If he invites you in for a drink/tea,is it indirect language for "let's have sex"?

[Elenesephy]

It happens all the time. Usually,I just decline the request cause,well, it sounds creepy.but I wonder; When a guy shows you his house on the first official date and asks you in for tea,and it's just the 2 of you.is sex what he is really aiming at?Is the tea even there to begin with or should I just be smart and interpret the request secretly.Can a guy really be just hospitable with no freaky intentions.Can I just accept the invitation if I don't want sex?

[dave216]

Why would you not want sex? Are you celibate? If a guy asked you out on a date, he wants sex. Just what else do you think he might want from you? Perhaps you are worth millions and he is looking for a sugar momma? Men, especially at your age, have no need for women, except for sexual purposes. They may go through the motions, participate in activities you enjoy, but it is for only one reason, to get to the sex they approached you for in the first place. Human beings enjoy sex, what is your issue with it?

[Elenesephy]

I appreciate your honesty.But, with all modesty,I am a gorgeous, sweet, intelligent and sensitive young lady with so much more to offer than just sex.I hate to be looked down upon by sex predators because I'd loose my dignity and value, besides I really need an emotional connection.

[dave216]

I am sure you are all the things you listed and in a few years the guys that are in your dating age range will begin to appreciate them. Really, men kind of grow up, eventually. Please be careful of the emotional connection need. That is what gets a lot of girls hurt. They connect emotion and feelings with sex, not a typical male trait, and then they get hurt badly when the relationship ends. You can work within the system now that you know how males think. You know not to believe every sweet

[NicoJonesInc]

I think the better question is whether or not its worth the risk. If he wants coffee or tea, keep the date going, at a coffee house or something. First dates, especially with those you don't know too well its often best to err on the side of caution. Even though I'm a really nice guy and often want to watch a movie at home on the couch with a date I keep that until we know each other better. Its more than a matter of sexual intent, its kind of just a matter of safety IMO.

[l-hedoniste]

If I invite you in, sex is a possibility, if not an certainty. Ideally, you *made it clear earlier* whether you were prepared to have sex with him.

[taster]

Invitation for sex? with alchol? LOL yeah! I'll bet on the booze...