My boyfriend's penis isn't very flexible, how can we fix it? Any other guys had this problem?

[Twilight_Starstorm]

My boyfriend's penis can only move less than 90 degrees from his stomach, which means that most positions become painful for him after a short time. Then we can't have any more sex. This restricts my movement, and prevents me from properly enjoying myself. If I lean back even a little in cowgirl, it soon begins to hurt him. I haven't even orgasmed from sex yet Because his dong either hurts me with it hardness/deepness or it hurts itself Because it stretches too far. And it's starting to get real frustrating... He thinks it is so inflexible because he always sleeps on his stomach, so it is likely that getting hard while sleeping has "trained" his penis to be hard on only that angle. Which makes sense. So what can we do to make his penis more flexible? Please don't say he should stop sleeping on his stomach, or he should tie it down, or anything annoying like that, I want to know if there are any special stretches he can do or stuff like that. There has to be something easier that the previously mentioned tying-it-down. Have any other guys had an inflexible penis? Did you find a way to give it more flexibility? Or did you adopt a specific technique during intercourse that allowed you to avoid pain AND satisfy your girl at the same time? Pleeease speak up if you have any advice, I have no idea what to do! D: Thanks for reading :)

[Anonymous]

I've read the opinions here... I don't think there's a big problem with his penis.. My boyfriend also has an upright one (he hasn't said anything about it hurting, not that I have gone other than 90 degrees in missionary... But whenever I give him a blowjob standing up or laying down, I cannot even look at him in the eyes because it's so straight up and it won't go further than 45 degrees more or less either).

To achieve an orgasm for a girl is really hard. Not many of us can have them without clitoral stimulation.. I haven't had one, so far, but I don't mind. I find the overall experience, the process, quite wonderful, even if I cannot achieve an orgasm. If you love him, then it shouldn't be too much of a pressure thing... Also, the fact that both of you are stressed about it and feeling pressured makes it less possible for an orgasm to occur. I feel orgasm shouldn't be the point of sex... It's the enjoyment and the fun... Pleasing each other with touch, caresses, love,... It could feel that you are giving more than receiving, I felt like that in the beginning, seeing my boyfriend orgasming and from all the blowjobs,... Yet, there is some kind of amazing pleasure in that... In being able to make him have pleasant moments... He gives me so much through every day, in every action...

I love having sex with him, kissing, sleeping naked together... It is better than not :p Definitely!

So perhaps, if nothing can be "fixed" with the flexibility of your man, let it flow and let it go... Don't take the orgasm as the goal of sex... Sex feels more like connecting through touch, giving love through touch... Something my boyfriend does that I love so much is him playing with my breasts... God, it melts me... Makes me feel more than satisfied as well...

Try different positions as well, like the lotus one, or doggy, him on top, you on top but laying down and facing upwards so he can play with your breasts too... Enjoy the feelings and sensations, think that it is alright even if you cannot orgasm from it.. Or also, if you get a vibrator and you both use it in you... Try also this, that he stimulates your clitoris a lot... And caresses not only your erotic parts, but all your body...

[Opinion Owner]

Ah! I've read somewhere that with age it will come down a bit more. That straight up penis are in young men, but they do come down after some years...

[Anonymous]

um exactly why shouldn't he try not sleeping on his stomach if that's really what is causing this? O.o

(which it probably isnt. I don't know how intelligent you all are, but that doest even make sense to me, no offense.)

go see a urologist and figure this out, that's your best option or do research. google is your friend. I found this in just five minutes.

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Use your noggin and good luck.

[Twilight_Starstorm]

Well think about it: he sleeps on his stomach ALWAYS. So every time he gets hard in his sleep (which I hear happens several times during the night with the average guy) his penis would get pressed up against his belly instead of being allowed to pitch a little tent :P lol... So it's like it has gotten forced to always be in that position... And thank you for the answer, but I know it isn't Peyronie's Disease.

[Opinion Owner]

pitch a little tent. I love that lol well I still think you should see a doctor but its up to you all. good luck :)

[Anonymous]

Mine can go just above my legs before it gets painful so it's suppose to go much that way

Tell him to do stretches where he does it from side to side up down and in circles, this won't work straight away but might after a week or two

Try doing cowgirl where you lean forward and push your hips down so it doesn't bend but stays upright

[Twilight_Starstorm]

I do try to do cowgirl like that... but it's quite tricky and doesn't feel as good anywhere near as easily as doing it normally :( I will definately suggest that he stretch it like you say... If he doesn't already lol

[taster]

I don't know anything about others guys talleywhackers..so maybe girls can answer this better.

