We have a 5 dates - no sex yet but some makeout sessions. Sounds good?

[Girlygirl77]

Just had a 5th date with a guy yesterday. We have done some different things drinks, dinner, live music, and yesterday we watched the marathon, then had brunch, and walked around a little bit. He usually even walks me back home - a real gentlman. While dating had 2 makeout sessions but not sex yet. I like to wait and he hasn't pushed. I really like him but yesterday we would brush against each other and were generally close, but only had real affection at the goodbye. I tend to hold back also when I'm feeling out a situation. We agreed to meet again on Wed before he leaves town on Thur. Sound reasonable or from a man's point of view not so much?

[the-love-guru]

5 dates sounds decent. But if you have to plan on a date for sex, I have a feeling you may be let down. It should come naturally and when the moment is right. not because it's the last date before he leaves town. No dating situation is the same- take it at a speed that's right for you two, and don't worry about what other people would do.

Also, I'd have him initiate that activity. Sometimes real gentlemen want a woman who isn't a lioness. regardless of what men say. Some gender roles are meant to stick. Let him call the shots. :)

[Girlygirl77]

Yeah - def good advice. I am not a lioness in my style and he has been the initiator in everything so far - so I'll continue that way. I would never plan a date to have sex - I am just thinking if it happens next time how I will be etc.

[Married-in-PA]

Yes, this is reasonable - especially if he likes you. There's nothing wrong with being a gentleman, as you know. He may be shy - he may find you HOT!

I would say you are safe in this man's company; no red flags came up in your dialogue. Clearly, Mlle., he likes you. I mean, 5 dates? He must truly enjoy your company.

12 years ago, when I was still without my Beloved, 2 dates was a lot, if I especially liked the lady in my company.

Let him strive for you. he has much to gain.

[Atomizer]

Sounds reasonable to me, and probably to him as well.

If it wasn't okay with him, he'd have bailed out or said something.

[aigbeshady]

everything seem okay, try to keep ur kool and play along, don't rush anything, let him initiate the move.do you think your ready to have sex with this guy?

[Girlygirl77]

I think I could be but would need to be right mood for first time. I am definitely not going to try to rush anything because so far it is going very well. I just wanted to get some male opinions.