wrong and you didn't care about your boyfriend who wanted to wait a while, if a guy did this then he'd be called a jerk

    But you just a slut

    • cheers :) like I didn't already know that.

    • You have to tell him atleast

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