If I am hard I can lay it flat up against my belly or it will stick straight out at an angle of 90 degrees..but it will absolutely not bend down under any circumstances...hope this helped.

[Rayjack]

Well when mine is hard it sticks straight out and isn't very flexable at all. So far have just managed to have sex in certain ways where it doesn't bend my penis or anything and its fine otherwise it can really hurt. Have you tried many different positions? Maybe there is a couple that would suit his angle really well and just need to experiment. Don't know if many guys are that flexable in the penis anyway. Not sure if that helps at all..

[urdadsnightmare]

When you are doing it cowgirl, have him sit on a couch, or sit up against the bedboard or something so that he is not lying flat. That will help the angle be less harsh.

[jamesbarton262]

mine is like that as well and wish it would flex more

[Prateek_sgl]

I also have same problem. I can relate to every problem you had mentioned. Had you find any solution regarding this or it is keep going like that only. Please share if there is any solution.

[Kevinoriansel98765]

I have the same problem i sleep like your boy friend and my erection like your boy friend , I am 19 years and I'm afraid to get married because of this problem

did you find any solution?

[Anonymous]

It's the tendons that are tight. Every guy will vary on how tight they are. He can work on forcing his erection down. The down side is once you stretch those tendons they won't go back. Every seen a porn with a guy whose erection points straight down. It will never point upwards again. So have him do it in moderation and it should become less painful overtime.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure it needs "fixing"? Have you orgasmed from sex before?

[Twilight_Starstorm]

No I haven't orgasmed from sex before. Mainly because either my man or I end up in pain. (Him due to the inflexibility and me due to the size and hardness of his penis) And yes it does need "fixing" because it makes sex trickier than it should be. Fixing could mean anything from surgery to stretches to developing a special technique in bed, but either way, sex as we do it now it so hard, we need to change or "fix" something, because right now it seems like I'll never orgasm, he always has to stop.

[Twilight_Starstorm]

But surgery is out of the question, that seems a bit extreme... He's only 20 after all and I'm positive there are other ways around this.

[Opinion Owner]

try doggy

[Opinion Owner]

also if you've never orgasmed from sex how do you know that the flexibility of his d*** is the problem? Personally I find that pretty hard to believe. A 90 degree angle can work perfectly fine if you get the position right. I think the issue is something other than d*** flexibility. I mean it seems normal to me that its not all bendy. And a bendy d*** is no good anyway. How many women complain about d*** flexibility? None! So seems the issue is something else. Take time. Experiment. Have fun.

[Twilight_Starstorm]

"also if you've never orgasmed from sex how do you know that the flexibility of his d*** is the problem?" > I lost my virginity to him not all that long ago. He is the only person I've had sex with. The problem isn't me, so stop assuming things. You aren't helping at all here. Stop being an arse. Besides, I didn't ask for your opinion on why I haven't orgasmed from sex, I asked how my boyfriend and I can get around this issue. And I said it has LESS than 90 degrees of plainless flexibility...

[Twilight_Starstorm]

But it's more like 45 to be exact. And the last few times we have been getting me really close to orgasm, but we've had to stop because he is sore at the base of his penis, from it being stretched back too far. When it's not him getting sore, it's me because his penis is long and literally rock hard. The reason I haven't orgasmed yet is because, as I said, one of us gets hurt, OR we run out of time and he has to go home, or our muscles get tired and we just lose interest because it stops feeling good.

[Twilight_Starstorm]

The fact that this inflexibility issue effects our sex life automatically makes it a problem. Especially when it makes us stop just as I can feel an orgasm building.

[Opinion Owner]

Keep working at it. I wouldn't mess with it though. It seems like he's got a good d*** to me. The upward pressure is good for missionary since it keeps the pressure on the gspot. Just keep f***ing and it'll work itself out. Sorry I can't help more than that. I was just trying to say that there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with his d*** or you. It just usually takes time to get that first orgasm.