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How do you get comfortable being nude in front of someone?

Most people grow up with being taught that their genitals and breasts are "private" parts of the body, and should be covered up and your the only one who looks at them. How do you get used to showing them to a partner without feeling ashamed and embarrassed? Also as a girl, I don't know what is considered to be normal and attractive, because I haven't seen another naked girl since I was about 7 (baths together as children). But I don't know what other women look like. From the photos I've looked at women have closed vagina's, like what mine used to look like when I was a child. Since going through puberty the inside lips have protruded and stick out. This makes me embarrassed. Is that sort of vagina rare? Because I never see it in photos ( I was looking on an art website of nude women).
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Thanks everyone. I'm glad my vagina is normal. Makes me sad that men don't like them like that though :( I will just continue to keep it private.
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  • You should have recently been in school where physical education is a daily requirement and should have had you showering daily with other nude females. If not, go to your local pool or gym and spend some time in the locker room.

    As far as becoming comfortable. Start in your own mind. Use a bit of logic. Half of the world is female. Aside from minor dimensional differences, they all look pretty much the same. You females certainly don't imagine that every male that sees you does not know exactly what you look like under your clothing. We all do. We may not know if you have large or small nipples, or how much you shave, but we have a very accurate idea of how you look naked. Since everybody already knows what you look like, just relax and enjoy your nudity.

    And after the guy your thinking of has seen you a couple times, you won't be uncomfortable anymore :)

    • Girls don't shower together at gyms. Each shower is a cubicle with a door, like the toilets. It would be embarrassing having everyone look at me, I woolly be comfortable in an open showering room.

    • Wouldn't*

  • It's not like everybody's vulva looks the same way except for yours. Vulvas come in all shapes and sizes. There's no right or wrong way for it to look, they're all beautiful. If you don't believe me, check out this photo gallery (it probably reflects what most womens' vulvas look like better than an art website) link maybe seeing just how diverse they can look it will make you feel better about your own.

    As for the nudity, try it when no one else is home. Do it until it feels more natural. Baby steps, you know?

    • That's a pretty explicit page of ALL shapes lol, no comments... Mine's like gallery 6 lmao

    • Meh, It's a sex-ed website, not p*rn. Everything is tasteful. I think most people are mature enough to click it. I don't think I need to warn people not to click it unless they want to see some coochies. It's a great website and I can't recommend it enough. I always paste that link to help girls realize that their vulva is different, just like every one else's.

    • The photos are all user submitted, by the way, so it's a much better representation of reality than p*rn or whatever other websites you'll come across.

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  • Usually when you gain a certain level of trust, that is something that comes with it. If you don't feel comfortable being naked around someone, then more or likely, you are not ready to be having sex with them. But I don't know if there is any specific thing you can do. Just know that if they are attracted enough with your clothes on to want to have sex with you, then unless you have something freakishly wrong with you, they are going to feel the same way when your clothes are off. And have confidence. But mostly, you just have to really trust the person, and feel comfortable with them.

  • My vagina is "that of a childs" and I barely have any labia minora at all, but what you've described is quite normal.

    To become comfortable around another person, you have to be comfortable looking at your own body naked. Start little by little. Maybe, once you get out of the shower, walk around naked after you dry yourself and look at yourself in the mirror for a minute or two. Try it, it's pretty fun to walk around nude after a shower:P

  • Your vagina is normal. Everyone is different but it's normal lol. As for letting someone else see you naked you just have to trust that person and be comfortable with them. I always thought I would be too shy to be seen naked but when I first slept with my boyfriend I was fine. It felt as though I were fully clothed. I was/am comfortable with him so I don't care that he sees me nude.

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  • It's just something you can get used to with people you totally, totally trust. If you are going to be nude around someone tell them you feel really embarrassed but don't want to feel embarrassed. Your vagina is NOT weird! If I move a certain way my lips will stick out too. It sounds weird but I like the feeling of getting some air. You're normal. Don 't fret it.

