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Virgins: How do you imagine losing your virginity?

I was originally going to ask this just to the guys, but I thought it might be interesting to see how guys and girls differ in their answers. If you could choose how losing your virginity would play out, what would it be like? How old would you be? (Include how old you are now). Who would it be with? Would it be on your wedding night? With a long-term partner (how long would you want to have been together)? With a friend? Where would you want to lose it? What would the context or scenario leading up to it be? What would it be like? Romantic? Flower petals on the bed? p*rno music? Whatever.
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Also, would the other person be a virgin too? Would you prefer them to have some experience? Or would you not care either way?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I know this is a very old question, but I'll answer it anyway.

    - I'd slightly prefer the girl to have SOME experience, but not too much. I'd also be OK with her being a virgin, but at my age, that's increasingly unlikely.

    - How old would I be? 21. How old am I now? ...21. lol

    - It would be with a girlfriend, fiance, or wife (if the latter, I'd obviously want it on our wedding night). Generally, it would be with someone I love and want to marry -- NOT a female friend or one-night stand.

    - Where would I want to lose it? My bed (or hers, if we don't live together yet).

    - Context/Scenario leading up to it: I take her out to a fancy and romantic dinner (on a Saturday night, preferably, so we can sleep in the next morning!). Afterwards, we come home, where things start to heat up...

    - It'd be very romantic, sensual, and passionate. We'd be all over each other. It'd be the kind of sex where we exchange "I-love-you's" very frequently.

    - I'd also prefer not to wear a condom, and to finish inside her -- the purest form of "natural" sex.

    ...But I'll keep dreaming!

  • I'm 17 and I just want it to be with someone who I am connected with and to be honest the actual event I hardly think about it

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm 18 and I'd prefer to lose it this year. Sometime before college or during the first year. With who would depend on my state of mind. Preferably someone I have a connection with, both sexually and intellectually. I'm an overly rational individual and also a traditional romantic, like the romantic era in history, so nothing too sweet, because that's not at all interesting, but not cruel, because then I'll regret it. I would just want it to be fun. Leading up to it like a sort of game. Someone who is experienced, preferably a friend, and I honestly don't care where.

  • I would be married! So I can't give you an age, but I'm 18 now. I would want to lose it in a 5 star hotel! Lol or just wherever we are after the wedding. It will be romantic, soft and slow because it will probably hurt (ouch!) and the scenario leading up to it will obviously be our wedding and him carrying me to the bed! I don't really care if he's a virgin, but it would be nice! I try not to judge though. Obviously if I love him enough to marry him, he's fine with me however he is (:

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  • If I had my druthers I'd have lost it years ago. I place no value on my virginity. I've never had anything else I'd be so glad to lose. I really don't care how I lose it or who I lose it too. I don't care whether the girl is a virgin or not. I just want to get it over with.

  • Someway romantically. Not like some thing in a car or whatever. But being with the person I love, kissing her, flirting with her, leading into it.

  • I'm 17 now and want it maybe in the next three yearsish, but not with anybody I want it to be with a girlfriend who I've been with quite a while

    I would like them because it's my girlfriend to be a virgin, but it doesn't have to be

    Preferably at my place but I wouldn't mind at hers

    Be together a few months snd like each other emotionally before we have sex

    Not wedding night as I don't see the need to wait if you really like someone

    I'll finger and go down on her before and wear a condom during and make sure to cuddle after

    I don't like the idea of petals and music, but I'd do it if I think she would like it

    We'd be just gone back from a nice meal at a restaurant which we then came back started kissing, touching and getting more serious

    I would mind if she was or wasn't experienced but it might be more better learning together, I've read a ton of sex guides and howto's and stuff but I don't know if that makes me experienced

  • would like to lose it with a girlfriend

  • I am going to lose it to someone that can appreciate that I chose them to be my first. I don't belive I have to wait till marriage for sex but I want to lose it to someone I have known for a little while and that I trust and care for. I can't really put an actual amount of time on when I would chose to lose it as well as I can't put an actualy age (Im 21 now) when I'm ready and I am with the right girl it will happen. And I personaly don't care how many guys she had been with before as long as she isn't seeing any of them while the two of us are together.

