Why are girls embarrassed to admit to masturbating?

[sexhelp101]

I've noticed that polls show most girls masturbate regularly, but I've also noticed that many girls seem embarrassed to talk about it or admit it. Why?

[Crimson_Petal]

Social stigma. Even though we have moved forwards a fair way in sexual equality, pleasure for women is still somewhat seen as wrong or dirty and something we shouldn't be talking about. I remember when I was younger boys could run around with it all hanging out but girls shouldn't do that. Boys have people giggling but girls get pulled aside and told they're naughty and that 'good girls' don't do that.

I openly admit to masturbating on a semi ferocious level but I'm the ONLY one of my female friend group who does so. I once had a friend who refused to use tampons because it would mean having to touch herself 'down there'-shock horror. I don't understand it but we certainly do need to work more on celebrating our sexuality and self exploration. Ever noticed how in TV shows you can show penises and breasts but very rarely the female genitalia? It's just another unconscious cue to women that their genitals and therefore sexuality are unnatural and to be neither seen or heard.

[sexhelp101]

If I had thought about my question longer, I would have arrived at this answer myself. All the social stigmas about women really frustrate me, so I can only imagine what it would be like to be in your shoes.

[Crimson_Petal]

Thank you for best answer. It's not necessarily the social stigma that frustrates me, it's the double standards that come from that stigma. The idea that women should be pure and men can have as many partners as they want feels like women are still viewed as chattel that if they're 'used' they're worthless. You'd think it wouldn't exist any more but you just have to do a search on here for the number of 'how can I tell my girlfriend's a virgin' questions to see.

[Anonymous]

we're taught that it's something you do in private not something to be talked about kinda like I don't tell you about how often I have bowel movements but a guy might say "man I just took this dump!" to his buddies. I do that too just like you do but you won't hear me talking about that or the fact that I do indeed fart. Girls are just more private about those things...bodily functions if you will(which masturbation fits into that category). Guys don't give a rip who they tell about how they jerked it, popped it or dumped it. imo that's the kinda thing that separates males from females either from how we were raised or hormones that's just how it is.

[SweetThing_27]

Ha, not this girl.

I don't go telling people at the grocery store...

But I definitely talk about it here & with someone I'm close to/my guy. Not like family lol, you kwim.

I like to touch myself. I don't like toys. I pretend my fingers are other people's. I fantasize a lot (maybe someone here! That's right) I like the way I feel. When I.come on my fingers, I.pretend I'm actually coming on a d*ck or a mouth. I even make noise. I don't mind sticking my fingers in my mouth either. Not all the time, depends.

[Galaxie500]

You're writing is sexy

[SweetThing_27]

I don't mind saying what I feel. ;-)

[Belgie]

Some girls are raised to think of their naughty bits as dirty or disgusting, and so anything involving masturbation becomes dirty and shameful by proxy.

[toulouse]

If you're so comfortable, why do you call it 'dirty'? ;)

[Belgie]

I have no idea what you're talking about. I'm not calling masturbation or anything else dirty.

[kittyroni]

Because it's pretty personal.

[Minxxe]

i do not agree, all my female friends and the polls I've seen on here the girls are very open about it, as much as the males. who are you talking about? people our age or different ages, or just GaG users in general?

[Ingway]

the fear to be looked down.

[Minxxe]

the fear of being looked down on by whom?

[Ingway]

society. well it might be very different for you and for other people.

[Minxxe]

ok, but in contrast to your comment it might have been a generational thing historically that women were not supposed to like/enjoy anything sexual. but nowadays, especially the teen-generations of the last 20 years have no hang ups about being enititled to enjoy sex or that type of experimentation. from a young age we're actively encouraged to talk sex, have ann summers parties etc. it's males that look down on us for learning how to pleasure ourselves & thinking we don't need them for it!

[Anonymous]

i don't talk about it because I got caught as a child and was told it was disgusting and bad. so I just keep it to myself.

it never stopped me though

i masturbate more than ever

haha

i've recently started talking about it a bit with my closest friends, but not in much detail

and on here, I'll talk about it