Guys, can you control yourself from getting a hard on?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were watching TV last night, there was a scene, that wasn't even a sex scene, it was a girl that was drinking wine and a guy chatting away. She slipped a pill into her drink (to make herself out of it) The scene ended there and they did not show sex, etc. My hand was near my bf's penis, and I did feel it lift up. Is this something you cannot control? And getting a hard on from just something like that.. is it something for me to worry about if my boyfriend has been a cheater in the past? Nothing even happened and he got hard. I couldn't help but think what happens if that was reality.. I was a bit upset, having to feel him get up from another girl while I'm next to him. I felt kind of sh*t really, knowing how hard I have to always try when trying to get him up. I feel like I'm ugly etc. but I get the gist I'm not because I get guys coming up to me all the time telling me I'm gorgeous etc. I did joke and say "your funny, nothing even happened" Apparently girls always come up to him when he's out, if they're slightly pretty like the girl on screen does this mean he would get a hard on? And he said he couldn't control it and didn't even know it was getting up. Is it true?You really can't even when your girlfriend is right next to you? Or is there something I'm missing here. I just felt really degraded. I mean understandable a boy will watch poorn and get hard of course. But just not next to me please. Tell me boys... is it really impossible to respect your girlfriend and not get hard ? Thank you.

[Anonymous]

No, it can happen anywhere like on the bus or at my grandma's house and if I just thibk if something sexual for a second I get going

I get hard reading the sexuality questions on GAG sometimes

It's not easy to control, and even if there was a sex scene he would get hard as that's sort of the purpose of the scene, and it doesn't mean he finds you any less attractive as even anything sexual can turn him on

[Asker]

Ok thanks, so when all the guys and my boyfriend says he gets it 20 times a day and its normal, it has to always be by sexual stimulation? Because that's what I'm confused about.

[Opinion Owner]

Not necessarily but most of the time it is, it isn't attraction though it's just the sexual act that makes him hard he probably doesn't have any feelings involved with those

[Anonymous]

Jesus! Do you think that maybe, just maybe, your hand in close proximity to his d!ck had some effect? And no, we can't always control it. And yes, if a really hot girl came up to him out in the real world there's a good chance he might start getting hard. Especially if he really liked her t!ts or ass and she was wearing something that showed them off.

[Asker]

No it wasn't my hand, my hand had been resting there for an hour already and nothing. And half an hour before that I had been fooling around with him in his pants as a request and nothing, that also was an additive to my upset-ness. That I was being physical and nothing, and he watches TV with nothing and gets something.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, it happens. If you give him sh!t for it, guess what? He'll be less likely to get hard around you. Don't worry about it.

[Eviee_xxo]

I feel like thats not what she's trynna say... If something as simple as seeing a girl thats pretty on screen turns him on why does it take so long when she's there in front of him?

[Opinion Owner]

@Eviee_xxo Have you ever experienced something like this Eviee?

[TyroneJayJackson]

Most guys can usually get hard at any time really. Sometimes it's in the most aqward of places. Some guys can control it and some can't. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

[Asker]

Exactly ! Just doesn't get him going anymore ! I don't have any more tricks up my sleeve !

[evander]

We can't consciously control it. Its like a reflex.

[NonchalantBro]

I get hard all the time!

[Ezmotts]

I get hard for no reason, it's not something I can control.

[CuriousAZ]

Thats hard to do.

[Anonymous]

Its extremely hard (pun intended). Half the time you can't control getting an erection AND IT DOESNT MEAN WE ARE ALL CHEATERS. A lot of people say that people that get erections for no reason need more sex, it doesnt. I have sex daily and can still get an erection over nothing.

Honestly there is nothing to worry about, you can't help it.

[Asker]

What do you mean over nothing ? As in like throughout the day when your out just driving etc.. Or just when your sleeping, because I know it's normal for guys to get erections whilst sleeping.

[Opinion Owner]

look at Tyrone and evanders answer. seeeee, you can't help it. yes over NOTHING half the time!

[Asker]

Another thing, if I was massaging your balls, would you get a hard on?

[Opinion Owner]

f***ing oath I would. definately love my ball massages ;)

[Asker]

Exactly ! Just doesn't get him going anymore ! I don't have any more tricks up my sleeve !

[Opinion Owner]

you kidding me? come to Australia and ill show you how much I appreciate you :) hahah

[TyroneJayJackson]

thank you for noting my answer, And no we can't control it but you have to remember not everybody gets turned on by the same thing always.

[Asker]

I am from Australia and it use to work but now it doesn't. Like I said, it's so hard to get him hard these days. Don't know if the fact of being with him for a year and a half has something to do with it. And Tyrone, sorry I accidentally commented on your answer before and thank you for your say.

[Opinion Owner]

i hate to say it but maybe... try talking to him about it. whereabout in australia are you from?

[Asker]

Gold Coast, you ?

[Opinion Owner]

Brisbane :) just around the corner