  • How do I imagine as in fantasize? That it would be a wonderful bonding experience. And she would be loving and affectionate. And would get nice and sweaty and heated until we both were in orgasmic bliss. And the wonderful memories would follow me for a lifetme. And from then on I could feel happy and confident when I got up every morning when I looked in the mirror...How will it actually happen in reality most likely? Probably with a desperate drunk fat girl or a (hopefully) clean hooker. Then at least il have got the monkey off my back. And no longer feel ashamed or inadequite.

    • "probably with a desperate drunk fat girl or a (hopefully) clean hooker." nu uh you can and will do much better then that.

    • im sorry :( I hope your right.

    • don't apologize silly :)

  • -Girl in control doing whatever she wants.(Minus painful stuff) It would start with a striptease.

    -21 works. lol I'm 21 now.

    -I have no clue. Nope, but I wouldn't mind that. Nope, but I'd like it to at least be a close girl friend.

    -A bedroom.

    -Um just hanging out cuddling.

    -Probably awkward and short. haha

    This is kind of hard to answer.

    • Either way is fine.

  • I just want it to be with someone I can remember looking back and be happy about it. Everything else I'm not sure, I'd just be happy if it even happened lol

  • would love to lose it to a girlfriend that actually cares about me, loves me, don't care if she is a virgin or not

  • i am 16 and iwould like to loos it in college maybe 19 years olthe best thing ever the first time d and with the girl I love and have it not be ruf but not to slow eather I think it would be the best thing ever with the girl that I would have my first time with maybe have her on top

  • i'm 23 and would like to lose it to a girlfriend unfortuneately I don't have one, I would like the girl to be the one to initiate the relationship, do you have a problem with that?

  • Romantically to a long term partner who's also a virgin would be nice. She would be the aggressor and we'd have lots of kissing foreplay and cuddling.

    I would prefer the partner to also be a virgin same as me but at the age of 24 there's no way I'll ever find that.

    But who am I kidding, nice guy at 24 who's still a complete virgin at 24 no kiss, date, sex is not gonna find anyone.

    I'm in the stage of waking up where I realize that being a nice guy sucks, women take it for granted, and don't find it attractive. The bitterness has gotten to me that I've lost the most sexually active years of my life already. So I can hardly call myself an nice guy anymore, but I am learning that if you want sex or a girlfriend be someone who your not, fake confidence, and treat every woman like she's replaceable. I'm learning quite a bit from the posts here on gag too.

    • That's not true. Girls do like nice guys. Just not pushovers. There's a big difference between caring and showing it and being the guy that doesn't challenge her in some way. Personally I like interesting over nice. It's not treating us as replaceable that will get you the girl, it's acting like you are comfortable in your skin and that you do in fact like yourself. Sexual confidence is nothing when its up against that. So don't give up just yet. Just be happy too be yourself.

    • That is a lot of bull. My experience in seeing it happen and my life experiences have shown me greatly that being yourself doesn't work, faking confidence and lying to girl about who you are gets you laid and girlfriends whilst being honest, caring and yourself gets you nowhere. I have no intention on listening to anymore plan out lies by girls like you who say thay want one thing then contradict that and go for another.

  • I would be 25, I'm now 23 years old, sure a long term loving partner in other words a wife ,maybe a year or couple months, on a wedding night , we both waited for it so yeah we both are virgins, I want it to make it as special as pleasurable and a night to remember all our lives. Scented candles, flowers, some beautiful music with the right ambience anything that can make my wedding night extremely passionate and memorable. I want her on top , tell me how bad she want me, and I tell her how her taste is good, I want to make her go wild..:)

  • like in the movies lol. romantic, gentle, prefect, with the man I'm going to end up with forever.

    however, I'm sure reality is quite different

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