  • Being comfortable naked is all about accepting your body for what it is and finding yourself beautiful. No matter what you might think is imperfect about your body, I'm sure your partner will find you beautiful and he will absolutely love your body if he senses that you're confident about showing it. I'm not saying that I walk around naked in front of strangers, but I never had any problem being nude around girlfriends I've had and I'm not saying that because I think I'm this amazing hottie, it's just because I've learned to accept and be proud of my body. So even though I don't have a perfect body, my girlfriend could sense that I wasn't insecure about it and it made her want me more actually.

  • Um... you are you. Your body is unique. You don't have to compare it to others.

    Be with someone you love and trust and take it slow. Maybe go for a swim in a bikini first. Then let him feel under your clothes another time. And do the same to him. And relax and have fun.

    • What about saggy?

    • Um, saggy... there will be no saggy in the swimming pool!

    • soggy swim with a saggy suit in a sucky swamp and a succulent seductress? well maybe not...?

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  • its normal to be different. every person is like a snowflake =]

    also, when it comes time to sex, if you're having thoughts such as "im embarrassed to be nude in front of him," then you're not ready to have sex with someone. you're not ready to give your body to your loved one, or receive his.

  • I would love to see you completely nude.

  • Yeah you need to practice being naked.

    Try getting naked and masturbating until it feels 'normal' and you do not feel any issues being in this state.

    I was lucky I never had this problem because when I lost my virginity the girl I did it with said that 'your body is fine' so I am comfortable being naked around chicks now.

  • Your vagina is normal and guys don't care if it looks like that. A vagina is a vagina... you're fine.

    As for your title question... you just do it.

  • Some men do like it some of the guys one here are pricks. My fiancé love its .It's completely normal and there's nothing wrong. I guess it would just depend on the guy but some people just leave comments because they like to have someone to be a d*** to.

  • lol my lips and clit stick out. My clit sticks out from between my lips so you can see it kind of when I'm just standing up. It just barely sticks out but I notice it. it took me months of being sexually involved with my partner to really let him see me naked. Id always cover myself up before and right after. You just get comfortable with someone. My fiancé told me I was beautiful and had a sexy body he didn't understand why id cover myself. I've always been a little self conscious I used to have weight problems and got picked on and stuff but id lost a lot a weight and still felt icky. Sometimes ill still wear a tank top and refuse to take it off.

    anyway its really just about getting to know someone and getting comfortable with them. by the way your vagina is fine lol :).

  • You get comfortable when you trust somebody enough to know they won't make fun of you and with practice. You're normal. I've been looking at pictures and videos of naked women for at least 15 years, had a few girlfriends, and go to strip clubs once a year if I'm single and there are lots of women with inner labia that stick out or even hang out. I'm guessing half of the women out there look similar to you down there.

  • outtie vaginas are not attractive and are not preferred so just suck it up and do it

    • Suck it up and do what? I can't help the way my vagina is, it just went that way as I turned into a woman. It used to be an innie when I was a child. Why did mine change and other womans stay the same as their childhood innie vagina? As I got pubic hair the lips just grew. I didn't like it though.

    • I mean suck it up as in there's nothing you can do so get used to it

    • I don't have to get used to it, if my vaginas considered to be ugly then I can have surgery to fix it. But I probably won't do that. I just won't have sex.

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  • Nope its perfectly normal, and a good way to become comfortable about being nude in front of your partner is by learning how to be comfortable nude in general. Walk around your house naked, find random excuses to be naked, or don't be afraid to look at yourself naked in the mirror. Nudity is a normal, healthy part of being human. There is nothing to be ashamed of :).

  • nope, that kind of vagina is pretty common. it's not easy comfortable being nude in front of someone. you need to really trust the person with yourself. but after you do it, it's this amazing feeling, like that person knows you just a bit more than anyone else :)

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